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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 6:40:45 PM   
Owned1


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Giving out your phone number. Is it right or wrong. You hear that you should never give out your phone number. Then you hear if they wont give you a phone number then they are hiding something. I've been on the internet since the beginning and have never giving out my phone number. If you want to talk use a computer mike . They are cheap and you dont have to pay for the call.


Relatively early on in communication, I will require a phone number. I consider it putting your mug where your mouth is. The person can, of course, refuse to do so, just as I can (and will) refuse to continue the dialog.

In my opinion, IM and email exchange has a shelf life. Pixel text and quaint iconography will never be able to replace verbal communication.


I agree with amayos on this one,  I think one can be too security conscious.  How many of us have given a phone number to someone in a bar they met that night?  That is before the days of the internet and the days of meeting others in bars or clubs.

This is not to say I give my number out if I am not comfortable.  It is usually after I have communicated with the individual for a period of time (nothing preset) and feel I would like to hear the voice of the person I am typing with.

I have tried voice on my computer but in the past I sounded kinda like a chipmunk on speed so that really did not work.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 6:48:11 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Personally, I have no problem giving out my phone number for one simple reason.  I have a cell phone.
They arent caling my home, I dont have to give them any information aside from my number, and I can gaurnatee that I will be the only one answering.  Back when we had to weigh th eidea of handing out real home numbers, I was a lot more cautious.  But now, heck, why not.  I have free evening minutes.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:17:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I agree with amayos on this one, I think one can be too security conscious. How many of us have given a phone number to someone in a bar they met that night? That is before the days of the internet and the days of meeting others in bars or clubs.


That is an excellent point. I think the internet in some ways has managed to make people more paranoid than they should be. While it's true there was once a time when people weren't worrying about port scans, google maps, IP tracing and so on, the fact remains that those strangers we meet and openly talk with everyday with such passing nonchalance could easily take down our license plate number and follow us home.




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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:23:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I agree with amayos on this one, I think one can be too security conscious. How many of us have given a phone number to someone in a bar they met that night? That is before the days of the internet and the days of meeting others in bars or clubs.


That is an excellent point. I think the internet in some ways has managed to make people more paranoid than they should be. While it's true there was once a time when people weren't worrying about port scans, google maps, IP tracing and so on, the fact remains that those strangers we meet and openly talk with everyday with such passing nonchalance could easily take down our license plate number and follow us home.





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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:28:55 PM   
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My phone number requires a level 4 security clearance with biometric confirmation of identity... a gal can't be too careful these days


* Laughs

This phone number will self-destruct in five seconds.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:45:42 PM   
marieToo


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I give my number when I feel ready.  If I dont feel sure, I'll use my cell phone or block my number if using the land line before I call the other person.  After I feel comfy, then I stop blocking. Ive never had a problem, or had anyone get mad at me or take it personally. 

If Im interested in someone, I like to take it to voice in a relatively short period of time, but that doesnt mean they need my number on the first call.  Im not navigated at all by logic and reason, Im navigated soley by intuitive feelings.  After I get a voice read Im better able to determine sanity, or lack thereof,  on the other end.  On a computer, thats almost impossible, even for me.



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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:50:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I agree with amayos on this one, I think one can be too security conscious. How many of us have given a phone number to someone in a bar they met that night? That is before the days of the internet and the days of meeting others in bars or clubs.


That is an excellent point. I think the internet in some ways has managed to make people more paranoid than they should be. While it's true there was once a time when people weren't worrying about port scans, google maps, IP tracing and so on, the fact remains that those strangers we meet and openly talk with everyday with such passing nonchalance could easily take down our license plate number and follow us home.





Valid points.  If I order a pizza, I think nothing of the delivery guy knowing my name and address. But the pizza delivery guy hasnt been having delusions of granduer about tieing and whipping me either. 

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 8:58:09 PM   
LadyZee


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Status: offline 		Whether it is right or wrong depends on each person's own personal comfort level and preference.  Personally, I have no desire to invest a great deal of time and energy on electronic communications.   I know that I am not interesed in a person who lacks good  communication skills.  For this reason, speaking on the telephone, then meeting in person (if warranted) is my preference.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:08:15 PM   
Misstoyou


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Status: offline 		I essentially skip the phone. If they are somebody I want to meet, we meet. I only call to confirm that I'm showing up. No annoying one-handed conversations. lol I'm sure it must have happened at least once, but at the moment I can't recall ever asked to "prove" I was female with a phone call.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 10:51:11 PM   
MasterNdorei


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Status: offline 		All you can do is follow your hunches.

You never know who is going to be cool and who isn't. Stalkers can come from real time as easily as they can from over the internet.

A funny note about "the pizza guy"... A new comer to a social in San Diego years ago was the pizza delivery guy to a private party the week before....

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 11:09:59 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		While cell numbers are untraceable (unless it has a business address), that wouldn't stop a pesky stranger from repeat calls.  And if you have dialup cam chats can be heck!   Aren't There are throw away cells that are usable for impromtu contact?  I think they may be refillable on hours.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Well I stopped using my landline telephone at all two years ago. I don't even have a telephone hooked up in my house. My cell phone is untraceable and I don't mind giving out the number.

Using a mike on the computer is not a possiblity for those of us on dial-up....it just doesn't work well.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/12/2006 11:29:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: amayos

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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I agree with amayos on this one, I think one can be too security conscious. How many of us have given a phone number to someone in a bar they met that night? That is before the days of the internet and the days of meeting others in bars or clubs.


That is an excellent point. I think the internet in some ways has managed to make people more paranoid than they should be. While it's true there was once a time when people weren't worrying about port scans, google maps, IP tracing and so on, the fact remains that those strangers we meet and openly talk with everyday with such passing nonchalance could easily take down our license plate number and follow us home.


Welllll.....on the internet you really can not see who you are giving your number to.  You are trusting they are indeed the sex/age/person they claim to be, unless of course you have seen/heard them on cam & voice.  Personally I have never given my number out in a bar.  (I'm just not that kinda girl...hehehe)  But if I have spoken to someone enough, I get a feel for if I am comfortable or not. 

For those who believe cell numbers can not be traced - - they can.

At some point, however, you are indeed correct - it's time to converse on the phone or there is simply not enough trust to continue.  My Master gave me his number in a week.  I called him and did not block my ID.  Thank God we are both still alive!  :)

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 12:01:17 AM   
popeye1250


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Status: offline 		I have no problem giving out my number once I get to know someone online.
Giving them your phone number is the next logical step.
Then meeting in person.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 1:04:13 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Giving out your phone number. Is it right or wrong. You hear that you should never give out your phone number. Then you hear if they wont give you a phone number then they are hiding something. I've been on the internet since the beginning and have never giving out my phone number. If you want to talk use a computer mike . They are cheap and you dont have to pay for the call.

I eventually want a relationship with a real live human being, and in that, there has to be a ramped up element of trust.  I'll talk to them until I feel I've got enough info and see enough consistency that they're worth my investing an hour on a phone "interview" with them.  I will offer my number and provide some basic instructions on calling -- one, it's not your personal sex line, two, it's to be used respectfully, three, to understand that there are times that I will answer but have to abruptly disconnect (I might be in clinical activity for work that I need to be taking calls...)  My filter system seems to work pretty well.

But I'm a person who readily has my contact information on the internet and on all of my class materials.....YMMV.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 1:16:34 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania


My phone number requires a level 4 security clearance with biometric confirmation of identity... a gal can't be too careful these days

I used to require SCI clearance.  That involves the Defense Security Service doing verification of U.S. citizenship, fingerprinting and their completion of the Personnel Security Questionnaire (SF-86).  It got a little too daunting, so now I just hand out my number and pray for the best.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 1:19:35 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: MasterNdorei

A funny note about "the pizza guy"... A new comer to a social in San Diego years ago was the pizza delivery guy to a private party the week before....

Master's dorei


Totally off topic but amusing: A slave arranged a sedan service for us when we were down in Miami on a mutual business trip.  We went to Ft Lauderdale to a restaurant called the Cave (?) and then to Club Kink. At some point, he started asking us about the place....saying that he'd heard about it.  I threatened to spank him if he didn't tell me how he knew about it, and that started off the debauchery for the evening! Our limo driver wound up IN the club that night rather than just waiting for us outside LOL

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 4:19:30 AM   
slavejlb


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Status: offline 		Hello dnomyar
i agree with you giving out a phone number not a good thing, that to me like opeing a door that could be dangerous.
even my cell phone i am careful with but it is one of those pre-paid.
take care and be safe
Master Mawgan slave java

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 6:59:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Owned1

I have tried voice on my computer but in the past I sounded kinda like a chipmunk on speed so that really did not work.

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~grins~...maybe not but it is a hell of a visual image.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 7:01:01 AM   
Aubre


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Status: offline 		Get yourself a headset and use Gizmo .

- It sounds great, better than a phone call IMO
- You can change your accout info if you get unwanted attention
- It's free
- Headset leaves hands free for ... other things.

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RE: Giving out your phone number - 9/13/2006 7:15:04 AM   
GeekyGirl


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It worked for me just fine when I had dial up.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Using a mike on the computer is not a possiblity for those of us on dial-up....it just doesn't work well.



How  much RAM do you have? What speed is your processor?

I'm running 512ram on a 2.6 processor and I have a hard time just browsing ebay some times, let alone doing something like voice chat.

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