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LadyEllen -> RE: Do Mistresses like Cross-Dressers ? (12/12/2006 5:18:25 AM)
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There are loads of 'em Dixon!
But the problem really, is that there's a wide spectrum of types and little means to tell them apart. If you look through the trans profiles there's everything there, just as there is with male and female profiles. The only means of differentiating is in their interests selections, if they've made them, or by the picture they might choose to show. Just for sample purposes, there's a big difference IMO between the maid, the sissy, the straight fetishist and the ones who go all out to look like normal, everyday women (not an exhaustive list of types btw) - and that difference I feel probably gives an indication as to what sort of sub they are too, what they are looking for and so on. On top of that there are a lot of mixed types, plus those who need "forcing" for humiliatory purposes and those who require force only to return to their everyday persona.
I also feel, that what someone said in a recent thread is very true of the whole crossdressing phenomena; that it is at some root level, an expression of being less than a "real man". We could also infer the whole "castration anxiety" thing from Freudian psychology of course, which is related to the same inner narrative. What this says about women is not exactly PC though! The point is however, that if the above is true, then we are dealing with a huge number of heterosexual men, of the very best sort (sensitive, caring, selfless and loving), who nonetheless dont think they are worthy of the women whom they desire, by comparison to "real men". The irony being of course, that its the sensitive, caring, selfless, loving men who are the real men.
At the same time, throw into the mix that most heterosexual women prefer their men to look like men, and the circle is complete in these men's minds; they dont feel they measure up, and even the women whom they adore dont feel they measure up either. So we find some of the best men on the planet, hiding their interests, suppressing something so important to them and striving instead to be the "real men" which is what society in general encourages them to be.
And then we also find those who have thrown off that suppression - often after divorce from unaccepting wives who discovered or were told about their husbands' crossdressing. They come here angry, bitter and resentful, or they come here desperate to find a woman who will see past the crossdressing label and see them for who they are. Both generally find that even on a site such as this, there is little acceptance and still less interest. That they become cynical is only to be expected.
And then, just as an afterthought, I wonder whether crossdressers ever think to themselves, what kind of woman would be interested in them? I can easily imagine, given their circumstances, that they might feel that any woman who might show interest must have something wrong with her? After all, if she were "normal" (whatever that might mean), surely she would go for the "real men"?
But even having said all that, there are quite a few heterosexual couples out there, the male of which crossdresses. In fact I had a shock last week when I visited some friends and this woman welcomed me at the door - I didnt recognise him at all! So there is hope.
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