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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 10:11:42 AM

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my face is slapped in public as a humilation. be it at the food court of a mall or a restaurant. its not done cause i said something wrong it just makes me feel like i want hide. m

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 10:59:53 AM

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Being slapped in the face just irritates and pisses me off. I've never found it at all enduring or erotic personally.

Just one of those things I just don't "get" I guess. I can be flying high from being flogged or paddled or whatever, but a slap in the face is a complete mood killer for me. I have had Dom's that will lightly tap my cheek and though I find it slightly annoying I don't complain. Hit me hard though and I tend to get angry fast and lose all submissive tendancies in a flash.

I'm not saying it's something I might not learn to accept or enjoy at some point in my life but I do have it as a limit at this time.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 1:21:29 PM

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I don't find it a turn on. Mistress does slap my face when she believes I am not paying full attention or am not quick enough to answer. It is always a surprise and never known about. It makes me feel humiliated but also really focusses my mind to Mistress and what I am supposed to be doing. It also serves to remind me of who is in charge and why. Sometimes it will be 5 times in a session and other times Mistress may go a month without doing it.
Boy does it remind me of my place.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:34:27 PM

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While slapping is fun, particularly if done repetitively and hard, it is not nearly as enjoyable as a nice swift punch to the face.

hmm I'm thinking that would probably be that last time He touched me if He punched me in the face. and they might have to surgically remove my teeth from various parts of his body, and perhaps suture a few stictches.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:42:37 PM

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All I can say is…try to keep in mind all things are relative! I’m fairly sure most of us here are not talking about knocking teeth out, for heaven’s sake.

If you’ve not seen it done to someone who adores it, or ever been slapped in a BDSM ‘manner’ (for whatever reason) by someone you love…perhaps you don’t understand it.

I get overly tired of people who insist something is just ALL BAD. It sounds a lot like the vanilla world who thinks floggers fillet skin, and all those into BDSM are whacko. <sigh>

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:50:18 PM

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I know people that are into primal play and hard hitting, blooding and all. If that's what you're into then that's great. I'm just speaking from my personal opinion. If anyone punched me in the face Dom or not there would be blood shed on both sides I'm sure.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 2:55:27 PM

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How many times must we suggest that is NOT what we are talking about here?

Yes... some DO do that; but that doesn't seem to be the nature of this discussion, now does it?

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:12:12 PM

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All I can say is…try to keep in mind all things are relative! I’m fairly sure most of us here are not talking about knocking teeth out, for heaven’s sake.

If you’ve not seen it done to someone who adores it, or ever been slapped in a BDSM ‘manner’ (for whatever reason) by someone you love…perhaps you don’t understand it.

I get overly tired of people who insist something is just ALL BAD. It sounds a lot like the vanilla world who thinks floggers fillet skin, and all those into BDSM are whacko. <sigh>

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Exactly, to have one's face craddled and stroked gently before the "smack" comes isn't brutal at all. The tender look on his face and his interest in my well being are apparent to me when this occurs.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:15:34 PM

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Just be prepaired to explain to the mall cops and maybe real cops you allow it and it is not domestic abuse. The cops might arrest the one doing the slapping anyway even if you insist it's not abuse.

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my face is slapped in public as a humilation. be it at the food court of a mall or a restaurant. its not done cause i said something wrong it just makes me feel like i want hide. m

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:24:28 PM

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I think it is put too much in the "beat me bloody" category. I admit, I do like it very hard and I don't even mind a bruise or two. It's all about the way it's done. I have had the slap because I wasn't paying attention (not as enjoyable). Then there is the hitting that has fire behind it, care, passion, a caress, a kiss, and so much more. It's a build up, a slap, then harder, and as the face gets warmer, harder still. I have actually said that I couldn't be with a Dom that didn't want to do this, that is how much it gives to me. We aren't all into the same things, there are many things I just don't get. I have quit trying to figure it out and just figure I am sure some stuff I like, they wouldn't get either. It's opening yourself up to the pleasure that is out there, from a million different sources, that is the greatest gift that bdsm has given me. ~Butterfly

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:55:57 PM

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I've seen this on many profiles in here.
I've never done it before and if a submissive wanted me to do it we'd have to sit down and talk about it.
For those of you who like having your face slapped how hard do you like it slapped?
Do you like to be "surprised" by it or "plan" for it?
How does it make you feel?
For how long do you like to have your face slapped, an hour, a few minutes?

I like face slapping quite a bit but I suspect its largely context specific. If he slaps my face or makes me beg for face slapping while he's fucking me its absolutely out of this world wonderful. We once tried face slapping in a very non-sexual context and it left us both feeling like bleech.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 3:56:52 PM

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I fancy a little face slapping once in awhile ... partly fora humiliation technique ... partly to make sure I maintain her full atentions . I don't think I have ever slapped hard enough that someone spits teeth but enough to raise a sting tothe side of the face.

the only punching technique I have ever done was to the breast .... other wise I save the punching for bar room brawls and not with women .... mostly due to my size and strength . if I ever hit a women full force I think I waould cave in some part of her body ..... tho I must admit I did like the breast punching.

Guess I'm a sadist

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 4:03:31 PM

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I am a little late on this thread, but I really like face slapping so I have to get in on it.

It is difficult to say "how hard" to slap. I guess I like it hard enough to sting. I like to really FEEL it. But not so hard there are marks that last more than an hour after the end of play.

I like to be startled by a slap sometimes. Other times I know he is getting ready to slap me and the anticipation is excellent too. For example, if I am giving him head he might use my hair to yank my face sideways and expose it...if his knee raises up a little on the other side to brace me -- then I know he is about to slap me.

It makes me feel....aroused I guess. It is a rush that I love. I don't feel shamed or scolded or humiliated by it, but I assume that is context. Sometimes it makes me feel startled. I see it as a very intimate thing. I like the force and rawness, but it does not make me feel "powerless." It actually is the opposite effect and makes be feel powerful -- yet vulnerable.

As for time frame, I doubt I would like to have my face slapped one right after another for an hour. It would sort of lose its effectiveness. But I do like to have it slapped repeatedly with other stuff hapenning in between. I guess I have not been slapped more then 3-4 times in a row.

Once I turned as he slapped me and he caught part of my ear by mistake and that was not a good thing. It just startled me and made my ear ring enough that it took me out of the moment. He realized right away he had missed slightly and toned everything way down. Now he pretty much always grabs my hair or secures me in some other way before he does -- but grabs my hair frequently enough it doesn't automatically signal a slap is coming.

Once I bit my cheek and it bled slightly. Very hot. He frequently slaps me when his cock is in my mouth, and has never been bitten yet. He does twist me so the force is coming across my face and not at an angle that would cause biting down just from the force.

Sigh...I am wet.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 4:06:29 PM

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Face slapping is a hard limit of mine, always has been. I am one of those people who goes from benign to bitch in a nanosecond if my face is slapped. This was a huge punishment for me when I was growing up and it was awful, though it didn't happen all the time. It's a trigger for me, and fortunately, my Master understands that while He chooses what limits there are or are not, He has never tried this one and won't. It isn't sensual or anything to me and puts me in a "Oh yeah, bring it on!" mindset which would just get ugly. Thankfully, there are many other things that we can do that turn us on or bring us closer.

Just my opinion, YMMV.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 5:03:52 PM

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I never thought I'd get into this.

Famous last words.

Ty all, now I understand more about the emotional headspace from the sub's POV, it comes at the right time. I studied and knew about protecting the neck, but didn't know about protecting facial nerves. Now I'll find out where they are and be very careful...though I don't hit that hard, just enough to make a small noise.

It's funny how that look of subspace on someone's face will turn things from "not my style, but I'll go there occasionally" to yesssssssssssssss.

Thanks to Bearlee for helping us to understand more about punching. Don't know if I'll ever do it, but it just got removed from my hard limits list.

I couldn't do it to breasts, if I ever tried fem subs, because of fear of forming necrotic tissue that would interfere with reading mammograms, causing the woman to have to undergo more biopsies to check out questionable areas. (My sister had to have one of those and was having panic attacks for weeks beforehand over it.) Maybe using an ultrasound makes this issue moot, I don't know.

I'll have to go to that link later tonight, but thanks for posting it.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 5:05:37 PM

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I don't like being slapped in the face, it does nothing to me, but make me mad.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 5:22:56 PM

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Face slapping; Too dangerous...I won't do it. I don't like the odds of possibly breaking my toys.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 5:42:38 PM

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Once I turned as he slapped me and he caught part of my ear by mistake and that was not a good thing. It just startled me and made my ear ring enough that it took me out of the moment.

The exact same thing happened to me. He is always careful about positioning, but I moved at the wrong time and my ear was ringing as a result.

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 7:06:47 PM

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Sometimes I am compelled to face slap. It is a surprise for me and the slapee... my slave boy... I never do it for prolonged periods. But at times, he must be slapped.. I will tell him what a slut he is, and how inappropriate his behavior is.. he will wince and squirm. He will flinch, expecting the slap.. I will carress his cheek, laughing. The slap is never hard and I try to keep in mind the thing has ears and also to hold his head so I do not hurt his poor little slave- neck.

Nothing compares to that look of humiliated submission... *tingle* ;D

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RE: Face Slapping. - 8/22/2006 7:22:09 PM

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the only punching technique I have ever done was to the breast .... other wise I save the punching for bar room brawls and not with women .... mostly due to my size and strength . if I ever hit a women full force I think I waould cave in some part of her body ..... tho I must admit I did like the breast punching.

Ummm, Tamer...

I realize that most all of what it is that we do can be dangerous, but seriously... do you have any idea what the ramifications can be for the damage you could do?

Breast injury can lead to a localized hematoma producing a region of fat necrosis. This fat necrosis occurs because the body is trying to repair the damaged tissue, and the area becomes replaced by firm scar tissue. Because most breast cancers are also firm, areas of fat necrosis with scarring can be difficult to distinguish from cancers by a breast physical exam. A needle biopsy, or sometimes a surgical excision, will be needed to decide if cancer is present.

While you may not be causing life threatening or lasting damage, you could be inadvertently compromising your partner's ability to self-examine for breast cancer.

Of course, I've no idea what you mean by "punching", nor the force you put behind your blows... you have to decide if your enjoyment is worth the risk.

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