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LilJuly76 -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 12:19:24 PM)

he caught it over seas somewhere Africa or South America. When he came back to the States he didn't tell anyone and started spreading it around, the Montreal girl was the first one to get it from him, Lara Roxx I think her name was, I mean her porn name.



catize -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 1:47:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods

Maybe he had more of a sex life within his marriage before the herpes thing? We only have his word that he caught it from his wife, after all.

Judgmental much?

No wonder people with STD's are reluctant to proclaim their status!



needlesandpins -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 2:24:48 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Rush30

My question didn't have anything to do with herpes. But to satisfy your assumption, i caught my herpes from my wife to whom I've been married to for over 20 years, and she had it before we were married, and I knew about her having herpes after our 2nd date.



I wouldn't touch you on both counts.

I wouldn't touch any attached guy, and it seriously pisses me off, having been the woman portrayed as 'knowing all about it' when not, when I see this in profiles. When I was with my ex ALL women had to ask MY permission to play with him first. If they didn't get my permission they didn't get to play, that was the rule.

He cheated by going behind my back, and told the piece of crap that I wouldn't care.

I had an agreement with my playmate too that he also cheated on. Guys tend to say whatever it takes to get a fuck, so no, I don't trust that the wife just knows, and is happy about that.

Needles



needlesandpins -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 2:31:25 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: WhoreMods

Ah, you thought it was more somebody who solicits?


Admittedly, 'solicitor' is quite a stupid word, when you think about it.


May be not. Whoring themselves out, doing questionable things that they probably shouldn't feel great about for money ... Not necessarily much difference.

Needles



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 2:49:49 PM)

@OP--too many responses to read but got the gist. 1st -Oside was right women tend to look for men who could become relationships. Even when we are NOT looking for anything serious, most women want the option left open. I have been divorced 4yrs and, even when I was looking just for a FWB thing (because life was just too chaotic to try to have a relationship), I turned down a couple of men in open relationships (even the guy with the wife who had a GF and was open to going to dinner on double dates!!).

What men don't understand is that for many women, it is NOT having you physically available, it is knowing that you are emotionally available...Sorry...but most men have trouble keeping up on that side even when they have only ONE partner.

The herpes thing...kudos for being so upfront that women know before they contact you (many men would wait until they start dating and not bring it up until they are at the point of it becoming physical)...but it IS going to be "strike 2" to most women. Even those who are extremely careful will worry about the possible "uh oh" and figure better saf than sorry.



Aquanerd1983 -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 5:39:08 PM)

There are plenty of women who prefer relationships with married men. My Daddy's other sub is one. They can't be that hard to find.



DesFIP -> RE: Married men (9/4/2016 5:48:01 PM)

My line in the sand is if my car breaks down late at night, would he come get me and drive me home. Opie obviously wouldn't.

He's married, he's not available to help root tiller the garden. He's not available to help put a knock down piece of furniture together, nor to go to Ikea and wrestle the box into the car.

The only thing he's available for is for you to spend money buying toys to use on him and get him off.

Nothing there to interest anyone else.

Suggestion: hire a pro-domme.



MariaB -> RE: Married men (9/5/2016 5:02:03 AM)


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Well, that's why I think the supposition about swingers being drawn to the fetish scene by the AIDS scare is a perceptive one. There's a lot of people who view S&M as a substitute for sex, rather than sex itself.

(As far as the porn thing goes, dickheads like this bloke you're on about aside, a porn star is a lot less likely to be carrying anything nasty than most. The precautions that are taken even for the internet stuff are pretty rigorous.)


That’s questionable. There was an incident a few months back where a porn star guy showed up negative on his routine HIV test. He was in fact positive and went on to infect two other people before being re-tested as positive.

Up until now the porn industry has allowed a 14 day window before re-testing, the problem with that is, the HIV virus doesn’t show up on a test for at least 14 days. This means a person can contract HIV on day one, be tested 13 days later and show up negative. He could then be used for films on a daily basis for the next 15 days before the alarm bells go off.

Testing does not prevent HIV.



Awareness -> RE: Married men (9/5/2016 6:58:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Rush30

@osidegirl I posted another question in the health page about herpes. I try to address the issues of engaging in sexual activists with someone based on the assumption that they are STI free just because they say so.
Your mistake is presuming you're dealing with adults on this message-board. You're not - the vast majority are petty little Walter Mittys with delusions of competence.

Presume the worst of them - it's pretty much what you're going to get.



MariaB -> RE: Married men (9/5/2016 8:13:24 AM)

Someone in an open marriage is probably going to attract someone in an open marriage because neither are looking for a primary partner.

Someone with herpes is probably going to attract someone else with herpes because both know that they can’t infect one another.

There is someone for everyone.



OsideGirl -> RE: Married men (9/5/2016 4:47:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aquanerd1983

There are plenty of women who prefer relationships with married men. My Daddy's other sub is one. They can't be that hard to find.

There aren't a lot of women would be willing to have a casual sex relationship with someone that has herpes. Even if the chance is only 1%, those women have lot of men to choose from, and most will choose men without incurable STDs.



Hernando -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 5:57:38 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
There aren't a lot of women would be willing to have a casual sex relationship with someone that has herpes. Even if the chance is only 1%, those women have lot of men to choose from, and most will choose men without incurable STDs.


How common is genital herpes?

Genital herpes is common in the United States. In the United States, about one out of every six people aged 14 to 49 years have genital herpes.

Source: CDC

Add that to the multitude of your other hard limits and I see the odds are not really in favour of you :)



Greta75 -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 6:16:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Hernando
How common is genital herpes?

Genital herpes is common in the United States. In the United States, about one out of every six people aged 14 to 49 years have genital herpes.

Source: CDC

Add that to the multitude of your other hard limits and I see the odds are not really in favour of you :)

Wow, are you seriously a male trying to say that, women will have little options left IF they refuse to screw men who are married and who have genital herpes?




freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 6:43:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Greta75
Wow, are you seriously a male trying to say that, women will have little options left IF they refuse to screw men who are married and who have genital herpes?

Many women don't want the added complication or baggage of married men.
And even less will want to screw around with a man with herpes.

Is that so hard to get to grips with Greta?
It's really a no-brainer.




Greta75 -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 6:57:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: freedomdwarf1


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ORIGINAL: Greta75
Wow, are you seriously a male trying to say that, women will have little options left IF they refuse to screw men who are married and who have genital herpes?

Many women don't want the added complication or baggage of married men.
And even less will want to screw around with a man with herpes.

Is that so hard to get to grips with Greta?
It's really a no-brainer.



It's really not a no brainer why the person I was replying to was suggesting that women should settle for married men with herpes.
If you support his point of view too. WOW! Just WOW!



freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 7:08:38 AM)

Try re-reading what was written because I didn't get it the same way that you did.

I read it as he being limited.
You seem to think it is suggesting women should accept married men and herpes.
It wouldn't be the first time you've read somethng wrongly or completely misinterpreted what was written.



OsideGirl -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 10:51:00 AM)


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Try re-reading what was written because I didn't get it the same way that you did.


I think it's confusing because he quoted me - so it looks like he's saying that to me.



needlesandpins -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 11:36:47 AM)

FR

What I know is that I don't care how common, or rare it is, I don't have it and I don't want it. People in my family get cold sores, another strain of the virus, but can cause issues down below too. Now I don't get those either, so if I'm not willing to kiss my family Hi, and Goodbye when they are infectious, WTF would I put myself at risk with a stranger that only wants a self gratification toy on the side on his terms only. Plus I've seen the photos of that nasty to know it's not getting anywhere near me!

I've had enough of only being an option. I may not want the whole nine yards, but I most certainly want to be the priority.

Needles



smartsub10 -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 11:41:57 AM)


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ORIGINAL: catize

Let's accept you are telling the truth about your spouse being OK with your extramarital fun. '
You need to realize that the 'other woman' gets the short end of the stick. Playtime will always be on your schedule, never hers. She can only call you when you say it's OK. She's not really a part of your life, she will be compartmentalized. What happens if your wife changes her mind?
It is a good chance the arrangement will turn into a train wreck.
Not many woman willing to put up with being second or on-the-side!


You read my mind. Thanks for saving me keystrokes, catize. :)



ThatDizzyChick -> RE: Married men (9/6/2016 12:18:41 PM)

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Try re-reading what was written

Physician, heal thyself



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