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RE: fake slaves - 10/27/2006 12:13:15 PM

hammernhoney

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WE run accross this all the time, not only here but on alt and bondage as well.ITS either a man posing to get to her.WE fix this problem very quickly.WE demand a phone call and pics with a note that says for you...BOUNTY

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RE: fake slaves - 10/27/2006 1:41:45 PM

DiannaVesta

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There’s a lot of good advice here. Funny how we hear the same things all the time… same issues, same games, same drama.
I get a lot of flack from people contacting me because I am so direct. Over the years I’ve become intolerant of my time being wasted. It’s not like I have a lot of it in the first place. It really pisses me off how some people think I should drop everything I’m doing to chat with them and get to know them online. I’ve invested a great deal of time doing this, in the past and 9 times out of 10 it turns out to be a thrill seeker. I prefer to cut to the chase. If you are interested in pursing me then invest the time learning about me.
When women contact me I normally ask for a few more pictures. If for anything to make sure they are in fact a woman. I can’t tell you how many guys I’ve caught trying to do the lesbian thing. I also want to hear their voice and know that they are for real. I have a Yahoo phone I use for this.
When I am interested in someone I like to approach it as friends first and keep everything in perspective. I never start off with D/s. Once I meet them I see if there is chemistry. If there is then we’ll act on it. Even still, as TammyJo stated, a relationship is built over time. I might playfully use the word slave as a romantic gesture but when I say “my slave” that’s a huge deal.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/27/2006 8:19:57 PM

orfunboi

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ORIGINAL: MistresSplash

Yes you are correct. I should interview them more closely. I have never seeked a slave on line before. Have only been thru the community. Sorry teach if my typing is improper to you, didnt know this was school. Any ways that is what this weekend was for. To meet to decide if this is what we all wanted. If we would be compatible or not. Is it wrong to ask for proof as in cam or phone number to verify who they are?

No, you're right, this isn't school. But it's still nice to be able to read and understand the post. What and how you type is the only indication people have about who you are. It doesn't take a lot of time to reread what you wrote and try to make it legible.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/27/2006 10:32:14 PM

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Girl I met on this site also was reluctant to go on her webcam...as soon as I started calling her out she didn't respond and now ignores me any time she is online. Very deceptive...be skepitcal especially of professional looking pictures.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/28/2006 6:32:18 AM

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There are also those, like me, who will not go on webcam. Even if I actually like the person. I'll talk on the phone and meet but I don't do cam, ever. So not going on cam is not always an indication of fake but when all signs point to it...probably is.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/28/2006 6:46:05 AM

MsSonnetMarwood

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I'm going to agree with the cam thing...I don't go on a cam, ever, no exceptions. I will, however, if I'm interested in the person, meet for coffee within 2-4 weeks of first contact.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/29/2006 11:33:27 AM

AlderTheKitty

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How to tell if someone is fake or not ready or is a player

just look at how they act a sub who is real and worth having will be strong and choise carfully who they show submission to

also someone who got bored with her curent top is proply someone you should stay way from

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RE: fake slaves - 10/29/2006 5:49:25 PM

UnvailedPurpose

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In all of this advice there is an overflowing fountain of subtle messages that escape or at least elude the submissive and slave. They too must accept the responsibility of active discernment and selectivity. Not every cloak shrouds a dominator, even if its lether
and well fashioned.

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RE: fake slaves - 10/30/2006 11:12:45 PM

LadyOunce

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Time and effort, that's who you find out. Don't rush into a relationship. Don't rush to collaring. Ask a lot of questions, not just about them but how they view D/s and their relationship within it.

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RE: fake slaves - 11/1/2006 5:07:01 PM

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Wow. What an interesting thread. I am lifestyle almost 14 years but relatively new to collarme and brand new, today, to using collarme message boards. I would love to know how much real experience MistressSplash has.

It is ok to ask to speak on the phone. It is ok to ask to see someone on cam...just keep in mind, anyone who is not real will manage a way to "please" you until they decide the game is no longer fun. So cam and phone mean nothing.

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RE: fake slaves - 11/1/2006 5:15:47 PM

Morrigel

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Yep. Ditto the ladies who say they don't do cam or phone calls with strangers. I prefer face-to-face meetings as soon as possible in a public place over coffee or dinner. I am absolutely who I say I am, but I will not "prove" it by camming or giving out my phone number before I am ready to do so, and this is just one of the many reasons that I am not interested in long-distance relationships.

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RE: fake slaves - 11/2/2006 6:25:14 PM

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I don't have a cam, but will meet for coffee as soon as possible. I like the phone to confirm before I waste my time actually going to get that cup of coffee, just to make sure the sub/slave is on his way and is "real" or not. I've had a great time meeting 1-4 subs a week on this site, nice people, no super matches but interesting times and am certainly not "down" on meeting men online, vanilla (which I have done in the past with sucess) or otherwise. But to find what you're truly looking for, it's often a numbers game, after all, until you find a person you want to spend some quality time with.

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