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MistressSassy66 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:47:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SusanofO Mistress Sassy: If I was waffling on calling the police, you just convinced me. No sense waiting. Thanks for the advice. - Susan Thank you for calling them....I would hate to see something bad happen to you. Another thing you can carry is hairspray or any kind of toxic spray if your not able to get pepper spray. I will admit I am paranoid with good reason and have screw drivers handy in the car aswell as one of those huge Mag-Lights,I also carry a hunting knive on the passengers side visor.I have the hairspray too...LOL I keep My car doors locked at all times when I'm in it. When walking to My car I have keys between My fingers to jab an eye ball if someone comes at Me,I also have a Swiss Army knife with the blade opened in My purse. You only need 3 inches of blade to seriously hurt someone. Did I mention I'm prepared...or was that Paranoid?

SusanofO -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:48:44 PM)
proudsub: Thanks for the kind and sensible words. I am going to go to Target, and buy a cell phone. But first, I am calling my neighbors - and that friend of mine, to see iuf she can sleep over tonight. Thanks for listening to me, people. It really helps. - Susan

subinsouth -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:49:05 PM)
susan - i have been stalked before and i understand your concern 110%. it is the worst feeling in the world to come "home" and be afraid. if i were you, i would make a police report (just a statement on your feelings) and then if he does follow you or show up at your door, at least the police have it in writing. i would also call the club and see if anyone knows him and report him there as well. good luck to you in this and be safe.

zenofeller -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:51:26 PM)
you're not supposed to talk to stalkers susan. read gandalf's article, it's good.

SusanofO -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:51:36 PM)
Thank you, subinsouth, very much. - Susan

zenofeller -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 12:53:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66 When walking to My car I have keys between My fingers to jab an eye ball if someone comes at Me,I also have a Swiss Army knife with the blade opened in My purse. You only need 3 inches of blade to seriously hurt someone. Did I mention I'm prepared...or was that Paranoid? i hope your purse has a do not sit sticker. and i hope you don't trip on your way to your car... my vote is inefficient paranoid.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:05:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zenofeller quote: ORIGINAL: MistressSassy66 When walking to My car I have keys between My fingers to jab an eye ball if someone comes at Me,I also have a Swiss Army knife with the blade opened in My purse. You only need 3 inches of blade to seriously hurt someone. Did I mention I'm prepared...or was that Paranoid? i hope your purse has a do not sit sticker. and i hope you don't trip on your way to your car... my vote is inefficient paranoid. Someone else here on CM runs with Scissors( I forget the name)... So why cant I walk with a knife...LOL Inefficiently Paranoid...that means I need more weapons right? Maybe another class on self defense? [:D]

zenofeller -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:08:57 PM)
no, actually, you got too many as it is, you're like that soldier going to war with two shotguns, a full machine gun, two sub machine guns, two semi automatic pistols, four revolvers, grenades and grenade launcher, fire thrower, fuel for it, for a total of 4-500 pounds of gear he drags by his teeth through the jungle much to the amusement of the monkeys that manage to buldgeon him to death with coconuts. you only need one weapon. in extreme cases a weapon and a side arm. pick them and be done with it.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:13:10 PM)
My Brother and Step-Dad are retired Marines....its their fault...LOL

popeye1250 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:24:29 PM)
Gee, welcome home from vacation Susan! Yes to all the above, call the Police and they'll have a car patrol the street more often. Yes, let your neighbors know about the situation as well! Also, do you have a male relative who could stay with you for a few nights? I had a stalker once many years ago. Last I heard he walks with a limp. Someone pulled the oil plug on two of his cars and blew the engines on them. Poor guy. Oh! And how was your vacation?

LotusSong -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:34:38 PM)
Get his license plate number or at least the type and color of his car. Take the note to the police station. Give a description of the guy..For all you know he may be already wanted. Above all, Follow Your Gut feelings!

zumala -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:36:05 PM)
Wow... sorry to hear of your situation, Susan. My mom taught me all about suspicion and to NOT go home if I think I'm being followed. There's been a lot of good advice said here already. Do tell your neighbors, do give the cops a heads up, do have a friend sleepover, and do have someone go with you to that "BDSM" house to tell them what's going on. Actually, I'd go there first and e-mail your girl friend who was there to see if you can get anymore info before going to the police. Every little bit helps. Best of luck, Hon. Keep us updated. zuma

EvilGeoff -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:44:43 PM)
Hi Susan, The Kink Aware Professionals list is maintained by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. It's a useful resource and can be reached here: http://www.ncsfreedom.org/kap/index.htm YIK, - Geoff

painpup -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:44:44 PM)
one thing i'm sure the bartender knows him of that house damnnnnnnnnnnnnnn not cool at all call cops hell call homeland an i'm not kidding around be SAFE never goit alone without a safe contact at least again be SAFE just reading Your entry creeps me out an makes bad for all u?Us out here

WhipTheHip -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:45:34 PM)
Try to find the owner of the club. You can do this by looking up in your local city and county records who owns the property, their occupational license registered with the city, and their corporate liicense registered with your Secretary of State. Contact the owner, or his registerd agent. You can call your city hall to find out about the owner of the place where you met. You can search on google for your secretary of state, or call your State Information Operater. Get this number from directory assistance. Let the owner know what heppened. He should advise the guy, that if he ever bothers you or anyone else again, he will be banned from the club. The guy is probably desperate to find a sub, and has no social skills. He could very well be dangerous. If I were you, I'd get my house alarmed. I'd call the police and ask them what you can do to make your home more secure. You might want to get high-security door locks, and locks for all your windows. I would have all these things in place anyway. I'd buy a shotgun, then learn how to use it. Keep your lights on at night, and a radio or TV playing. Don't buy a guard dog, unless you plan to keep it for life, and love it like a child. I'd try to get the submissive guy and his girlfriend to stay with you a month. Inform the police that someone is stalking you. Show them the note he left on your door. Try to contact the female you know from this site and ask her help. Try to find out who the guy is, where he lives, and what he does for a living. Tell him, if he doesn't stop harrassing you, you will let all his neighbors know, the police know, and his boss know just what kind of jerk he is. Carry a camera and a tape recorder around with you, and photograph the guy, and try to get his communications with you on tape. If you see him again, ask for his phone number and say you'd like to call him. Then when you call him, tell him you've given his phone number to the police. Try to get the tag number off his car. Tell him if he doesn't stop bothering you, you will become his biggest nightmare. Get some guy to threaten him with harm, if he doesn't stop stalking you.

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:45:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong Get his license plate number or at least the type and color of his car. Take the note to the police station. Give a description of the guy..For all you know he may be already wanted. Above all, Follow Your Gut feelings! Ahhhh Okay its You that runs with scissors...I'll remember that next time...LOL

SirMasterTeacher -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:50:58 PM)
Hindsight probably tells you that you made two errors that evening. The first was not complaining to the dungeon master when this creep approached you the second time. The second was not calling the police when he followed you home. Your safety is your primary concern. If anything, you underreacted. I hope you won't be as hesitant the next time something like this happens. The only way to control someone like him is to "nip it in the bud." Never ignore that little voice in your head or feeling in your gut when it comes to your safety.

angelic -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 1:58:08 PM)
susan i would like to just add. if you are out and about and happen to see him in your rearview mirror again... drive straight to the police station... let him follow you there.

popeye1250 -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 2:00:00 PM)
Whip, the Police will know who the owner of the building is, they (And the Fire Dept) have it in their records for "emergencies."

SirMasterTeacher -> RE: Please advise me. I'm scared I am being stalked (8/12/2006 2:08:50 PM)
Hindsight probably tells you that you made two errors that evening. The first was not complaining to the Dungeon Master when this creep approached you the second time. The second was not calling the police when you realized you were being followed home. Never compromise your safety. And never ignore that little voice in your head or feeling in your gut that you may be in danger. The benefit of paranoia is that it keeps you alive. The only way people like him can be controlled is to take control away from him and at the first opportunity. If anything, you underreacted.

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