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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 12:24:19 PM   
ohthat1percent


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Status: offline 		You have no clue what I am saying --

"'This, I do agree with. Not because I don't think dissenting opinions are valuable, but if she can't hack it or it changes her world, again, maybe she's not ready."

You obviously are refusing to understand that what you just agreed with was the WHOLE POINT of my comment to her that was copied and pasted by another person out of context that you threw a kaniption fit about.

"Oh for crying out loud" -- tends to be a statement that one can interpret as -- you aren't happy lol


All in all, next time, find out if you are interpreting a quote incorrectly before determining it is WRONG lol, especially when you come back and agree with the original context in which the quoted sentence was made.



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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 12:40:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Chaska


Do not ask the 1D mentality to define who you are. Go to the 3D world find and define yourself, have I not told you this before.

You probably did. I apologize for not listening. My 3D world is a bit over complicated right now.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 12:41:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Alecta

Submission, is demonstrated in defining moments, it doesn't have to be constant. But yes. That's exactly my point. If you're just allowing a situation because it works for you and not giving in to one that you are not otherwise ok with, you're just coasting and not submitting. Not to say that's wrong per say, just that it isn't submitting.


I've always maintained that it's easy to say you're submissive when it's things you like, but the rubber hits the road when you get to thing that you don't want to do, that make you uncomfortable or don't like.

What I'm seeing from the OP is that she likes the fantasy of being submissive, but has issues with actually doing it. She contradicted herself completely in the length of one post:

quote:



ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

To further complicate things I took the bdsm.org test at the beginning of my journey and several times since, and my percentage of submissive goes up and up. I feel I long to be submissive, would thrive on it


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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl

It's all so confusing because that mindset makes me extremely uncomfortable and I literally can't give up that much control or I get physically ill. I dropped 20 lbs in two weeks when my ex Daddy took on a second girl because I couldn't submit to the way he did it, how he conducted himself in relation to it and by trying to suppress my self and force myself to submit and agree to the new dynamic I stopped eating. It was horrible.


So, on one hand, she thinks she would thrive on being submissive and on the other hand, gets physically sick when giving up control.

I'll also agree with LP - I didn't see whole lot of submission coming from her in regards to how she handled her D/s relationship. (But we only have her behavior here to judge)

My honest opinion is that until she realistically figures out what it is that works for her - she's going to keep having problems within her D/s relationships. I would say that she needs to figure that out before jumping head first again.


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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 1:41:12 PM   
Chaska


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Status: offline 		Step down off that high horse. Go see a proctologist and have that stick removed from your ares. My comment had fuk all
to do with you. You're dismissed < 1%

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 1:42:11 PM   
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Dominants are happy when things go according to their wishes.

Funnily enough the same goes for submissives, and for vanillas as well. Maybe you would all do better to stop trying to define what a submissive is for everybody else.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 1:44:23 PM   
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Submitting is giving in unconditionally.

Not for everybody it isn't. In fact MOST submissives have limits and negotiate the degree of control which their dominant will have over them.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 1:50:10 PM   
ohthat1percent


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Status: offline 		Lol and chaska- my comment was not to you. So you can apologize whenever. I keep forgetting I need to put the nick I'm replying too as fr makes people think you are replying to them.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 2:00:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since the mistake was yours in not clarifying, then it's you that owes the apology.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 2:02:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent

You have no clue what I am saying --

"'This, I do agree with. Not because I don't think dissenting opinions are valuable, but if she can't hack it or it changes her world, again, maybe she's not ready."

You obviously are refusing to understand that what you just agreed with was the WHOLE POINT of my comment to her that was copied and pasted by another person out of context that you threw a kaniption fit about.

"Oh for crying out loud" -- tends to be a statement that one can interpret as -- you aren't happy lol


All in all, next time, find out if you are interpreting a quote incorrectly before determining it is WRONG lol, especially when you come back and agree with the original context in which the quoted sentence was made.


"For crying out loud" also tends to be a statement of "oh no, not this again".

Would I be happy with an s-type trying to run the show... Not being my primary partner, etc, etc? No. Can't say that I would. Most secondary partners just don't have that place in their Dominant's life. Try to have that place *some* Dominants will tell a person they can walk out the same door they walked in. This "more <cough> Alpha than me stuff <cough> is a form of manipulation.

Not to mention, I'd get tired. The constant struggle, tug' o' war, power of will thing?

Thanks, but I'll skip. I do happen to like submission. Kind of works hand in hand with the authority thing.

If you really want to see me throw a kaniption fit, it might be that disagreement about that addition to your sig line.




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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 2:19:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick
quote:

Submitting is giving in unconditionally.

Not for everybody it isn't. In fact MOST submissives have limits and negotiate the degree of control which their dominant will have over them.


Yes dear, and that's called negotiating your relationship (or scenes), not "submitting".

quote:

Funnily enough the same goes for submissives, and for vanillas as well. Maybe you would all do better to stop trying to define what a submissive is for everybody else.


As I've said, a submissive doesn't have to be submitting all the time, and there's no shame or problem in not being a practising submissive; but if one never submits at all, one cannot consider oneself a submissive.

Replace "submit" with anything, really.

< Message edited by Alecta -- 10/9/2016 2:22:04 PM >

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 2:51:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

quote:

Submitting is giving in unconditionally.

Not for everybody it isn't. In fact MOST submissives have limits and negotiate the degree of control which their dominant will have over them.

Everyone has limits whether they realize it or not.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 4:34:51 PM   
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Yes dear, and that's called negotiating your relationship (or scenes), not "submitting".

LOL
Yes dearie, whatever you say
quote:

As I've said, a submissive doesn't have to be submitting all the time, and there's no shame or problem in not being a practising submissive; but if one never submits at all, one cannot consider oneself a submissive.

Yeah, you've said it, but that doesn't make it fact

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 4:36:17 PM   
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Everyone has limits whether they realize it or not.

Not according to Alecta, according to her submission is always and only "unconditional".

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:03:36 PM   
ohthat1percent


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Status: offline 		LadyPact, you've completely lost me -- your response to a quote of mine someone reposted out of context is what I was speaking about -- you comment was not accurate based on the actual context -- you then actually AGREED with what I was saying in and of itself, i.e, if someone can't take people being negative with regard to themselves -- then they shouldn't be posting for opinions regarding themselves to strangers online.

As for the rest of your comment -- it makes no sense to what I have said and I really have no clue what you are talking about now.

The stalker comment lol you think that applies to you? Well if you feel that way that's on you. I've actually comment regarding same on the same day I changed the signature.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:08:54 PM   
ohthat1percent


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Status: offline 		chaska, I told you the post wasn't directed at you -- your post to me was vile and uncalled for as well as very personal. Even if my post WAS directed at you -- it did not deserve your vile response. As I said, now that you are aware of the situation, you can apologize at any time. I do apologize for forgetting to post who it was for but your post was uncalled for on the whole. Now let's see if you have the integrity to admit when you are wrong.

I hope you allow me to maintain the basic respect for you as a poster -- if you don't, that's on you.



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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:29:32 PM   
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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:33:04 PM   
tamaka


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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Dominants are happy when things go according to their wishes.

Funnily enough the same goes for submissives


Yes... submissives are happy when things go according to their Dominants wishes.


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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:38:06 PM   
ohthat1percent


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ORIGINAL: tamaka

What does "That's on you" mean?


Tamaka, in this instance, if he doesn't apologize for his vile very personal attack after I have clarified my comments were not to him, then I will have no respect for him. That is his doing - not mine.

"That's on you" means the responsibility of where this goes is on them because of their choices.

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:50:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ohthat1percent


quote:

ORIGINAL: tamaka

What does "That's on you" mean?


Tamaka, in this instance, if he doesn't apologize for his vile very personal attack after I have clarified my comments were not to him, then I will have no respect for him. That is his doing - not mine.

"That's on you" means the responsibility of where this goes is on them because of their choices.


https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection


People do it all the time. It's not "on them" it's actually is them. So... i've learned to accept that i shouldn't take such attacks personally. ; )

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RE: What am I? - 10/9/2016 6:55:18 PM   
ohthat1percent


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Status: offline 		Well when he personally attacked me -- I expect an apology when its unwarranted. If it was warranted -- because I actually WAS responding to him - then okay. I tend to understand I give as good as I get and am all for that. But when its unwarranted, I expect an apology - - especially as vile as his response was -- as I would apologize if I realized I incorrectly addressed someone that was not addressing me.

And I know all about blame shifting, wrote a damn good brief against doing same in a case we won, that has gone to the supreme court and we won that.

Not sure why you want to involve yourself in this though.

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