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One Older Man's View on Age - 10/3/2006 9:21:52 PM

MasterC46910

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Let me start with saying that I write this from the point of view of a older man that happens to be dominant in his personality and nature. It is by no means a standard that I expect others to follow and only happens to be my observations and beliefs.

There has been a number of post about age and the affects it may have on a potential relationship. While our sociality does embrace the idea of partners being of equal or close in age. Is natural or peer based? Personally I look at the maturity of a individual, not the actually age. I have seen young women that are very mature and older women that are very immature.

I keep hearing that older people can not relate to younger people. My main question is Why? I keep hearing that music is a main reason. I can not relate to people that even listen to music most the time. I just don't feel music it that important and almost never listen to it just for enjoyment. So does that mean I can not relate to people my age that does listen to music? I don't personally find a difference in music taste a reason for people not being able to relate. Diversity is good in a relationship.

I also am told that life experiences are another reason that younger and older partners in a relationship can not be expected to get along or be able to relate to each other. What are we calling life experiences? I left home right after high school and explored the world. Seen a lot of different ways of life and had a lot of interesting and life changing experiences. Does that mean I could not relate to my old friends that stayed home, got married, bought a home, raised a family? Darn right it does. Even though we was the same age, the experiences of our life was vastly different and we looked at life and the world from different points of view. I did relate with many younger people that lived a similar type lifestyle much better.

The one reason I hear that does hold some water to me it the desire to have children and wanting someone that will be around while the children are growing up. But I only see that in an extreme age different. Of course we have to offer up the many younger men do leave their wife to raise the children alone. I also hold the experience that my much younger partner died at a very young age and left me to raise our child. So, like I said, that only holds a little water with me.

I often wonder why so many people seem to be opposed to a large age different in partners? I hear one woman rail on about the older man can not being able to relate to a much younger woman, then turn around and explain she, of course, relates much better with much younger men because she does not look her age and is young at heart. Can someone explain this woman's reasoning to me?

Would it not be better to just find someone that fits in with my lifestyle and fills in the little voids of my knowledge and experiences instead of worrying about their age?