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What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 12:50:17 PM

crouchingtigress

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please note: i suck at starting posts . i always think i am asking the question i want to ask but some how it gets misinterpreted...the part in red is the part i am wondering about, all the rest is just for contex....

this is from a post i made this morning:(edited to try to be more clear)

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i have never met anyone in this lifestyle for an extended period of time that did not switch.

in life i think we all have people we are in awe of, and in the presence of them we become submissive, ie, wanting to please them, wanting their approval, wanting to serve them, being reverent to them.

i think we have all met people that we feel superior to as well, and we have no issue making them bag our groceries, clean our car ect...

for example some folks would turn into quivering jello if they met a famous star, others like Oprah have a comfort and an ease about that, but even Oprah turned into jelly when she met some one she idolized Sidney Poitier. For me, i meet famous folks all the time in my line of work, it does nothing for me, but when put in front of Wane Dyer and Ram Das i turned into a puddle of incoherant goo.

now when it comes to sex i really dont think it is all that different. i think that we react in a primal level to our sexual attractions and i would hope that a Domme or Dom would come on this thread and prove me wrong and say that they have never felt a feeling of submissiveness (maybe too strong a word but something akin to it) in the presence of a person of the opposite sex they wanted to fuck...

that would be interesting...

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 12:59:05 PM

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Wow, excellent post. This is an idea I thave been tossing around in my head...so I would add a question to your question, as well as an answer to your OP.

Yes, there are people who's compassion, wisdom, ethics, and personal power make me quiver and given the opportunity to meet face to face, I can only imagine my knees would bend of their own accord.

There is a Dominant on here - and he should KNOW who he is, but is probably too modest to even consider it would be him - who if I turned the corner and ran into him I think the breath would whoosh out of my body and I would be on my knees with my forehead on the floor.

Just wondering if anyone else would care to identify such a powerful presence in their own minds?

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:00:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
i would hope that a Domme or Dom would come on this thread and prove me wrong and say that they have never felt a feeling of submissiveness (maybe too strong a word but something akin to it) in the presence of a person of the opposite sex they wanted to fuck...

I doubt I will be the only one but I fit the bill there. I've obayed in the workplace because I was doing what I agreed to be paid to do. I've obayed in the corps because I've agreed to serve my country and the jumped up little cow was an officer......

When it comes to a dynamic where I'm attracted sexualy... it goes hand in hand with me wanting to take control.... always has.

< Message edited by RavenMuse -- 7/25/2006 1:01:36 PM >

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:05:33 PM

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Tried it when I thought it was the way to start out in BDSM.

Hated it and scared the crap out of the poor souls who tried to top me.

Just isn't who I am.

Egalitarian? Maybe but probably not that either. Just getting turned makes me feel in control and become demanding. And when I love someone I just naturally start feeling dominant toward them.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:10:09 PM

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ok so try to imagine this being a real life senario....Angelina Jolie or _____insert personal sex goddess here meets you in a bar, you dont stumble over your words, you dont want to please her?

quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
i would hope that a Domme or Dom would come on this thread and prove me wrong and say that they have never felt a feeling of submissiveness (maybe too strong a word but something akin to it) in the presence of a person of the opposite sex they wanted to fuck...

I doubt I will be the only one but I fit the bill there. I've obayed in the workplace because I was doing what I agreed to be paid to do. I've obayed in the corps because I've agreed to serve my country and the jumped up little cow was an officer......

When it comes to a dynamic where I'm attracted sexualy... it goes hand in hand with me wanting to take control.... always has.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:15:53 PM

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Actually that is a perfect example of those I would want to dominate!

But to answer the question in all seriousness. I have never met someone face to face that had the sort of presence and power that makes me feel that way. I think it would be good for me and scary in a good thrilling way, but nope, nothing close so far.

< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 7/25/2006 1:17:28 PM >

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:20:07 PM

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wow that is facinating...angelina only works if you worship her from afar....do you have an idol..? would they have that effect you think if you were attracted to them?.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Actually that is a perfect example of those I would want to dominate!

But to answer the question in all seriousness. I have never met someone face to face that had the sort of presence and power that makes me feel that way. I think it would be good for me and scary in a good thrilling way, but nope, nothing close so far.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:21:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
ok so try to imagine this being a real life senario....Angelina Jolie or _____insert personal sex goddess here meets you in a bar, you dont stumble over your words, you dont want to please her?

Yep real life. Angelina Jolie is submissive anyhow (Has said as much in some interview or other or so I am told).... But yes, regardless of who it is, taking control is part of HOW I show affection, some girl who also needs to take control in the same way, we are simply not going to be compatable, regardless of how well we get on in other areas.

Just as being a gentleman is part of me, or being protective is part of me, or having a damn Daddy Dom dynamic when my girl is afraid or hurt.... it is just who I am and there an't ANYONE out there for whom I will stop being me.

< Message edited by RavenMuse -- 7/25/2006 1:22:51 PM >

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:22:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL:

Egalitarian? Maybe but probably not that either. Just getting turned makes me feel in control and become demanding. And when I love someone I just naturally start feeling dominant toward them.

totally makes sense....see i love these boards cause i get to peek at someone elses mind other than mine....

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:22:39 PM

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I don't think I'm a switch at all.
I will try to be pleasing to someone I respect and admire, and may even let him lead at times... But for anything involving a relationship, I wouldn't last at all trying to obey/follow someone else's rules. If you mean considering switching at playtime, that I might do on occasion if... M

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:25:26 PM

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Hmmmm....I dont think liking to have My ass slapped
every once in awhile Makes Me a switch...but perhaps I am wrong,been known to happen on occasion...LOL

Okay I admit sometimes I like holding onto the ropes when using bishop sexually...
Still dont think that makes Me a switch.

I am not made to be confined...I was made to be in Control.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:26:46 PM

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Never considered switching. I like to be in charge. Now of course you still have to pick your battles in life and understand that you cannot always be in charge (work, military service, police, etc.)

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:29:12 PM

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drats...i so am not getting my point across......i feel like i could try...but would it be worth it? if you would like me to try say yes...and if not say nothing and ill drop the darn thing.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:31:11 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
drats...i so am not getting my point across......i feel like i could try...but would it be worth it? if you would like me to try say yes...and if not say nothing and ill drop the darn thing.

absolutely. I'd like to know what point it is that you are trying to make OR what the actual question you are looking to be answered is.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:36:12 PM

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thanks raven....

quote:

ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress
drats...i so am not getting my point across......i feel like i could try...but would it be worth it? if you would like me to try say yes...and if not say nothing and ill drop the darn thing.

absolutely. I'd like to know what point it is that you are trying to make OR what the actual question you are looking to be answered is.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:38:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

wow that is facinating...angelina only works if you worship her from afar....do you have an idol..? would they have that effect you think if you were attracted to them?.

Hmmm, thinking............I don't really have idols, people I know personally that I feel is a really dominant person. My idols are more people like my grandmother or the woman I grew up next door to. They taught me about being a good human being. Actually most all of the people that I would say even come close to that category are just strong women I view as role models. There are also some great spiritual leaders I have never met but enjoy and learn from what they have written. Yet I don't see them as dominants either. More so just teachers. As far as the entertainment business, there are many that I just love their work and have enjoyed several times hearing them discuss their work but to idolize them........not at all! I actually see most entertainers as more sensitive and less emotionally stable at times, not anyone I could even begin to be submissive towards.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:42:00 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

drats...i so am not getting my point across......i feel like i could try...but would it be worth it? if you would like me to try say yes...and if not say nothing and ill drop the darn thing.

Okay so if someone I admired or thought highly of wanted to Dom Me...would I let them have control?Oh hell no.

Do I have moments in life that I let another have control...sometimes.

I tend to use the ropes and cuffs on Myself so that I have something to hold onto.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:46:03 PM

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I honestly tried being a switch and found I hated it. I'm Dominant and thats all there is too it. I don't enjoy pretending (yep) to be submissive, I don't like not having control and I hate the feeling of *serving* someone. I have never felt the urge with anyone to totally give over all control of me, I would hate it with a passion.

Therefore in my relationship when I get the urge to be spanked or flogged I tell my sub to do it and when to stop. Yes topping from the bottom I guess you would label it but it works for us.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:46:54 PM

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I'm sorry, but it would have to be Jesus to make that happen.

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RE: What dominants here think they are not a switch...? - 7/25/2006 1:48:38 PM

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thank you for taking the time to really think about the question and for writing it out in a way that makes sense to me....i appreciate it....you answered the heart of my question, and also i realized some other cool stuff from this post on a anthropological and psychological level too....which could be a whole thread in and of itself.....

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

wow that is facinating...angelina only works if you worship her from afar....do you have an idol..? would they have that effect you think if you were attracted to them?.

Hmmm, thinking............I don't really have idols, people I know personally that I feel is a really dominant person. My idols are more people like my grandmother or the woman I grew up next door to. They taught me about being a good human being. Actually most all of the people that I would say even come close to that category are just strong women I view as role models. There are also some great spiritual leaders I have never met but enjoy and learn from what they have written. Yet I don't see them as dominants either. More so just teachers. As far as the entertainment business, there are many that I just love their work and have enjoyed several times hearing them discuss their work but to idolize them........not at all! I actually see most entertainers as more sensitive and less emotionally stable at times, not anyone I could even begin to be submissive towards.

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