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ORIGINAL: anondom

It amazes me how submissives and even others will jump on anyone who says anything against BBWs as shallow assholes and yet...

Those very same women do not bother emailing anyone who isn't thin and handsome with a picture.  So not only are some (because of course the 800 women who respond to this are ALL exceptions) just as shallow as male doms, they are also hypocrites as well.

I did a test of a couple of profiles, I even used the same wording just different pictures, one showing a "handsome" guy, one showing an "ugly " guy and another blank.

I only got responses from the "handsome" picture.  Almost all were women that the ugly guy might have considered being seen with.

Now love and lust come in strange packages, I will admit that and heck, I have known large women I have lusted after for what was inside them.  That said, for them to NOT respond to the words, the SAME words, not until they were tied to a handsome face is hypocritical and far more shallow than men who at least have the integrity to admit looks matter.

So, lets see where this thread goes other than a flame fest against me for pointing out the fat elephant in the corner.

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ORIGINAL: Skier

I implore everyone to make sure that you lead a healthy lifestyle. That means moderate exercise and sensible eating.  Over 300,000 people in the U.S. die prematurely every year  because of being overweight. That's one hundred 9-11's. This isn't about BDSM, but you will be more attractive/handsome to many more people and it's something that's within your control (if you're honest with yourself). 

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

Anyone notice that the thread title is "Fat, old, or ugly submissives"  if Y/you're on pages 1-4 and 6+  

BUT if Y/you're on page 5..  it's entitled "Drop and give me 20".

WTF?

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ORIGINAL: Skier

I implore everyone to make sure that you lead a healthy lifestyle. That means moderate exercise and sensible eating.  Over 300,000 people in the U.S. die prematurely every year  because of being overweight. That's one hundred 9-11's. This isn't about BDSM, but you will be more attractive/handsome to many more people and it's something that's within your control (if you're honest with yourself). 

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ORIGINAL: slavejlb

hey i am finally being talked about
i old, and have the grey hairs to prove, i am short and getting shorter with age, and i am fat, i have a scale that tell me one person at a time.
so thank you
take care and be safe

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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

There's a couple things in a profile that invariably catch and hold my attention.  Specifically: sci-fi/fantasy gaming geek or actively involved in some aspect of fandom (eg, goes to DragonCon, looks good in Ren Faire/SCA wear, is a filker, etc), or otherwise sharing some of my real life non kinky interests.

As for looks, I like long hair and am a serious fetishist for medieval/fantasy/SCA/Ren Faire clothes.  If a guy looks good in that kind of gear (and larger guys certainly can), I will find him attractive.  I do require a degree of committment to fitness and health in order to spend time with a person, though the results don't need to be instant.   I don't mind a partner who is overweight, but I would have a very hard time being with someone who smoked heavily, drank a lot of alcohol and/or ate unhealthy junk food.  I try to stay committed to my own physical, mental and emotional health and it's difficult to stay healthy if your partner eats a juicy Big Mac and crispy fries in front of you while you have to stick to a grilled chicken salad.  So for the sake of my own health, I don't want to eat with someone who makes unhealthy food choices.  It's just too painful to watch (and smell) at close range when I can't have any.  I will go and take my meals somewhere else rather than be subjected to temptation that is not good for me.  That would certainly be awkward if I was spending a lot of time with someone, so one of my criteria for a partner has to be a real interest in eating healthy. 

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ORIGINAL: MistressLorelei
I would agree with you on the importance of a healthy lifestyle.  But a lot of things many of us do every day are dangerous.  Riding in a car is riskier than a bad diet and sedentary behavior... yet, it's a risk most of us take.  Some of your leisure preferences, skiing, travel and horseback riding are riskier than many other sports and hobbies you could choose, but you wouldn't expect anyone to criticize or implore you to alter your behaviors for the sake of safety/health.  I only checked your profile, as your skier name got me thinking.

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ORIGINAL: WhipTheHip

I must not look all that good, since I have hardly gotten any spontaneous
messages from any female.

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Some people are naturally more energetic and naturally have less interest
in food, and some people naturally have less energy and more interest
in food.  Appetite and how energetic a person feels depends upon
neurotransmitters, hormones like cortisol and adrenalin, and neural and
hormonal receptors.   People with a very active central nervous system
CNS will not gain weightt.  Those with a depressed CNS will gain weight.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl
(By the way, nice to see another fantasy/gamer type person!)

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ORIGINAL: diamonddreamlove

Wow i am shocked that women would share such attitudes with men or perhaps we should just say simply that some women and some men are shallow.  Enough said!