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darkinshadows -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:21:33 AM)

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This really isn't one of those discussions or limits that people tend to have, which just shows that having a checklist of things from a bdsm website really doesn't discuss the realities of long term relationship issues.

I think this is a key observation.  I just felt like agreeing... back to the subject....
Peace and Rapture





LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:22:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: darkinshadows
This isn't a vegan debate.  This is a debate on vegetarianism.  Huge difference.
Religion is totally different to food.
The facts are actually against you.  Humans are originally fruit eaters. They are constructed (internally and teeth)  to originally consume and digest fruit.
 
Peace and Rapture
 
I thought humans were omnivores- meaning they could eat, digest and gain nutrients from both plants and animals?
 
I guess this is an important part when discussing health issues, but otherwise it's not very important.  I mean people use that sort of argument against homosexuality- that our sex organs were MADE for male/female sex and thus any other sort of sex is unhealthy and wrong.
 
I think someone who changes their diet significantly should understand and compensate appropriately to make sure they are getting a full and balanced meal.  Yes, people can survive on very little, but that doesn't make it the healthiest of diets.  Beyond that, eat or don't eat what you feel like.  I know many cultures/religions place limits on food and this can be a core part of a person, but it doesn't appear in this situation as that's really an issue.
 
And yes, being a vegetarian is a hugely different diet than a vegan.




darkinshadows -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:36:02 AM)

Human decendants were discovered to be fruit eaters (hence appendix and teeth).  Evolution to humans(as we are today) are omnivores.  So it is a little of both - but fruit came first.
Geez... ever think ya would see this christian talking about evolution?[:D]
 
Peace and Rapture




Fawne -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:39:02 AM)

"Forcing" is a strong word, respectfully.
 
Forcing health, or related issues without careful consideration can be dangerous.
 
 By personal experience, knowledge, not everyone can be a vegatarian. A few years ago, I become a vegan. I studied it, nutrition and did all the right things for almost a year. Thought it would be healthy for me. WRONG!
 
I saw a well known complimentary holistic doctor in NYC. He tested me. I had become badly B-12 deficient. Protein deficient also.
HE TOLD ME TO EAT SOME MEAT! ( I now eat even (clean) red meat now. A good steak- medium rare, please)
This is a doctor who promoted veganism, but now advises pesco veg. with even a little clean dairy and organic poultry for most people. Well rounded vegetaranism being healthier.
 
Soy is one of the most common allergies.
Some do not absorb protein well. On and on...
-If you do force him, please take him to a holistic DR.  as this is a serious matter.  This is way beyond "yuck- veggies"
 
I wish you well. TY for your patience at my rant. 
 




sleazybutterfly -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:53:54 AM)

I know there are great benefits to a vegan or vegetarian diet.  I was at my healthiest this way and one of the main reasons I am going back.  I think everyone has different reasons for being so.  If it's for moral reasons, there are lots of different things to read.  I would have him read them, see what factory farms and such are really like.  That might be enough to make him see that it's a win/win for him and the animals.  If you have health reasons as your sole core, Dr. Dean Ornish has some wonderful books out.  Heck, even Dr. Spock before he passed said that it was a great way to raise kids.  Give him the tools to learn about it, let him get the facts and work from there.

Yes, you can "force" him to, I don't think there is much doubt about that.  My question is.. Is his unhappiness about it, worth that part?  If all he wants is seafood, perhaps a compromise can be reached.  Maybe a seafood meal every couple of weeks or something.  

Wouldn't it be a lot better and more satisfying for him to decide this is best for him also.  A shared passion is much better than a begrudged one. 

There are places to get a lot of info on this and being a former veg you probably know them..but I put some links here anyway.


www.peta.org  animal rights stuff

www.vegtv.com  recipes

www.vegsource.com  all kinds of info

www.goveg.org  should be a free veg kit on here


A lot of libraries have books by Dr.Ornish, so you should be able to pick one up there.

~Andrea






Fawne -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 8:59:51 AM)

Quote-- Nikolette:  "I sort of feel like there are shades of grey in being a slave. I understand that the ideal for many people is total slavery and obediance in all things, but I do not believe that has a lot of realistic application in my own life. I encourage him to keep an open discussion with me about how he feels about things, as well as encouraging him to obey my final decision " -

Truly, thanks for posting such a fresh, thought provoking topic, Nikollette.

Humbly: those are wise words you wrote above.
Hopefully, other Mistress' and Masters realize practical application of power /control are needed.

This is real life, folks.

PS -and the reason I sometimes consider switching.
Thanks for the inspiration. Long time since I've heard a quote from Alan Watts too!  [:)]






FirmhandKY -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:03:10 AM)

oh, come on darkinshadows. 

First:

The reasoning behind my encouraging him to become a vegetarian is very intimate and ethical for me.

and

This issue wasn't really mentioned directly in the begining, although from the begining I have been very clear that I would require him to adjust to my standards of integrity and ethics


The OP admits it's an ethical issue, not primarily a health based one.  Ethics=beliefs=belief systems= religious.  Food and religion are connected in many ways.  This is just one more.  Would you like me to start listing dietary restrictions of major religions?

Second:

Where did I not distinguish between vegetarianism and veganism?  I do know the difference, but most of the time, it's a distinction without a difference.

Third:

Humans are originally fruit eaters. They are constructed (internally and teeth)  to originally consume and digest fruit.

You're going to have to source this assertion, if what you mean is that homo sapiens was never a meat eater, in any form, and only ate fruit. I'll have to disagree with you.  Tell me, what's the source of the human canine tooth?  To open the skin of fruits?

Man and our progenitor and related species of hominds certainly ate a lot of fruit, but were almost always omivores as well, with a taste for meat when they could get it.  The structure of the humans teeth and mouth do NOT favor a "plant only" diet, nor does the rest of the human body.

Does the term "hunter-gather" mean anything to you?

There are good arguments that meat eating became a requirement for the human race when his brain started to expand.  Or that his brain started to expand because he was able to eat more meat than his ancestors.

Regardless, This is even further from the OP's discussion.  I have no problem with someone wanting to be a vegan or a vegetarian.  But I don't think she should force it on anyone else, even her sub, especially because she was wishy washy about the entire subject before they became an pair (and even afterwards).

FHky




popeye1250 -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:09:23 AM)

A lot of people in the world get most of their proteins from rice and beans.
As for me I couldn't do it.
Everytime I watch one of those wildlife programs with the lions tearing zebras to pieces and eating them I get hungry for a steak.
How do vegetarians have cookouts anyway?
"More grilled carrots my Dear?"
"No, I'm stuffed from the fried lettuce!"
I'm not a big salad eater but I'll eat it if it comes with the meal.
When I was growing up we didn't have a lot of fresh vegetables unless we grew them ourselves during the summer.
My friend's grandfather owned these huge greenhouses and grew tomatoes. He couldn't ship the ripe ones because they'd rot in the boxes so he'd throw them out in the back of the greenhouses in huge piles.
I saw an opportunity and would pick through the piles and take the ripe ones and sell them from my wagon door to door for .10 cents a pound. I'd be covered in green tomatoe slime from the plants!
I made a lot of money in the summers doing that.
Somedays I'd make $3 or $4 a day, big bucks for a 10 year old in 1961!

"I'm not a vegetarian because I love animals, I'm a vegetarian because I hate plants."




FirmhandKY -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:21:09 AM)

http://www.vrg.org/nutshell/omni.htm#evidence

Conclusion:

Humans are classic examples of omnivores in all relevant anatomical traits. There is no basis in anatomy or physiology for the assumption that humans are pre-adapted to the vegetarian diet. For that reason, the best arguments in support of a meat-free diet remain ecological, ethical, and health concerns.

[Dr. McArdle is a vegetarian and currently Scientific Advisor to The American Anti-Vivisection Society. He is an anatomist and a primatologist.]

http://www.second-opinions.co.uk/carn_herb_comparison.html

Extract:

During our evolution, therefore, when we lived well, our diet must have been high in animal protein and fat, supplemented with wild fruit, but only during lean times would it include other foods of vegetable origin. As more than 99.9% of our genetic makeup evolved and was determined before we, as a species, started to heat and cook foods, that must still be the correct diet for us today.

Just some quick to find sources.

FHky




Fawne -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:24:39 AM)

FirmHandKY: Would you please pass the steak?
How do you enjoy yours, Sir?  Rare, I'd bet [:D] May I join you?

This whole thing makes me want to scream. Not the subject, or the OP-

But the naviety and assumption that "DOMINANTS KNOW ALL- organically and without consideration, learning, study too!" and if the slave/sub questions... <insert topic> ?

PS vegans can only have plant based foods. Veggies can be ovo lacto (egg + milk) pesco (fishies) but can't eat most things with faces.

help....





crouchingtigress -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:26:48 AM)

hi nikolette,
 
i have lived this one, my owner was a veg, i complied, but he took me out to sushi once a month.
 
negotiate with him, be reasonable, for my owner he could not have meat in the house, and he liked the way my juices tasted better when i was a veggie too (dramatic difference) so we limited to just a once and a while fish thing...but be flexible, communicate, put yourselves in his shoes....its a dramatic sacrifice that you are asking... if some one is constantly feeling lack they will begin to resent you after the initial mushy gushyness of the early stages wears off.
 
my rule with slaves is make it as easy as possible to transition, and only hold fast to the rules you deeply care about...there is no reason to sew seeds of decent if it is not somthing you are 100 invested in yourself.




sleazybutterfly -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:27:20 AM)

There are veg burgers, hot dogs, sausages, and portobello mushrooms to name a few..just throw on some pineapple and you have a yummy feast that no animal had to die for.  If you are vegan, watch for egg whites, but there are now lots of vegan options also.

Contrary to popular belief, vegetarians/vegans eat more than lettuce and carrots.  All it takes if a few good cookbooks and an open mind.




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:29:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Fawne

FirmHandKY: Would you please pass the steak?
How do you enjoy yours, Sir?  Rare, I'd bet [:D] May I join you?

Walk the cow over the fire and shoot it. 

I don't like rare food in general, I don't care if 99% of who I am was made in times of eating rare food.  But occasionally a steak tartare is very nice.

quote:


PS vegans can only have plant based foods. Veggies can be ovo lacto (egg + milk) pesco (fishies) but can't eat most things with faces.

help....

I never understood "vegetarians but I still eat fishlife"  It's still live animal product.  I'd understand if they only ate caviar. 




crouchingtigress -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:33:57 AM)

if some one is very fond of meat and they are restricted, they will begin to resent it....every restaurant, every  family event, every barbecue....why make your slave feel lack for you own personal choice?
 
 if you are on the fence that means you are not all that invested, so please dont create a "my way or the highway" situation for no good reason.
 
There will be plenty of things that will be obstacles that you are very firmly invested in in the future i assure you....
 
so give this some thought, work out what is right for you, any one giving you the advice Your are the D and they are the s, ask them if they have lived this, ask them if they have had experience with this issue, and find out if they have ever had a longterm relationship.
 
as i say i have lived this one, and i offer my very painful and hard earned insights for your consideration.




Slipstreme -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:36:39 AM)

If diet is something your sub/slave has decided to give consent to that you can control, they really shouldn't have much choice in the matter.

That being said, I was a vegetarian for quite some time for moral reasons. I'm not now, and the reasoning behind it, is a little creepy. Not to mention as a vegetarian, I had chronic headaches, odd body pains and such, but that could have been due to chiropractic problems as well, and even after a year and a half I still craved steak on a daily basis. (And I swear since becoming a meat eater again, it has become impossible to get steak as rare as I like it).  

Now, I might not have been doing the vegetarian thing right, missing out on something perhaps that meat has in it. I know there are ways to keep your protien intake high enough, most notably soy products and fake meats. One thing though about the fake meats, they were still never really real enough for me. So it is still a poor substitute but they are getting better. However, there is one protein found in meat that no vegetable on the planet produces: taurine (which is why carnivores need to eat meat, specifically felines. A lack of tuarine can kill them and make them go blind). I'm not sure how vital it is to a human diet, although I know it helps maintain eyesight.




Fawne -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:37:07 AM)

Table for three! Lady, would you care for a seat? [;)]

yes, fishies DO have faces and perhaps souls.

I do think modern industrialized farming methods are especially cruel and have unneeded toxins, homones, antibiotics etc.

Naturally raised adorable furry friends are healthier. ( ugh.. but...)

This is earth, not heaven or nirvana, alas. An ugly truth of existence. 

! Update! Table for four! Popeye, any fish to fry?

Must sing " Oh, mr. tally mon, tally me tomato..." [:D]




darkinshadows -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:39:39 AM)

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The OP admits it's an ethical issue, not primarily a health based one.  Ethics=beliefs=belief systems= religious.  Food and religion are connected in many ways.  This is just one more.  Would you like me to start listing dietary restrictions of major religions?

I never said that food and religious issues arent linked... I said that you cannot compare the two.  They are there own issues.  Your little chart proves nothing.
So the OP has a ethical reason... that isnt religious.  And if you read the OP and take the topic as a whole, you will see that it isn't really about the ethics... it is about whether or not to insist her slave obey her.  Do not try and sit there and tell me she isn't considering all outcomes - she obviously cares for her boy - and don't try and make it a force issue.  Things change - as I said in another thread - people have sudden revelations all the time  - you can't expect to just sign a contract and agree limits at the start of a relationship and just think thats that... nothing is ever gonna change.  Because if thats how your relationship works or you expect it to work - I have news for you.  It is going to become stagnant pretty damned fast.
 
Also note.  We are discussing a dominant/slave relationship here.  If you cannot understand that concept then don't bother answering because your point of view will not meld with this kind of agreement.
 
quote:

Where did I not distinguish between vegetarianism and veganism?  I do know the difference, but most of the time, it's a distinction without a difference.
In your post. (number 29)  You spoke about vegans, not vegetarianism in your post.
 
You also stated.
 
quote:

Even chimps eat meat when they can get it.

If that is your reasons why humans are omnivores, then thats a poor example.
Chimps also rape the females in their tribe.
Chimps also commit regular acts of canniblism.
 
Does that mean we humans must all be rapists by nature - and also able to commit canniblism without negative outcomes?
 
Humans were primarily fruit eaters.  During later devolpment they ate meat when it was available to them - if they found it - there is no evidence that human ancestors killed and became hunter- gatherers until much later in evolutionary history..  I challenge you to give any animal something that isnt on their food chain and they will consume it if they are on a survival mode.
 
Canine teeth are not relevant to the discussion of meat vs plant.  Human canines are smaller than they would be if meat was the main and primary source of nutrition.  Humans have no claws.  They sweat through pores.  The stomach acid is not capable of disolving raw meat in a continous manner.  We have saliva glads that are far advanced.  We have flat rear molars.  Human ancestors were primarily tree dwelling, not ground hunters and only began foragers when we evolved down from the trees.
 
I never said that humans were not omnivores ever, but primarily - in the beginning... they werent even herbivores, but frubivores.
quote:

There are good arguments that meat eating became a requirement for the human race when his brain started to expand.  Or that his brain started to expand because he was able to eat more meat than his ancestors.
 
And?  That doesn't prove that humans were originally omnivores or even carnivores.  It just shows they evolved into being such.
 
Peace and Rapture




popeye1250 -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:45:08 AM)

How do I like my steak?
Knock it's horns off, wipe it's ass and flip it.




juliaoceania -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:55:22 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikolette

Subs/slaves: How would you react and feel about your Owner expecting you to join them in vegetarianism?



Since you are directly asking me this I will not hold back... I would not stop eating meat for someone, even if they owned me. They have no right to change the rules of the game once I have negotiated with them my limits, and consuming meat is necessary to dietary health in my eyes. I know of too many people that suffered malnutrition that gave up meat, because not all amino acids are the same, and some are only present in animal flesh. My grounds would be physical health, and if someone expected me to ignore my health I would tell them to go f*** themselves, and I would figure they didn't love me to demand such of me. It would be different if they asked me not to do it with them in the same room, as it made them sick, but to change the rules in a way that jeopardized my health would be past my limits and I would simply be gone.

You have the right to want to own a slave that is a vegetarian as you are, go find one if this one is not pleasing anymore, but make no mistake, YOU are the one that broke the contract, not him.




darkinshadows -> RE: Forced Vegetarianism??? (8/17/2006 9:55:23 AM)

quote:

Walk the cow over the fire and shoot it. 

I don't like rare food in general, I don't care if 99% of who I am was made in times of eating rare food.  But occasionally a steak tartare is very nice.


I am not a great raw meat person, but I did once have some very thin slices of steak (and when I say thin I mean more than wafer) thatwas essentially 'cooked' in lemon juice.  Must say it was one of the most exquiste meats I have ever tasted.
 
But I didn't have to shoot it[;)]
 
Peace and Rapture




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