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Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:05:23 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Giving out your phone number. Is it right or wrong. You hear that you should never give out your phone number. Then you hear if they wont give you a phone number then they are hiding something. I've been on the internet since the beginning and have never giving out my phone number. If you want to talk use a computer mike . They are cheap and you dont have to pay for the call.
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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:08:20 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have given my cell phone no. but never my home no.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:09:03 AM   
lauren0221


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Status: offline 		Giving out your phone number is giving out your name and address. When you know someone well enough,  and trust them with this information, it's fine. Normally not such a good idea with someone you have just met.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:09:24 AM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I have a cell phone which is untraceable to me, and I used this in the past instead of a landline number. That being said, I would not meet with someone that did not divulge some of their personal information to me, including a landline number. That has not cost me dates in the past, it may cost someone a date with you.

If two people cannot meet because of the comfort level of giving out information I guess it was not meant to be. What works for you and what works for someone else are often going to be two different things.

On Edit: If it comes time where I am going to actually meet someone, I insist that a landline be given to confirm who they are to my safecall and ease my mind that the person isn't hiding me from their wife/girlfriend.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:16:55 AM   
OhReallyNow


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Status: offline 		I have given out my phone number on occassion. It really depends on the gut instinct that I feel at the time that I am asked. Some I have had a good feeling about, some I have not.
 
As of yet, and I hope never to have it happen, but as of yet, I have not run into any issues with those who have my number.
 
edited to add:
 
If the truth be known, I have a harder time turning on a web cam for someone than I do with giving out my phone number.
don't figure

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:18:51 AM   
stlmatt


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Status: offline 		The only time i've ever given my cell number to someone on the net, was for a specific meeting.  Basically if i thought i'd have trouble finding the place or if someone was late.  It never crossed my mind to give a landline or for the purpose of just talking.  I guess I just don't like to talk on the phone.  If the person isn't present, there is nothing i can't text or message for them to read at their convienence.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:19:08 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		I can see giving out a cell phone number but not your landline number. If your going to collar someone or be collared for sure then I would but up until then no way.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:24:21 AM   
ScarletOdyssey


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Status: offline 		You are 'right on' about this.
Using the mics are much more fun because you can be spontaneous and
hear that persons voice..get a genuine feel  about them..and still be safe.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:25:56 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		A little different question. why would a woman give out her number on the net to a perfect stranger. If she met that same person on the street and he asked her for it she would say no.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:26:41 AM   
ADomDoc


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Status: offline 		There's a LOT of information you can learn about a person to establish whether you may or may not be compatible before you get to the point of trading "identifying information."  Once you give out identifying info (real name, telephone numbers that have your real name & number tied to the account, address, place of employment, specifics of your type of employment & the city where you work, etc), you can't reel it back if the other person turns out to be undesireable or a problem. 
Anyone who demands instant contact from the outset either is or will be a problem OR has no idea of personal security.  I appreciate that some of us prefer email & others think that the spontaneous nature of online chat is better.  Then some are more aurally centered & prefer to hear the sound of the other's voice to judge their character.  So we have to deal within these personal preferences.
Julia's use of a non-traceable cell phone is good for the Doms who demand to phone early on ... & I certainly don't blame her for wanting reassurance that the guy isn't a cheating husband who wants a trick on the side (there are just too many of those jerks polluting this site). 
Personally, I don't ask for ... and don't give out my phone number til I'm pretty damned sure thru emails that the other person is someone I'd even consider meeting.
One alternative to giving out too much personal info before meeting would be to schedule a meeting in a crowded neutral location (the sub can bring her duenna who sits across the room) ... and pre-agree NOT to adjourn from that meeting place on that first meeting.  Just meet & get to know ea other before checking each other's driver's licenses.

Just my 2cents worth.



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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:28:10 AM   
GeekyGirl


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Status: offline 		Well I stopped using my landline telephone at all two years ago. I don't even have a telephone hooked up in my house. My cell phone is untraceable and I don't mind giving out the number.

Using a mike on the computer is not a possiblity for those of us on dial-up....it just doesn't work well.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:29:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Giving out your phone number. Is it right or wrong. You hear that you should never give out your phone number. Then you hear if they wont give you a phone number then they are hiding something. I've been on the internet since the beginning and have never giving out my phone number. If you want to talk use a computer mike . They are cheap and you dont have to pay for the call.


I think that after you have spent time talking online and want to go to that next level of talking you need to be hearing voices. For me, that's going to be a few weeks of talking regularly online before I feel comfortable enough giving out my phone number. I also know that it is very likely that Fox or Tom will answer the phone so someone who wants my number better be comfortable with answering their question "May I inquire as to the nature of your phone call?" (Fox) or "Who are you?" (Tom).

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:29:43 AM   
LadyWhisper


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Status: offline 		This is a tough subject of course. We all are untrusting people for various reasons. You ask for phone number in order to find out if that person is real, then again you do not want to give your number for the next thing you know they are Googling your ass and getting all sorts of information on you, name, address, with enough searching you can even get someones SS number.

I say chat a bit on line for some time, way before annoucing your number, feel comfortable enough on line first then perhaps go further into phone numbers and such. There are some of us like mentioned that doesn't like speaking on phone, maybe that is why I am here on line instead on the phone. But for the right person and for the right feeling I am the first to want to speak on the telephone.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:29:46 AM   
GeekyGirl


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

. If your going to collar someone or be collared for sure then I would but up until then no way.


Well duh :P I would assume if you're talking about collars that you would not only have each other's phone number but also have spent a good amount of time together in person!

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:30:37 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I can see giving out a cell phone number but not your landline number. If your going to collar someone or be collared for sure then I would but up until then no way.


If they are going to collar me, well they are going to introduce me to their friends and family, and unmentionables if they have those. A collar goes way past a landline number..smiles. Would you believe that my Daddy had me call my safecalls with his license plate number, his driver's license number, and they had his landline number too when we met? He did not only give it to me, but he gave it to my best buddy and my mom also... and that was our first date. I did not demand this, but I sure as hell appreciated it and it made me feel safe.

I think this is the difference in what one looks for... are you looking for a cyber collar or a real life one, are you looking for an online relationship or a real life one.. I have no time for internet relationships at this point and was looking for the real deal.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:39:00 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Julia  one sub that I met her kids did a backround check on me with the police before they would let her meet me.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:41:02 AM   
zumala


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Status: offline 		I haven't given my phone number out to anyone from CM yet.  Depending on whether or not we meet someone we're serious about, I may never.  I absolutely will not give my phone number to someone who just outright asks/demands that I do so.  I've run a trace on myself using my phone number, and that's way the hell more information than I want Joe Blow to be able to pick up.
 
I think pup and I are more likely to e-mail and chat a long time, and then even meet someone face-to-face before we'd give our phone number and home location away.
 
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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:58:14 AM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Julia  one sub that I met her kids did a backround check on me with the police before they would let her meet me.

Well that is not what I needed to do before I met someone...

It just surprised me that you would state a landline would not be important unless a collar was planned, the only men I have ever given my landline to are the ones I ended up submitting to... a grand total of two.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 11:09:20 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Everyone has to find the balance that works for them.  I require at least one phone call before I meet someone offline. 

Some people I give them my number after the first email.  Some people will never have my phone number.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 11:11:30 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
A little different question. why would a woman give out her number on the net to a perfect stranger. If she met that same person on the street and he asked her for it she would say no.

That's not necessarily true.  I've given my number out to people I've just met online for a variety of reasons, but mostly because it felt right to me.  And so far, it's been fine.

I'll also say- I don't have a landline, all I have is my cell.

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