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RE: Does income matter? - 9/6/2006 5:11:11 PM

marieToo

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Do you think income plays a factor in a M/s D/s relationship and where the power lies?

Yes. I think it can and does in some Ms Ds relationships. But I also think it can and does in "non Ms Ds" relationships as well. Should it? Not in my opinion.

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RE: Does income matter? - 9/6/2006 5:32:58 PM

Rayne58

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I know there have been questions on here about Dom/mes incomes however this sparked a question in my mind.

I know I have met a number of Dominants who backed off quickly when they found out how much money I made per year. The fact I made much more than they did seemed to truly intimidate them.

I know in society today power = money and money = power.

Do you think income plays a factor in a M/s D/s relationship and where the power lies?

Owned
ps it was not because I am fat ugly or smelly that the dominant types scurried away

Master and I are both on welfare and we each get the same amount each fortnight. However I am still getting money from my ex husband and I have a sizeable amount invested back in New Zealand. Master has no savings at all and the welfare benefit is the only money He has. We each have our own bank accounts and I control my own money.

The money I have from my ex is used to make life easier for us, to provide little luxuries and it has also purchased new glasses for both of us. He insists that I go and spoil myself by having facials, manicures and massages. I have also bought us new toys

He doesn't feel threatened that I have more money than He has. Ours is a partnership, the money is there why shouldn't it be used to provide for both of us? To deprive ourselves for the sake of pride really is silly

*Sits back and waits for the calls of "you're not a real sub"

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RE: Does income matter? - 9/6/2006 6:12:03 PM

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Yup, I agree. It can and often does, but not always. I've known situations where a slave vastly outearned his or her master/mistress, although in most cases I know, the master's income is greater.

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Do you think income plays a factor in a M/s D/s relationship and where the power lies?

Yes. I think it can and does in some Ms Ds relationships. But I also think it can and does in "non Ms Ds" relationships as well. Should it? Not in my opinion.

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RE: Does income matter? - 9/6/2006 6:22:13 PM

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In our house it is not who earns the money but who "controls" it. One of my responsibilities as Master is to manage the finances....it also helps that I am an accountant.

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RE: Does income matter? - 9/8/2006 2:58:07 PM

denika

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For most of our relationship I have brought home a higher wage than Rob. It's the specialized industry I'm in, they pay us well for the stress we deal with. Never once has this made him feel 'threatened' or less of a man because the house income came mainly from me. Money is only a problem when you don't have any and we have been there too and it didn't change our relationship dynamic. As Knight said it is about the dynamic in the relationship not where the money comes from. As long as all parties are happy and it works for them. Rob and I have had more of a 50/50 relationship but as he has grown more comfortable with his natural dominant tendancies he has taken more or a leadership role in making the choice on what is spent and where, the first time I asked permissin to buy a book the look on his face was pretty priceless then it changed to something deeper when he realised I was serious about asking for his permision with what most would consider "MY" money. He rarely denies me ( I'll be the first to say I'm spoiled rotten *s* those who know me will attest to this) but I also make sure he knows how much I appreciate being spoiled and it is not taken for granted.

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