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Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 11:12:30 AM   
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RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 11:34:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		"BDSM" by definition of the letters does NOT necessarilly require sex to be involved.

What a naive question!

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RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 11:53:07 AM   
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"BDSM" by definition of the letters does NOT necessarilly require sex to be involved.

What a naive question!


If that's so, then people who do BDSM would do it equally as much with men and women and transsexuals alike.

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RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:17:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

"BDSM" by definition of the letters does NOT necessarilly require sex to be involved.

What a naive question!


If that's so, then people who do BDSM would do it equally as much with men and women and transsexuals alike.


Some don't care. My ex playmate for instance; if it breaths and will have him then it turns out he'll play with it.

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RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:27:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1

"BDSM" by definition of the letters does NOT necessarilly require sex to be involved.

What a naive question!


If that's so, then people who do BDSM would do it equally as much with men and women and transsexuals alike.

If there isn't a sexual element to the activity, there's no reason why they shouldn't.

  • Bondage
  • Discipline
  • Sadism
  • Masochism

    No reference to sex or sexuality.
    In its crudest and most literal sense, there is no sex involved and doesn't have to be.


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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:33:57 PM   
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    What a naive question!

    If someone is attempting to learn something shouldn't they be encouraged instead of ridiculed?

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:38:00 PM   
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    If that's so, then people who do BDSM would do it equally as much with men and women and transsexuals alike.

    I know lots of people IRL who play with others non sexually, regardless of gender or orientation.

    I know lots of others, like myself, who do practice it solely within a sexual context.

    Anybody who tries to say that it has to be either way is ignorant.


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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:53:23 PM   
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    Status: offline     		WaywardSoul has it nailed.
    For a lot of people BDSM play is a ritualised substitute for sex, but equally a lot of very kinky people indeed see all the stuff with whips and rubber and bondage as form of foreplay to get themselves fired up first. It isn't an either/or question, for the simple reason that different people get into this stuff for different reasons, and with different ends in mind.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 12:57:27 PM   
    freedomdwarf1


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    ORIGINAL: CaptR


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    What a naive question!

    If someone is attempting to learn something shouldn't they be encouraged instead of ridiculed?


    I'm not ridiculing OP.
    They only had to look up the definition of what BDSM is to find the answer.

    Perhaps they should have asked a slightly different question??

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 1:29:33 PM   
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    Status: offline     		thanking you for spelling it out to the OP, he keeps sending me messages and I'm getting frustrated because he's not getting it. I swear I would make a lousy teacher.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 1:31:24 PM   
    LilJuly76


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    Status: offline     		the erotic feeling I get with a great S & M session not only fixes the kinks in my back but holy crap subspace turns me on to no ends, nothing can compare, chocolate nor penises.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 1:32:36 PM   
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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 3:44:42 PM   
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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 4:17:03 PM   
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    Status: offline     		For some people it does, for others it doesn't. You get to decide for yourself what you need.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 6:47:58 PM   
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    Status: offline     		For me yes, for others no. I cannot answer your poll because the selections are too limited.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 7:36:21 PM   
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    Status: offline     		It does not require sex, as many kinks does not require sex. But you're gonna have to find the ones who doesn't require sex.

    For me, the whole point of BDSM is to make sex even more fun and interesting and to intensify my orgasms. So BDSM is all sex to me for sure!

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 7:45:48 PM   
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    For me, the whole point of BDSM is to make sex even more fun and interesting and to intensify my orgasms. So BDSM is all sex to me for sure!

    I concur.

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 8:03:37 PM   
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    Does BDSM require "sex?"


    It's the wording of the question, Can it be a part of BDSM? Yes, Required: No

    You may find some reading helpful, Here is a place to start; http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/ds_guide.html

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 9:59:32 PM   
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    Status: offline     		Most BDSM has sexual elements or motivations... but it does not require the 'sex act'. In fact, for Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism to be a paraphilia, it is has a sexual content.

    Paraphilia (also known as sexual perversion and sexual deviation) is the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, or individuals

    Sadism is the sexual or social pleasure or gratification in the infliction of pain and suffering upon another person.

    Masochism, the counterpart of sadism, is the sexual pleasure or gratification of having pain or suffering inflicted upon the self, often consisting of sexual fantasies or urges for being beaten, humiliated, bound, tortured, or otherwise made to suffer, either as an enhancement to or a substitute for sexual pleasure

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    RE: Does BDSM require "sex?" - 5/19/2016 10:34:16 PM   
    verbatimguy


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    ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1


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    What a naive question!

    If someone is attempting to learn something shouldn't they be encouraged instead of ridiculed?


    I'm not ridiculing OP.
    They only had to look up the definition of what BDSM is to find the answer.

    Perhaps they should have asked a slightly different question??


    I know of people IRL who sexualize love dolls, or cows, or horses, but MOST people only have a sexual component of their lives with PEOPLE.

    I know of people IRL who sexualize any type of people, whether transgender, male, or female but MOST people sexualize the opposite sex or if they are gay, the same sex or if they are bi, both sexes and it stays that way for most of their lifetime so that we can assume it's constant for this discussion.

    Given that the sexuality is constant, my ASSUMPTION is that their BDSM partner fits that constant.
    If that is at all true, then BDSM 'is" sexual.

    It's just sexual in another form.
    For you to say otherwise means either I don't understand BDSM, or you don't.

    Or, that it is only sexual for me and not for others.

    For me, BDSM is absolutely nothing if it's with a rock or a tree or a hole in the ground or a horse or a man or a transgender person.
    So it's ALL about sex.

    One specific sex.

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