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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 6:40:23 PM   
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The purpose of a slave is to please their Master and serve them well

See, this i disagree with. The purpose of a slave is to find self fulfillment in whatever it is that they are doing. presumably, pleasing their master/mistress will provide that self fulfillment, but in truth it is secondary to the actual goal of living in a way they find fulfilling.

The overlooking of this, to my mind very important point, is in my mind why so many D/S or M/s relationships backfire, because the focus is all on pleasing the Master/Mistress in the way they want to be pleased, and little attention is given to the submissive/slave pleasing them in the way they find fulfilling and rewarding.

It is, at least it appears so to me, often overlooked that even a master/slave relationship is a relationship that must be satisfying to both parties.

that is why, in the example I mentioned previously of the relationship I deem abusive, i have not mentioned anything specific to the people involved, because it is apparently working for the people involved, despite my inability to undertsand how that might be.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 6:55:03 PM   
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Now what's getting me here Ishtar is that if you've put up with this crap so much then why are you willing to allow tamaka to perpetuate it just because she's spouting it at men?

Well I personally think it is because she shares that general view of submissive men, but unlike Awareness and tamaka, she is not willing to say as much openly. However, that is just my impression.



Nope. I tend to favor the view of "judge groups as groups, and individuals as individuals" and I find the position "submissive men as a group are weak and pathetic" to be lacking.
I know of specific submissive men I consider weak and pathetic, as well as specific submissive women, specific Dominant men, and specific Dominant women of whom I feel the same way.

I also know a bunch of submissive men whom I consider to be awesome guys. I have several among my friends/casual play partners. In fact, my all-time favorite rope casual play partner is a bisexual male switch, and I don't even have the issue that some other women in the club profess to have of "submitting to a man who also bottoms". If I were to find the right submissive man for me, I wouldn't mind being in a long term live-in relationship with one.

But I can see how you'd make that assumption based what I previously said, so thanks for pointing out that it was in need of clarification.





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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 7:48:09 PM   
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Nope. I tend to favor the view of "judge groups as groups, and individuals as individuals" and I find the position "submissive men as a group are weak and pathetic" to be lacking.

Fair enough, I am more than willing to retract my remark and admit I had you pegged wrong. Thanks for setting me straight.

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I know of specific submissive men I consider weak and pathetic, as well as specific submissive women, specific Dominant men, and specific Dominant women of whom I feel the same way.

Ditto, though if I am to be 100% honest, I would say the majority of the "weak and pathetic" crowd is made up of dominant men, but I have had a rather odd introduction to them, so my experience probably predisposes me to that opinion.


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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 7:56:08 PM   
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Strewth, A. You say yourself, not a few lines later, that 'Words are defined by their usage within a community'. What do you think your continued use of 'fuckings', laced with the odd 'cunt', say, given that?
I'm glad you asked. Now pay attention, because this kind of stuff is way outside your comfort zone.

They serve two purposes. One, invective conveys attitude in a nuanced way. It imbues a sentence with an emotional undertone. Comedians know the difference between working clean and not. Working clean works for some people but it restricts the range of attitudes you can convey in an art form where laconic pithy expression is a tool for connecting with the audience.

Second - and only those with a sense of flow will understand this, invective is the insertion of superfluous words into a sentence that alters the rhythm without impacting the meaning. Together, the combination of emotional content and lyrical rhythm punches up the delivery.

There's a great discussion about this between Ricky Gervais and Jerry Seinfeld which perfectly illustrates this concept.

https://youtu.be/OKY6BGcx37k?t=35m50s

Now, I don't for a moment expect you to be intellectually honest about this, but that is a close approximation of what's going on. When posting here I float between wry amusement, exasperation and disbelief at the various classes of idiocy I encounter. Irritated? Yes. But actually angry? Get a fucking grip.

Bingo! Right there. It doesn't work as well without the fucking.

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They're meant to imply what you want them to imply. I've no need for great levels of perception and imagination
Yeah, I'd disagree with that. You're rather... milquetoast. Some imagination would spice up your personality no end.

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- everybody knows a boor when he sees one writing. As for 'sense of superiority' - what is the matter with you? You've spent a major about of the time on this board telling me and other malesubs that we're intent on fostering a sense of *inferiority* in ourselves. This is our 'weakness', in your view.
The weakness you refuse to acknowledge? Well that would mean you were deluding yourself then, wouldn't it?

Exactly.

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Simply cretinous. You knew, or should know, that 'made up terms' is derived from the phrase 'social construct' itself. 'Constructed' = 'made up'. But now you're being willfully stupid.
They're called "words" you fucking dipshit. Words! All words are "made up terms".

Explain to me how these "made up terms" you're talking about are different from "words".

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It's a metaphor, you simpleton.


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Righty ho - when called on for invoking two thinkers with questionable scientific credentials, in support of the scientific argument you put in the preceding paragraph, pop, you're now talking 'metaphors'. God, you're a bullshitter.
For Christ's sake, Jungian archetypes are fucking metaphors. They're not descriptions of reality. Honestly, you're so literal-minded it's no wonder you have absolutely no sense of humour.

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Strong teens join gangs because they are the only social unit in Western societies which engage in rites of passage. The lack of rites of passage in Western societies has thus caused multiple social problems, with one being men such as yourself who compromise their masculinity in their quest for female acceptance. The woman is the centre of your social existence and thus your masculinity is warped to that end.


The last sentence is of course simply prejudiced nonsense. As for the rest: Get real. Teen boys join gangs and end up screwing up at school and frequently falling into the arms of the police. Gangs enforce and reinforce behaviour. The individual kid who doesn't actually want to be a violent thug is bullied by peer group pressure into being just that. The average gang-member is not more free and more individual, he's less so on both counts.
I'm talking about rites of passage, their importance in societies and how the lack thereof means boys search for social structures which have them.

You've gone off on a complete tangent. Your lack of focus simply makes it impossible for you to keep up with the discussion. It's becoming clear to me why you're unable to address the issues I raise.

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Does this tactic work, A? Seriously? I must try it some time. 'Try to gauge what is most glaringly wrong with your own thinking and what your opponent is most likely to throw at you - and hit him with exactly that first!'
Congratulations. You just articulated "I'm rubber and you're glue" without the brevity. Still having trouble understanding why you're coming across as childish?

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Nup, you're still missing the basic point, and I can no longer be bothered to teach you it.
You don't have a basic point. You're unable to explain the inherent contradiction and instead bluster about how you're an authority. Maybe they teach you that in "gender studies" but it's a fallacious attempt at argument.

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As of last month, 'were', in both cases. No, they were both proud of me. They were right wing, but saw what I'd struggled for, on occasion. And you demonstrate sod all understanding of the Left, yet again, by talking about it in the way that you do. Straw man upon straw man. But what about you, A? No doubt the same could never be said of yourself, having honed your mind and body into the warrior-like state it's in today - and fought so heroically for all that you believe in, hmmm? I mean, doubtless you're *much* more than just a keyboard warrior and the Silverback of CS?
What you'd struggled for? Now that's a laugh. Your idea of struggle is convincing yourself you're a member of the bourgeoisie because you went to "the right school". Your inherent acceptance of England's class-based society and your deluded belief in your own superiority by virtue of the social class you think you've joined is the classic kind of pompous fucking tommyrot which Australians despise.

Struggle, my ass.

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Cobblers, and you know it. From WW1 through to the present-day some of the bravest people there have been, have been conscientious objectors. And you, old chap, are pissing all over (to use your own delightful phrase) the ex-fighters who have campaigned against war.
Spoken like someone who has no fucking idea about the horror of war. It takes more gumption to charge into machine-gun fire than it does to suffer some social disapproval.

Soldiers don't campaign against war, they campaign against senseless war. Against unjustified war. Or do you think those men who've bled for their country think we should all lie down in the dirt and let our nations be taken from us because "war is bad"?

No, most of the anti-war groups are socialist nutcases who contend war is something which capitalists do. Another reason to despise them.

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Tell me where I've ever said that women can't be as nasty as men, you blithering fruitcake.
You've been pretty clear about your worshipful attitude toward women. That attitude prevents you from seeing them as they are. After all, in your world, women don't have agency and are just victims of men. I think that's a completely bizarre viewpoint, but you cling to it like it's a lifeline.


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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 7:56:11 PM   
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I know of specific submissive men I consider weak and pathetic, as well as specific submissive women, specific Dominant men, and specific Dominant women of whom I feel the same way.

Ditto, though if I am to be 100% honest, I would say the majority of the "weak and pathetic" crowd is made up of dominant men, but I have had a rather odd introduction to them, so my experience probably predisposes me to that opinion.



I can't say I disagree with that. Though in most cases, I'd sooner label them "never grew up" and "selfish/doesn't actually lead" than "weak and pathetic".

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:20:15 PM   
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I'd sooner label them "never grew up" and "selfish/doesn't actually lead" than "weak and pathetic".

Yeah, that works.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:24:10 PM   
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It's just a topic of conversation on a message board. If people didn't want to talk about it, the conversation would end.

You're self proclaimed motivation was to "fix society. " how are you going to do that here? Still waiting on an actual answer.

No she did not.You are, as per your usual practice, falling for the strawman fallacy.

Sorry, I misunderstood.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:29:20 PM   
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The purpose of a slave is to please their Master and serve them well

See, this i disagree with. The purpose of a slave is to find self fulfillment in whatever it is that they are doing. presumably, pleasing their master/mistress will provide that self fulfillment, but in truth it is secondary to the actual goal of living in a way they find fulfilling.

The overlooking of this, to my mind very important point, is in my mind why so many D/S or M/s relationships backfire, because the focus is all on pleasing the Master/Mistress in the way they want to be pleased, and little attention is given to the submissive/slave pleasing them in the way they find fulfilling and rewarding.

It is, at least it appears so to me, often overlooked that even a master/slave relationship is a relationship that must be satisfying to both parties.

that is why, in the example I mentioned previously of the relationship I deem abusive, i have not mentioned anything specific to the people involved, because it is apparently working for the people involved, despite my inability to undertsand how that might be.


A slave, in my opinion and experience, cannot be self- fulfilled. A slave is fulfilled by her Master.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:33:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: UllrsIshtar


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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I know of specific submissive men I consider weak and pathetic, as well as specific submissive women, specific Dominant men, and specific Dominant women of whom I feel the same way.

Ditto, though if I am to be 100% honest, I would say the majority of the "weak and pathetic" crowd is made up of dominant men, but I have had a rather odd introduction to them, so my experience probably predisposes me to that opinion.



I can't say I disagree with that. Though in most cases, I'd sooner label them "never grew up" and "selfish/doesn't actually lead" than "weak and pathetic".

Yes! So many of those

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:37:34 PM   
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A slave, in my opinion and experience, cannot be self- fulfilled. A slave is fulfilled by her Master.

Just think about that for a minute and you will see why that is simply silly. Everybody enters a relationship in order to fulfill needs.desires they have. To me your opinion is just silly online fantasy crap that ignores the motivations of those involved.

Every sub or slave is in their relationship because they get something they need or want out of it. their purpose is to find what they need or want, and that is the simple truth. You can dress it up all you want, but in the end they re there because they are getting some need/desire fulfilled by being in that relationship.

I mean, i m ALL about pleasing my Fellas, but I don't do it because it pleases them, I do it because it pleases me to please them. If pleasing them did not please me, then I wouldn't do it, and yes that includes doing shit for them I don't actually enjoy. It still gives me pleasure/fulfillment to do those things for them.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:41:18 PM   
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A slave, in my opinion and experience, cannot be self- fulfilled. A slave is fulfilled by her Master.

Just think about that for a minute and you will see why that is simply silly. Everybody enters a relationship in order to fulfill needs.desires they have. To me your opinion is just silly online fantasy crap that ignores the motivations of those involved.

Every sub or slave is in their relationship because they get something they need or want out of it. their purpose is to find what they need or want, and that is the simple truth. You can dress it up all you want, but in the end they re there because they are getting some need/desire fulfilled by being in that relationship.

I mean, i m ALL about pleasing my Fellas, but I don't do it because it pleases them, I do it because it pleases me to please them. If pleasing them did not please me, then I wouldn't do it, and yes that includes doing shit for them I don't actually enjoy. It still gives me pleasure/fulfillment to do those things for them.


I have never done online fantasy crap. Right now you are a submissive to some 'fellas'. Perhaps that is the difference.

If pleasing them did not please you... then you probably wouldn't be their slave.


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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:43:48 PM   
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I see you have missed the point and decided to pull the subbier than thou card. Go you.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:44:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tamaka


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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A slave, in my opinion and experience, cannot be self- fulfilled. A slave is fulfilled by her Master.

Just think about that for a minute and you will see why that is simply silly. Everybody enters a relationship in order to fulfill needs.desires they have. To me your opinion is just silly online fantasy crap that ignores the motivations of those involved.

Every sub or slave is in their relationship because they get something they need or want out of it. their purpose is to find what they need or want, and that is the simple truth. You can dress it up all you want, but in the end they re there because they are getting some need/desire fulfilled by being in that relationship.

I mean, i m ALL about pleasing my Fellas, but I don't do it because it pleases them, I do it because it pleases me to please them. If pleasing them did not please me, then I wouldn't do it, and yes that includes doing shit for them I don't actually enjoy. It still gives me pleasure/fulfillment to do those things for them.


I have never done online fantasy crap. Right now you are a submissive to some 'fellas'. Perhaps that is the difference.



Woah...........you are outta line missy

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:46:27 PM   
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I see you have missed the point and decided to pull the subbier than thou card. Go you.


No... i have no desire to be subbier than anyone. I edited it and added another point that may help you understand where i'm coming from.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:46:37 PM   
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If pleasing them did not please you... then you probably wouldn't be their slave.

And if pleasing your fella didn't please you, you wouldn't be his slave either, so what's your point?

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:47:48 PM   
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No... i have no desire to be subbier than anyone.

Bullshit
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I edited it and added another point that may help you understand where i'm coming from.

Uh-huh, and I have replied to your edit, it makes no difference.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:50:26 PM   
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surely each fulfils something in the other. A slave fulfils herself by keeping her Master happy but surely by the same token, what is a Master without a slave to guide and fulfil and at the same time, fulfil himself ?

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:51:36 PM   
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No... i have no desire to be subbier than anyone.

Bullshit
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I edited it and added another point that may help you understand where i'm coming from.

Uh-huh, and I have replied to your edit, it makes no difference.


I know this is probably hard to believe but i don't feel the need to compare myself to others. I am me and i don't 'Rate' myself against other human beings. I outgrew that stuff a while ago. Maybe someday you will understand what i am trying to convey.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 8:55:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: tamaka


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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No... i have no desire to be subbier than anyone.

Bullshit
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I edited it and added another point that may help you understand where i'm coming from.

Uh-huh, and I have replied to your edit, it makes no difference.


I know this is probably hard to believe but i don't feel the need to compare myself to others. I am me and i don't 'Rate' myself against other human beings. I outgrew that stuff a while ago. Maybe someday you will understand what i am trying to convey.

But you do feel the need to point out where you think your way is the best way. If that's not comparing yourself to others I don't know what is.

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RE: Don't Women Want The Same Things As Men? - 11/7/2016 9:00:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Greatlilbabygirl


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ORIGINAL: tamaka


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ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick

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No... i have no desire to be subbier than anyone.

Bullshit
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I edited it and added another point that may help you understand where i'm coming from.

Uh-huh, and I have replied to your edit, it makes no difference.


I know this is probably hard to believe but i don't feel the need to compare myself to others. I am me and i don't 'Rate' myself against other human beings. I outgrew that stuff a while ago. Maybe someday you will understand what i am trying to convey.

But you do feel the need to point out where you think your way is the best way.


Where did i point out that i think my way is the best way exactly?

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