tweakabelle
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And here is my argument about 'Do No Harm' comes into play. You don't build and promote problems (and yes, it is a problem as we can see by all the concerns there are for the well- being of those unfortunate souls who do suffer from this gender variant issue. ) If 1% of the population struggles with it i don't think the solution is to cause the remaining 99% to question whether they might have it (or in some cases... they might like to have it) too. Educating people to be compassionate and understanding is one thing. Trying to promote it as the new social standard is an entirely different thing. Saying to a boy, "It's ok to cry. Boys cry too sometimes" makes sense. Telling him, ""You're not really a boy because you cry" is something completely different and has no benefit for an indivual or for society as a whole, in the long run, imo.
It might be more helpful if you chose to apply your mantra of "Do no harm" from a position of familiarity with the issue at hand rather than a random TV report. If you were familiar with the issues or the literature, you would know that in the overwhelming majority of, almost all child TG cases, parents choose to support the child's sense of their gender because they have no other option, because all other options have been tried and failed.
Many parents report that their decision was forced on them when their child told them of their intention to mutilate their own genitals. While there are rare cases where parents try to force an inappropriate gender on their child, according to the medicos, these cases are discovered before any 'harm' is done and alternative course of treatments are offered to help the child and parent make better choices. But for almost all parents and medical professionals arriving at the point where they decide to support the child's own idea of their gender is a last resort, only considered when all other options have been tried and failed.
It is most certainly not a case of flippancy as your post implies. Parents want what is best for their children. How many parents would want or voluntarily choose a transgender lifestyle for their children? How many parents would force their children to run the risks of social ostracism, loneliness, life long medical dependency, discrimination marginalisation and outright often naked hate that many TGs endure? Most parents (who are of course heterosexual and gender normative themselves) would run a million miles in the other direction rather than voluntarily choose that option for their child. Do not wantonly dismiss the agony and heartache that these parents go through as they search for the correct option for their child.
'Do no Harm' does not mean do nothing or always choose the conventional option. There are occasions where doing nothing is doing harm. For these parents doing nothing or forcing an inappropriate gender on their child against that child's wishes is doing harm to that child. They have reluctantly (often stubbornly resisting) come to the view that, for their child and their circumstances, the best option for their child is to support that child's sense of self only when all other options are exhausted.
< Message edited by tweakabelle -- 10/31/2016 2:32:09 AM >
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