DaddySatyr
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Joined: 8/29/2011 From: Pittston, Pennsyltucky Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic Actually I probably would agree I was a wild 17 yr old girl. Consent in the UK is 16, I had been sexually interested and active long before that. PS my first serious boyfriend(at 14) was five years older than me. My husband is 16 years older than me, But I wasnt dating him at 14. But I bet you wouldnt agree with ME on my vision of what it was like, even being on a different continent and different culture. Maybe (and that's a big "maybe") we would agree, but I'm not holding my breath. I think "different continents" and different "cultures" has to enter into the discussion (I'm well aware that in the UK, if not going on to one's "A Levels", at 16 they are considered to be "of age" in as much as they can get a job, move out of mum and dad's house, etc.), but that's not the end of it. I am quite sure our personal experiences are VERY different. For reasons I'd rather not go into, publicly, after the age of thirteen/fourteen or so, I was NEVER attracted to younger ladies. Since the original parameter was a specific year, I can only comment on where my head was at, in that year. In 1979, not long after my fifteenth birthday, I was involved in a relationship with a thirty-five-year-old divorcée. It was illegal, by all standards. However, I was faaaaaaar from being a "victim" as far as I was concerned. She was hotter than the hinges on the gates of hell. I enjoyed our time together (even out of bed). She was smart, well-read, kind ... she was "square business", as I like to say. I did not lie to her about my age (it would have been tough since her daughter and I attended the same school). In fairness, she did not "seduce" me any more than she flirted with me and "gave me the signals" that my advances would not be rebuffed. Also to be fair, I always looked older than my years and could fit into most social situations with her friends. To be sure, they all knew I was young, but they didn't know how young. Most assumed I was 19 or 20. The fact that I was able to get served in bars and package stores without being asked for ID (the legal age was 18, back then) helped in that regard. I never felt manipulated, or "abused" in any way except in the typical bad break up/serious issues kind of way. However, I have to move out of 1979 and say at the age of 20, in (interestingly enough,) Abalama, I was "fooled" by an under-age girl (who should NOT have even been in the venue and did NOT look very underage. I thought she might have been 19 or 20, with the drinking age being 21, that would have made her underage to be in the venue, but NOT for sex) who flat-out lied about her age (and produced her sister's license as proof. No universal photo ID, back then) in order to "get what she wanted" out of me. She was a groupie. No doubt about it. We were inflagrante dilecto when she informed me she'd lied to me. She was three months shy of her sixteenth birthday (16 was age of consent in Abalama, at the time, I was told, as long as there was no more than three years in age difference). I jumped up and started getting dressed, telling her to do the same. She said: "Aren't we going to finish?" I told her we were finished. So? Did I abuse or manipulate her? I don't think so. Do I thank God that I never got that famous because this bint could have ruined me, when I was more manipulated than she was? You're damned straight. You see, both of these young people (myself and this Abalama groupie) were, essentially, the "aggressors" and well aware of what we were doing at the time. So, while I'm a "law & order" type more often that not, I recognize there are always outliers and believe that adjustments should be made for them. Note: Red fonts are edits
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