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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 12:31:01 PM

Celeste43

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I would redo your profile leaving most of that out. There is absolutely nothing about you as a person in there to tell if you would be compatible or not.

If your sense of humor is physical, give an example of a prank you committed. Verbal, include a pun. Lark or owl? What do you like to do on a weekend afternoon; go bike riding, shop at the farmer's market or play golf or tennis? What are your passions and what are your dreams?

Life is composed of a lot more vanilla time than otherwise, if you aren't compatible then, you won't make it no matter how hot scenes may be.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 1:31:21 PM

Alumbrado

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Because the 'send' button works.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 1:55:30 PM

sharainks

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I have to agree with several who point out that its hard to see "you" in all this. The person has to matter to me before I care about their philosophy of the lifestyle. Things like interests, common ground, sense of humor, ability to enjoy life, even their political party tell me more about a person. If those vanilla type things don't mesh there is little chance the lifestyle things will either.

I would change your profile to share those things first. Then if there is a click between the two of you as you mail or chat you can begin to share the lifestyle ideas.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 2:00:49 PM

deltadawn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterLon

Well, I did ask for opinions, and you have given them to me quite freely. For that I thank each and everyone of you. I need to agree with most of you, That this profile is way too long and boring for most people to read. And yes, Most will not read it, But that is okay....I do not really believe that I shall ever find another slave of my dreams, God in his wisdom took one away from me, There is no other for me out there... I was told by my many friends at the dungeon I go to, not to go online and seek anything, I will be made fun of, ridiculed and laughed at, They told me to stay real time and to help those that need my help there...Of course being what and who I am, I did not listen and sure enough they were right. My rules, That I follow, Are not from any website, Nor from a book, This (my rules) are from my heart and my mind. Now someone could have copied and pasted to a site, Its there for all to see, But it is me, The way I believe...I wrote this for a slave, That I was interested in over 36 years ago...After she died, I kept the letter and the words close to my heart.... So you folks believe in what you will, Means nothing to me....Now about clicking on my pic?? I move? Well, I have dial up and it does not move fast enough for me, So you all enjoy yourself..its cool. I think I have answered everyone sufficently here, As to your posts, About my posts...I will of course be called many names, This I expect, People who fear or hate, those that have closed minds or can not believe, will not, Know matter what is said or done. All I will do is help any that want help, I will share what I have learned in the past 45 years, Of being active in this lifestyle. Again thank you all, God Bless and take care....
MasterLon

Master Lon,

I hope that I am not one that you feel made fun of you or your ways. When reading your post, if I was I sincerely appologize.

dawn

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 2:05:52 PM

MasterLon

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Jessieme,

<just shakes my head and wonders why> ....Do you really sit or stand there and not know the reason why? You read, But, Can not understand? Is your mind so closed, That you can not understand, That someone else really gives a damn about other people....This, To me, Is most puzzleing....

MasterLon

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 2:10:07 PM

marksl

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rules only work if both sides agree in them.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 4:10:33 PM

JessieMe

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterLon

Jessieme,

<just shakes my head and wonders why> ....Do you really sit or stand there and not know the reason why? You read, But, Can not understand? Is your mind so closed, That you can not understand, That someone else really gives a damn about other people....This, To me, Is most puzzleing....

MasterLon

Lon,

It always amazes me when people do their dead level best to create fear and divisiveness for this lifestyle.. She wants to make it sound like if we all do not espouse "THE ONE TRUE WAY" the lifestyle as a whole will go to hell in a handbasket. Well I guess if we all were the same.. had the same kinks, the same feelings, the same background, the same upbringing and the same indoctrinations in this lifestyle, her post would have meaning. HOWEVER, to me it is reprehensible to have someone sit there and make it sound as if this lifestyle is anymore dangerous than any other lifestyle out there. There are people who join this site who are new and seeking connections and understanding in WIITWD. This was simply meant to be devisive and fear mongering.

As far as the items I highlighted let me take a few..

"I was raised as a True slave" Sorry.. to me this reads as child abuse.. No one should be "raised to be a True slave"

"many here dont even know what being a slave means or worse how to live as one" How the hell does she figure she decides what being a slave means to any individual and that everyone has to live it according to her definition?

"chose to get hurt,raped,or even hospitalized." Again.. SORRY.. no one chooses to get hurt raped or even hospitalized.. and this happens to people just walking down the street..get a grip!

And for that.. <I just shake my head and wonder why>

Now.. just to save you the trouble although I imagine you will trouble yourself anyways.. I know you dont agree with me. Nuff said on my part.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 5:21:45 PM

fullofgrace

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amen, jessieme.

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RE: Ettiquette, knowledge and mentors - 7/30/2006 6:20:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: FirmhandKY

I still think the most impressive part of this, is the way his pics vibrate when you cycle through them quickly.

FHky

LOL Damn it now you done it I have to go to the other side to check out his vibrateing pic

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 6:37:36 PM

KatyLied

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I need the Cliff's Notes version.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 6:51:10 PM

popeye1250

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Jesse, "Some" people have rape "fantasies."

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 6:53:54 PM

JessieMe

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I agree Popeye.. and that is fine.. but this was not what she was referring to in her post nor what I was responding to.

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That I must choose to live for all that I can give
The spark that makes the Power grow
<Immortality by Celine Dion>

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 9:32:20 PM

Sub03

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JessieMe

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterLon

Jessieme,

<just shakes my head and wonders why> ....Do you really sit or stand there and not know the reason why? You read, But, Can not understand? Is your mind so closed, That you can not understand, That someone else really gives a damn about other people....This, To me, Is most puzzleing....

MasterLon

Lon,

It always amazes me when people do their dead level best to create fear and divisiveness for this lifestyle.. She wants to make it sound like if we all do not espouse "THE ONE TRUE WAY" the lifestyle as a whole will go to hell in a handbasket. Well I guess if we all were the same.. had the same kinks, the same feelings, the same background, the same upbringing and the same indoctrinations in this lifestyle, her post would have meaning. HOWEVER, to me it is reprehensible to have someone sit there and make it sound as if this lifestyle is anymore dangerous than any other lifestyle out there. There are people who join this site who are new and seeking connections and understanding in WIITWD. This was simply meant to be devisive and fear mongering.

As far as the items I highlighted let me take a few..

"I was raised as a True slave" Sorry.. to me this reads as child abuse.. No one should be "raised to be a True slave"

"many here dont even know what being a slave means or worse how to live as one" How the hell does she figure she decides what being a slave means to any individual and that everyone has to live it according to her definition?

"chose to get hurt,raped,or even hospitalized." Again.. SORRY.. no one chooses to get hurt raped or even hospitalized.. and this happens to people just walking down the street..get a grip!

And for that.. <I just shake my head and wonder why>

Now.. just to save you the trouble although I imagine you will trouble yourself anyways.. I know you dont agree with me. Nuff said on my part.

Its the internet...its open to anyone that can click a mouse and punch a few keys, I say let them think what they want and we will move on and live our lives as we live them. Afterall as I said this is the internet.....real life is away from the screen.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/30/2006 10:24:27 PM

jocelyn

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You've obviously spent quite some time pondering the topic. I'll just address your first request for input on your profile.

Think of your profile like a newspaper article - briefly (quickly) give a few details and stick to a single concept within a paragraph.

If I may make a suggestion, you might want to save the full version for prospects who've indicated an interest. Master actually sent me a type of "boilerplate" and asked that I respond to each point as a way of getting to know me before our first phone conversations and meetings.

It's unfortunate, but many people really don't read much. Unless you're thinking to self select a group who do read lengthy pieces, brief is better.

...just my thoughts - good luck in your search

jocelyn

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 5:25:45 AM

MasterLon

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marksl, Those rules are meant for me and the one that may one day, Be for me or at least it was for 29 fantastic years. Now if no one else understands them, Then I shall be alone forever, So be it...

MasterLon

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 5:57:59 AM

MasterLon

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Jessieme,
lilserenity tells it like it is and does not hold punches back. This lifestyle, Now, Can be very dangerous. Especially to one without knowledge, To someone that is too trusting and does not adhere to caution. There is "one true way", That way is to learn of this lifestyle first before seeking a mate. Learn of the dominant what makes a dominant the way they are, What they like, For them to learn the differences between a fake, An abuser and a "real" dominant. Serenity was raised in slavery, Yes child abuse, But still slavery...definition of a slave, In my day, The slave had no rights, Priveledges, Choices and made no decisions, In her day also, That is what a real slave was/is, There are no real slaves of today that exists, So many here claim to be slaves, When they are just submissive and role play at it once in a while....As far as bein hurt or hospitalized is concerned, True, People do not want this, But many act like they do, They have no idea of a "safety net" and go visit so called doms they met online, Only to be seriously hurt, Hospitalized or worse. Now you can keep those pretty rose colored glasses on or keep your eyes closed to this lifestyle, If you choose, Its your decision, But we shall keep ours open, Without glasses on and try to help all those that need help...That seriously wants help....
MasterLon

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 6:02:00 AM

meatcleaver

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I think too much time is spent on love and affection which really masks what is going on, which is mental heroin. You dominate, subjugate and punish someone, you then show reward in the form of affection. The person being dominated will feel a high when the pressure is taken off them and feel thankful to the person dominating them. This a is widely recognised and psychologically understood reaction. The only difference between BDSM and abuse is consent. Maybe there is genuine love and affection or maybe there isn't and does it matter? Many abusers claim to be in love with the person they abuse.

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 6:05:54 AM

MasterLon

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Again folks I wish to thank each and everyone for their input on my profile. I agree that my profile is long and boring to most people, But, Then, I am not interested in a relationship with most people, My profile is long and boring for a reason, For that particular one that reads it completely they may learn something and I may have found a kindred soul. If one looks at the top of my post I asked for opinions to the post except for how long it was, What I do is for a purpose, A reason not many would understand...

MasterLon

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 7:31:31 AM

DanielsHeart

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Greetings everyone,

This is my first post of what i hope is many.

Although Master Lon's profile may not be what people are used to looking at, it does give a very strong look to the type of Man he is, that is if one actually reads it. As I read it I had a clear image appear, though I may be wrong, here is what I find.

In my opinion, and my Master has allowed me an opinion, Master Lon is an emotionally strong man. Knowledgeable in the ways of M/s, uncompromised in His beliefs, and not afraid to stand out and be different. He believes a slave is owned property that is loved and cared for but also believes she is his property and must adhere to His will (in order to be his). He places high standards on more of the 'Old School' D/s and believes that respect, honor, and loyalty is paramount in living this lifestyle.

Continuing in my opinon only..... He sees more in the M/s lifestyle than he may see in BDSM. BDSM is the play that some,. maybe even most, include into their D/s relationships, but it is not the crutch of it. TPE is. There need not be ropes, whips, chains, floggers, humiliation,.....etc etc etc..or even any sexual play at all to be a Master/slave couple...there just needs to be one who masters and one who submits to that mastery. The slave giving up her own will in consensual acceptance of her Master's will.

I see a man that has loved, owned, mastered, and now mourns the loss of his slave. My heart reaches out that he finds happiness once again. I see a man who wants to give back to the lifestyle in the only way he knows how....by sharing his experiences. There is much more I can see, but am sure I have lost the interest of most already.

Master Lon, i pray that what i have said does not upset you, that if i have come to the wrong 'image' of what your profile says i am sorry but that is how it speaks to me. i hope you find the strength to go on, the acceptance to heal, and that you master another in Your lifetime.

i wish all well enough,
Daniel's heart

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RE: some of the rules I follow - 7/31/2006 7:53:53 AM

Homestead

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I always remember that a leash has two ends, with a person on either.

I am contrained as much as I constrain-too many rules are a trap.

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