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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 12:01:34 AM

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Oh! Oh! Oh!

I loooooooooove face slapping. I like it cause it's personal and humiliating and shocking. I like watching someone struggle with pain and humiliation and anger and whatever it is that pushes him under.

Faceslapping is kindof like a really sharp cheese. You only need a little bit, as a garnish. Too much (for me), and it would overwhelm the palate. I can't imagine face slapping for an hour. Usually a few sharp slap, interspersed with caresses, are good.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 12:16:04 AM

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the first (and so far only) time that I was slapped in the face was by Sir. It was not something he had suggested or mentioned that he liked to do...

the interesting part was afterwards, when we were lying there snuggling (*giggles* Sir does like to cuddle and I love that about him) I suddenly lifted my head off of his arm and looked at him and asked "did you SLAP me??!!" and he started to laugh!! I said all indignant like "do you think that's funny??!!" and he said "I find it interesting (or amusing) that you have to ask."

in the moment, at that exact time, it didn't even register. Sir had not given me permission to orgasm and he thought that I was close and the slap was to kinda bring me back he said... it was not hard at all either according to him. I honestly only remember it in a kinda dreamlike state.

we talked about it for a while afterwards and he asked how I felt about it... I admitted that I was confused about it... I wasn't angry and there was part of me saying "deck the guy" and the other part of me saying "if you had to double check it isn't (or shouldn't be) a big deal... after thinking on it for a while I was okay with it. The possibly not okay with it I think stemmed from witnessing abuse as a child and feeling that I couldn't be okay with it... but I am. And that's the important thing.

is it something that I might request? No. Is it something that, outside of a D/s or M/s relationship I would tolerate? Absolutely freaking not. Am I confused or upset by it? No... I trust Master completely and he would never, NEVER, have allowed me to be wtih Sir if he didn't trust him with me... we talked, I'm good.

does it make for a slightly amusing story? You tell me!!

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 12:38:08 AM

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I like face slapping, done in moderation. I like to be shocked, put a little off balance. Also, I'm a bit of a pain slut. I don't like being slapped "cold" but if i'm aroused it really helps things along. Defintily lets me know that I'm not the boss, LOL. Also, if timed right it can lead to, or add to a great "O".

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 1:50:50 AM

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You know, I've never had this done to me - I used to have really strong feelings against it, but I guess I could wait until I tried it first. I just hope that whoever does this to me goes easy on me the first time. I agree with LordandMaster - know if your partner can take it, before you start doing it.

- Susan

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:00:10 AM

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I like to slap My girls face as encouragement and reward. A sign to her of the passion of the moment.
Especially when using her mouth hard and she is gagging, I like to slap her a bit and tell her she can do better. ( not too much better, as I love to feel her gag ).
If face slapping has nothing but negative overtones for her, then I would not. But I hope it could be overcome and eventually enjoyed.
I don't consider it differently than spanking. But that is My point of view. It can be a terrible thing to a woman.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:19:51 AM

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Face slapping is an act that I had considered in the past, because it was brought up by others, but was never on my list and found it a limit. Why? I do not know.

Maybe it its a trust thing, although I believe it is - to me - also a connection thing.

Right at this moment in time, I am finding the shoe is on the other foot, as it were. I want him to slap me. How hard? Not entirely sure and that is something we would discover along the way if he decides to allow it to happen. Surprise or plan? A little of both. How long for? To me, it is more a response to the moment thing - I do not really think about how long I would like, or could take an act - thats something that is discovered as and when and over time.

I cannot answer how it would make me feel - I can only say how the thought makes me feel.

It places him in control. It puts me - not so much in my 'place' - but in that certain space inside my head.

I find it quite releasing in itself that I trust and feel that connected to someone, that I want them to commit this act upon me if they so choose to, and not only that, but the beauty that I can ask him for it.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:23:16 AM

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That's kind of how I feel about it darkinshadows - it's growing on me, (but I don't have a partner, so it's not about having a specific person do it) - it just doesn't scare me as much as it used to do. It used to really turn me off, and I thought it was just...brutal. Now I can picture it being a turn-on with the right person. But - I still hope they go easy on me the first time.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:29:07 AM

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While slapping is fun, particularly if done repetitively and hard, it is not nearly as enjoyable as a nice swift punch to the face.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:38:57 AM

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Gosh, now that does sound brutal. I don't think I'd like that at all. But I am sure some people love it.

- Susan

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:41:21 AM

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A slap to the face must be delivered by surprise.
And please know what you are doing.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 4:03:59 AM

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Face slapping is yummy. It usually makes me all riled up and growly and fiesty. Hmm how hard. Hard enough to make a sound (not a loud sound), but not hard enough to make your head reel back or to leave more than a very fine pink mark which fades quickly. Best spot for me, imagine cupping someone's cheek in your hand, and then slap that spot ..

I have even had it done where the palm was rested under my chin and my cheek slapped with the fingers with increasing intensity. I can only handle that for a short while as it can start to really sting (and I'm a wuss) :)

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:09:10 AM

Rayne58

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It's not for me, and it's a hard limit for Master too. It borders on abusive for us. Same with punching, anywhere not just the face.

I have a "thing" about my face. I think it's because so many of our senses are centred there. Sight, hearing, smell, taste. I can be spanked, flogged etc and that just doesn't have the abusive connotation to me that a slap in the face does. Mind you I am not big on humiliation either (another hard limit, apart from gentle teasing in private). I doubt I will be overcoming this any time sooner or later.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:22:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I've seen this on many profiles in here.
I've never done it before and if a submissive wanted me to do it we'd have to sit down and talk about it.
For those of you who like having your face slapped how hard do you like it slapped?
Do you like to be "surprised" by it or "plan" for it?
How does it make you feel?
For how long do you like to have your face slapped, an hour, a few minutes?

When it is slapped, hard and suprising. It has made me feel humble, angry, and sometimes erotic, it all depends on the situation. A single hard slap is all i ever needed. And if a trickle of blood is felt on my bottom lip, even better.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:41:14 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
LA is right

And you better believe I'll be basking in THAT all morning.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:43:19 AM

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Face slapping is something that I enjoy but I know people that will hit you right back, or just burst into tears on the spot (and not in a good way). I definately think its something that needs to be talked about first, not right before hand but just in general. I like it to be done just once and at least somewhat of a suprise, and hard enough to hurt but not hard enough to hurt my neck, I find that uncomfortable and in me it causes headaches which is not fun. It is definately a humbling experience for me. Sometimes it makes me mad and it is definately a challenge to work around that, but other times it is just erotic, it depends on the context.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:45:27 AM

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Hmmm, Susan keeps saying ' brutal ' as though it were a bad thing! heh heh heh

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:54:05 AM

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

A slap to the face must be delivered by surprise.
And please know what you are doing.

The surprise element is awesome, but there is also something to be said for kneeling as he stands before me and pulls my face up by the hair, and raises his hand , lingering it above so that I know its coming... I will usually nudge my face out a little further as if to dare, "Do it!"

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:56:46 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I've seen this on many profiles in here.
I've never done it before and if a submissive wanted me to do it we'd have to sit down and talk about it.
For those of you who like having your face slapped how hard do you like it slapped?
Do you like to be "surprised" by it or "plan" for it?
How does it make you feel?
For how long do you like to have your face slapped, an hour, a few minutes?

i used to like it. my ex enjoyed the fact that he could get me to not flinch at all. It is something he never crossed the line with. When a subsequent dom asked me about this i was open to it, we didn't talk a great deal about it, only that he had done it before and loved it, as well as the subs he slapped seemed to love it as well.

The first time he slapped me it wasn't a surprise and he slapped me 3 times quite rapidly. i sort of fell over, was dazed, had ringing in my ears and was left with an odd sensation on my lip for over 3 weeks, i assume he hit a facial nerve. Obviously i trusted someone who didn't know what the heck he was doing. Since then i have done research and this site is good for understanding how dangerous face slapping can be: http://www.frugaldomme.com/dangers/danger10.htm

i would not allow it again untill there was an overabundance of trust.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 6:56:51 AM

marieToo

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You tell me Popeye... just how hard and how long would you face slap a woman who has your cock in her mouth?

lmfaoooooooooooo

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 7:02:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: popeye1250

I've seen this on many profiles in here.
I've never done it before and if a submissive wanted me to do it we'd have to sit down and talk about it.
For those of you who like having your face slapped how hard do you like it slapped?
Do you like to be "surprised" by it or "plan" for it?
How does it make you feel?
For how long do you like to have your face slapped, an hour, a few minutes?

I enjoy it. I think that, along with some of the harder-edged 'hot-button' things that can be done in BDSM, it needs to be discussed from as many angles as possible before it ever gets done so that you know where your partner is at with it and both parties have a chance to develop some understanding of their partner's position.

I like to utilize it as a surprise measure...if I am doing a hard, rough scene it can often be the added definitive element becomes it is a quick strike; unexpected even in the midst of the roughness. In a softer scene, it can be that touch of brutality and a seemingly casual bit of cruelty.

I do not go for really hard slaps that would end up costing me days away from playing because my toy is in a state of disrepair and I think that, for me anyway, extended face-slapping would lose its intended effect. If not on her, then on me.

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