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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 4:51:03 PM   
mousekabob


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ORIGINAL: roboslavedog

I am curious though.... please enlighten me Ladies.... what kind of initial statements in a message make you click READ instead of DELETE UNREAD?


When Master wrote to me, I read his emails and responded to him because he read what I wrote in the forums here and wanted to talk about what I wrote. He was polite, he had something to say that was intelligent. He didn't try to act dominant, didn't talk about sex, bdsm, d/s or kink. He didn't even talk about himself. We simply talked about what I wrote on the forums and about our lives in general.

He also didn't get pissed off when I didn't answer him right away. Hell, there were times when we went days or longer without ever talking. We just simply conversed like two normal human beings on the planet. It's REALLY not that hard.

Don't over-complicate things and don't act like the creepy guy staring in the window.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 4:57:20 PM   
Danemora


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Status: offline 		Look, in all seriousness...

You just need to learn to let it go and try not to let the fact that some random stranger didnt reply to your message get you this twisted up. You sound like you are new to this because you seem a bit...eager...to start something. Its okay if you are new, but dont let overeagerness let something like some random stranger's lack of response let you get this highly worked up. To be honest, your messages might not have even gone to actual women anyway. So why let all that get you twisted like this?

It truly does take time to find someone. Its not just Domme meets sub and *boom* everything happens. It takes quite a bit of patience in general to try to find a compatible person. It takes monsterous amounts of patience to try to find someone online.

In the meantime, growing thicker skin and not taking whatever happens on the profile side so deeply personally will honestly serve you very well. Not everyone over there is as serious about finding someone as you are.

< Message edited by Danemora -- 5/9/2016 4:59:22 PM >

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 4:59:49 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Dominant women (and men) would like to portray the pastiche that should life present an issue they might have at least two brain cells to rub together. This is not a good thing for you to say.

They would not with their one brain cell seek to control a zero brain celler (in the main).

While true enough in the land of the blind the one-eyed man is king, it is still an advanced organ of some complexity, and we as humans are not in the habit of comparing ourselves (in non-pejorative senses) to amoeba.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 5:12:33 PM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

FUCK YOU YOU FAT WHORE, YOU ARE A FAKE, YOU ARE NOT A DOMINATE, GET THE FUCK OFF THIS SIGHT!!!........

And because some men react in this way, better assume that all men are morons?




It's not some men....it's most men.

I always find it interesting that men like blaming the women for how other men taught us to behave. We have learned that 90% of the men will abuse us if we reply. But, yet....I don't see you calling out the guys that act like assholes. Only the women that choose avoid potential interactions with those assholes.

I'm really completely astonished. I sincerely taught it was a minority, and that's the reason why I didn't call out the guys that act like assholes.

90%... it's the first time in my life I feel ashamed to be a man.

This information completely changes my viewpoints.

I will never blame the women for behaving like so many men have taught them. With 90% assholes, it is fully normal that women treat me too like an asshole, as the probability is very high.

This is a very good reason for a lady to not reply to a message from a guy who doesn't interest her. I will no longer be upset by "deleted unread".

Thank you very, very much for this precious information.


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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 5:21:04 PM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: Danemora

Look, in all seriousness...

You just need to learn to let it go and try not to let the fact that some random stranger didnt reply to your message get you this twisted up. You sound like you are new to this because you seem a bit...eager...to start something. Its okay if you are new, but dont let overeagerness let something like some random stranger's lack of response let you get this highly worked up. To be honest, your messages might not have even gone to actual women anyway. So why let all that get you twisted like this?

It truly does take time to find someone. Its not just Domme meets sub and *boom* everything happens. It takes quite a bit of patience in general to try to find a compatible person. It takes monsterous amounts of patience to try to find someone online.

In the meantime, growing thicker skin and not taking whatever happens on the profile side so deeply personally will honestly serve you very well. Not everyone over there is as serious about finding someone as you are.

Thank you very much, lady. I consider your message to comprise very worthful advice for me, which I have to apply in practice.

Once again: thank you very much for having been so nice to me.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 6:00:13 PM   
ThatDizzyChick


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

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I already realized that, even at my age, I can learn a lot from you

I know dear, the list of things you can learn from me goes on and on.

If I only would have you as my teacher... and no, honestly, I'm not fishing for something else.


Oh I doubt you'd enjoy learning most of what I have to teach you. You sure as fuck haven't enjoyed what I have told you in this thread.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 6:02:43 PM   
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How "upset" can a guy be to get a rejection note from someone in India whom he sent a "wanna fuck" message to?

You'd be surprised, you really would.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 6:25:17 PM   
HoneyBears


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ORIGINAL: QualityFirst

I will never blame the women for behaving like so many men have taught them. With 90% assholes, it is fully normal that women treat me too like an asshole, as the probability is very high.

This is a very good reason for a lady to not reply to a message from a guy who doesn't interest her. I will no longer be upset by "deleted unread".

Thank you very, very much for this precious information.

Actually, they are 90% assholes in assorted ways, not always with a nasty, belligerent response. Most either get argumentative and demanding with their masculine logic that even if they do not fit 4 out of 5 must-have requirements, or if they do fall into 4 out of 5 deal-breakers which make them ineligible for consideration, that a questionable 20% along with feeble wishy-washy backpedaling on 1-2 other undesirable qualities or situational circumstances should somehow still entitle them in their minds to getting their foot in the door.

As a couple not looking and not interested in conducting on-line, remote interactions with random Internet strangers, we have been uncannily fortunate in not having to deal with a bunch of nonsense.

I will defer to some comments my domme cousin has made based on her site experiences.

She has a key word or key words in her profile which must be contained in any contact message, to ensure that her profile was read or at the very least skimmed down to the bottom. (She does, however, acknowledge messages which do contain them, or she used to take the time to do so.)
Some dommes may indicate how they wish to be addressed, or what they do NOT wish to be addressed as, instead (Mistress, Goddess, Superior Lady, etc.) because many of us find certain honorifics objectionable when used casually (as in, I'm not your Mistress and only my sub gets to call me this).

According to feminine logic, if you are too lazy to do your homework and/or cannot follow a simple instruction, then you are not a suitable candidate for consideration. Sub or no sub.

-- Blatantly incompatible kink or incompatible fetish in screen name. Calling oneself sissyCDanalslut, cuckoldme, Chastity4ever, HumiliateThisLowlyWorm, patheticslavedog will automatically disqualify a sub because of being unappealing to her kink-wise, fetish-wise, or mindset-wise.

-- Blatantly incompatible kink/fetish in pictures and/or objectionable pictures perceived to be in bad taste (Femdom porn-contaminated, "do-me"-subness).

-- Just getting your message routed into the Bulk Mail folder could be an automatic disqualifier due to being out of age range or due to location undesirability, wrong orientation, wrong gender, etc. (subjectively wrong, not wrong in general).

-- Form letter, obviously not a personalized message, and therefore subject to be treated as discardable spam.

-- Any other reason that your green stats do not line up with what she is seeking in a partner, as a matter of preference.

Lisa

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 10:27:50 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: crumpets


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
It's not some men....it's most men.


I find that hard to believe it's "most" men since most men are shooting left and right, at targets 1,000 miles away, at ages 18 to 99, and for women seeking anything (even other women).

How "upset" can a guy be to get a rejection note from someone in India whom he sent a "wanna fuck" message to?

Me?

As a test of your theory, I just sent the same "wanna fuck" missive to EVERY SINGLE WOMAN I find within a 100 mile radius that fits my search criteria, as shown below, and I didn't receive a single rejection letter as a result!

:)

HINT: jk

I've been amazed how upset some guy that emails a woman whose profile says "just here for forums" can get at a "no, thank you"

I will say that M's uncle from Wisconsin would come into to town. He'd go out to a bar and hit up women by saying "Hi, I'm Bill from Wisconsin. I'm going home tomorrow. Wanna fuck?" We once joked with him that he must get slapped alot. His response was, "if you get slapped 10 times and laid on the 11th, isn't it worth it?"

So, yeah....Uncle Bill is more mature than most of the guys on this site....

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 11:20:15 PM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail
They would not with their one brain cell seek to control a zero brain celler (in the main).


I wonder how many people here know the most basic statement about the brain, which is that it takes at a bare minimum, TWO nerve cells to make a synapse?



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RE: Deleted unread - 5/9/2016 11:40:16 PM   
crumpets


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I hope people realize that "one brain cell" wouldn't even get you a functional synapse ... (two is the bare minimum)...


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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 2:42:25 AM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick


Oh I doubt you'd enjoy learning most of what I have to teach you. You sure as fuck haven't enjoyed what I have told you in this thread.

I have to admit that, at first in this thread, with respect to your messages, I behaved like a snot-nosed little bastard. But in the meantime, I have learnt to sincerely appreciate you and that, if you write something, it is in my interest to keep my mouth shut and to heed what you write.

Besides, yes, even for a submissive man like me, it's not always enjoyable to be put in his place in public by a woman. But I'm thankful to you that you didn't care about that and that you continued to teach me very valuable things. That's why I would like to have you as my teacher.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 2:46:48 AM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: crumpets


I wonder how many people here know the most basic statement about the brain, which is that it takes at a bare minimum, TWO nerve cells to make a synapse?

Oh my dear... saying that one has only one brain cell is a phraseology, not a biology course.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 3:24:32 AM   
LilJuly76


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Status: offline 		well put, patience is a virtue, the op needs more of that. It seems more people are interested in hitting the sheets with someone than actually taking the time to find that someone they may connect with.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 4:04:44 AM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: HoneyBears


According to feminine logic, if you are too lazy to do your homework and/or cannot follow a simple instruction, then you are not a suitable candidate for consideration.

I'm sad to see that you refer to feminine logic in a 100% inappropriate context.

The term feminine logic is used to mean logic that, as opposed to formal logic, is incorrect, because it doesn't work. If I use incorrect logic in a computer program, it doesn't generate correct results. The message #128 on page 7 of this thread from MissKatja was a very clear example of incorrect logic. In other circumstances, it may be somewhat more difficult to prove that a certain logic is incorrect.

The term is also used to refer to an inappropriate mix of intelligence and emotions. If I want to show a lady that I like her, it would not be a good idea to try this with higher mathematics. Conversely, to calculate the statics of a bridge, emotions are not very useful to an engineer. Because in general, many women (but not all) tend to put not enough intelligence and too much emotions in the mix, the term feminine logic is used to refer to this phenomen. However, in general, most men (but not all) tend to put not enough emotions and too much intelligence in the mix.

Why is incorrect logic often referred to by feminine logic, whereas incorrect logic is abslutely not typical for women? It often is just one more form of stupid male sexism. For other men, like me, it has nothing to do with sexism, but it is a softer way (feminine = something I may be unable to understand as a man) to refer to an incorrect logic.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 4:21:03 AM   
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And that, is why your claims of respecting women are complete and utter bullshit.

< Message edited by ThatDizzyChick -- 5/10/2016 4:22:21 AM >

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 4:57:14 AM   
LilJuly76


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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 7:20:33 AM   
QualityFirst


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick


And that, is why your claims of respecting women are complete and utter bullshit.

May I ask you for some explanation please? I told how the term feminine logic is used, not my opinion about it.

Thank you in advance.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 7:23:56 AM   
QualityFirst


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he clearly does not know anything about women at all

You clearly very well know how to degrade a man and destroy his self-esteem. If you wanted to hurt me, you have succeeded. However, if this is what you think about me, you must have good reasons to do so.

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RE: Deleted unread - 5/10/2016 7:44:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		Qualityfirst posted: ..."The term feminine logic is used to mean logic that, as opposed to formal logic, is incorrect, because it doesn't work. If I use incorrect logic in a computer program, it doesn't generate correct results."

Off topic, but your term "Feminine Logic," which could also be considered intuitive processing, is not why a computer generates incorrect results, it is because the machine and/or programmer have failed to bridge the intuitive and logical gap allowing a machine to not just process data but to allow it to learn and intuit often conflicting or seemingly circular logic based off intuition etc.

Using a term like Femine Logic, does in fact show that you do not understand women. It isn't an insult, it just means you haven't accepted that intuitive processing doesn't take the same synaptic processing path as a purely logical mathematical processor would.


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