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RE: What does an honorable man do if he is not sexually... - 2/5/2016 1:43:47 AM   
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I disagree with your interpretation of my question. It's not "If you love me, you'll do __". It's literally, "What is your more important? Your wife or your sexual desire"? Based on this answer, a decision can and perhaps should be made.


Okay, replace "Dominant" with "gay", would you ask him what's more important? Would you still suggest that if his wife is more important that giving up who he is would work?


Absolutely, yes. Instead of "gay", I'd just say "What is more important? Your S/O or your sexual desire?" From there, work and progress can be made.

I am not suggesting "giving up who he is". I've never said that. Instead, I asked for a clarity of his priorities to help him come to a decision.

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RE: What does an honorable man do if he is not sexually... - 2/5/2016 3:15:42 AM   
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Absolutely, yes. Instead of "gay", I'd just say "What is more important? Your S/O or your sexual desire?" From there, work and progress can be made.

Actually, it's quite interesting. I mean, we have real situations like that here. Man married, with kids, family and then indulge in his gay sexuality closetly until wife finds out. That's practically what wives around here say. "Me or your sexual desire for men?" And many of these gay men chose their family.

And it's not only sex. There was one amazing story about a man who claims his straight but just enjoy dressing as a woman. Wife accepted that. Accepted that, he will always dress as woman in drag, when they go out for normal public activities, like shopping or whatever. That was his kink I guess. It's amazing she can accept this and introduce him as her husband. That's love to me.

Beyond sex, I don't think I can deal with that either.


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RE: What does an honorable man do if he is not sexually... - 2/5/2016 4:33:11 AM   
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Greta you said when the guy can't get it up then what?
It's called Cialis. good stuff by the way.

Does it work for 90 yr olds? And will he have the strength and stamina to bang at that age? haha! I don't know! I mean, I hate being on top too!

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The support mentally, emotionally, physically too if needed.

I was just thinking mental and emotional support can be fulfilled by platonic friends you have. But it's the physical support that needs to be fulfilled by the spouse. That's why sex still ranks tops.
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Raising children, trying to compromise, etc.

I've officially given up on children. I had 3 major men who wanted kids with me, and I've turned it all down, I've missed my boat. I mean the problem was, when they wanted it, I was not ready. I always felt like I needed to be much older and wiser before having the maturity for kids. But when older and wiser came, the right guy was not there. So I have no kids in the equation of my future man now. Unless he comes with kids. That would be perfect for me too!

I wish physical intimacy isn't like on the top of the list for me, but it really really is. I can get emotional support and mental support, as a single person, I get plenty of that from platonic people around me. Especially these days, everyone is just a text message or phone call away. It's the ability to have physical intimacy every single night and morning that I am missing.


You gave me a belly laugh! Look me up in 30 to 40 years and I'll tell you if cialis works with 90 year olds.
Not everyone is meant to be a mother, or in the cards for them. Not saying you won't be a mother you might get to help guide and raise children. If not, enjoy your freedom!!!!!!! Travel the world! The world is your oyster.
Children are tons of work and it can be very exhausting. It can be beautiful too but once you have children your life is never completely yours again and life is changed drastically.
Now if your rich and have lots of help, that might be easier.

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RE: What does an honorable man do if he is not sexually... - 2/5/2016 7:37:47 AM   
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I disagree with your interpretation of my question. It's not "If you love me, you'll do __". It's literally, "What is your more important? Your wife or your sexual desire"? Based on this answer, a decision can and perhaps should be made.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Okay, replace "Dominant" with "gay", would you ask him what's more important? Would you still suggest that if his wife is more important that giving up who he is would work?


Absolutely, yes. Instead of "gay", I'd just say "What is more important? Your S/O or your sexual desire?" From there, work and progress can be made.

I am not suggesting "giving up who he is". I've never said that. Instead, I asked for a clarity of his priorities to help him come to a decision.


I think what Oside girl means, isn't "what if he's gay with a gay partner" but "what if he figured out he was gay (instead of dominant) after marrying her"?

If he was a gay man, married to a straight woman, would you still as him if his wife, or his sexual desires, are more important, thereby implying that his sexual desires is something he ought to be able to just turn off?

He's discovered, sadly after marrying her, that he is fundamentally sexually incompatible with her. Implying that he could somehow turn off his sexual desires, and be content with that for the next 60 years, is ludicrous in my book. Sexuality doesn't work that way. If they're incompatible enough so that she can't meet him halfway, at the same time he's meeting her halfway (and I'm not saying that she should be able to, she might not be able to do so either, because of her own sexuality) then they're doomed.
Even if they can meet each other halfway, it might very well not be enough, for either of them.





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