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RE: Sexual Consent Cards - 2/26/2016 7:16:07 AM

Bhruic

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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

Then what's the point?

If you think of it as something that will stop consent violations, it won't... but as others have pointed out, it may well be a good ice breaker for people who have difficulty with the subject, to get them talking, or at least thinking about consent issues.

In fact, maybe another good idea for a card would be just a sort of cheat sheet for talking about consent... with sample questions and answer forms to get the conversation started?

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RE: Sexual Consent Cards - 2/26/2016 7:25:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: Commonplace

So I'm a first time user of this space. I abide by all the space rules and I use this card as it's meant to be used. I clearly explain what I want the other person to do, check all of the boxes, sign on the dotted line.

And this other person chooses to do something outside of all of this. Then what?

How does what I do/say/sign relate to the choices of the other person?

What would happen when I brought this card to you & tell you that X happened which was explicitly ticked and signed off as being a no?
Do you call the police and report the crime?

Consent violations should be handled the same way as they are handled with people who have strictly verbal agreements. How would you expect the matter to be handled if you had verbally negotiated a scene with someone who then violated what you had agreed to?

You should have the same expectation here.

As far as how what you want relates to the choices of the other person, it has everything to do with it. The whole purpose of negotiation is establishing what you both agree on.

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RE: Sexual Consent Cards - 2/26/2016 8:32:20 AM

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i like the idea of a card o help the les forward folks iniiate the topic for discussion much like having issues o ask he dr writen down before hand

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