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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/9/2006 8:44:18 AM

thetammyjo

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now, nothing and I mean nothing, is absolute in this world. I understand that dominants have insecurities, they are human. I am saying that dominant women tend to have less insecurities and that proves another point. Dominant women tend not to be afraid to share their insecurities or at least less likely to harbor them for long periods of time.

I think this is more the case with people (both male and female) who have more experience and feel more comfortable with their dominant role or position.

I know that Fox reports to me that on several ocassions he has gone to "slave/sub support groups" and the number one complaint is that the mistress/master/dom doesn't open up and doesn't share. When he says he doesn't have that problem with me they tell him he is so lucky. When he then starts asking questions about how long they been together and how many years experience the top has, he says that he notes the greatest problems seem to come from short-term relationships or little experience on the side of the top.

I know from talking with tops of both sexes and multiple genders that many fairly new tops/doms feel that if they open up and show any insecurities that it will drive off their partner. I went through that phase too when I was starting off.

I think it can be very good for someone to have the experience of being in authority and feeling powerful, I think it can help you become more comfortable with yourself.

I think you are correctly seeing a trend, dicipline2.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/9/2006 3:11:52 PM

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Ohhh easy. I love it that I can just be me

I'm with my friend Sam on enjoying being myself...... It is also fun getting my own way!

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/9/2006 10:39:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: dicipline2
now, nothing and I mean nothing, is absolute in this world. I understand that dominants have insecurities, they are human. I am saying that dominant women tend to have less insecurities and that proves another point. Dominant women tend not to be afraid to share their insecurities or at least less likely to harbor them for long periods of time.

This for myself at least is very true. I'm pretty comfortable being in my skin, and am also pretty comfortable with being fallible and no I don't think I need to submit simply because I don't know it all.
As to the sex part, the only thing I refuse to have is bad sex... So I am very open in conversation with my lover about what I want/need/expect.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/9/2006 11:32:03 PM

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I enjoy the confidence of dominant women. Women who are not afraid to express themselves sexually with you or bother you with insecurities like "am I pretty?" (*chuckles* for the millionth time yes!).

lol sweet

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/9/2006 11:34:45 PM

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I like to be trusted.

That's one of the things I like too about being openly out there as fem dom ... though I don't think it's necessarily a trait of being a dominant, but it has in the past been a nice bommerang return in the relationship I've had with subs.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/10/2006 12:44:47 AM

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greetings

for me i like a man who is shy but confident this can happen in two ways shy becuase they do not know what they want yet and will expect me to guide them the other part is a male who is comfortable in his own skin, in and what he wants, i ama private person so i do not go for the scence and groups of people. i like my slave or submissve to me my self that is all i will expect and other things as well. i love me i like who i am and not afdirad to go after a male i see on here

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/11/2006 6:19:10 PM

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My 24/7 sub likes the challenge of Me!!!!

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 10/11/2006 7:05:58 PM

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Love thier confidence.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 9:42:14 AM

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What an open ended question, i suppose, at times, they are better than the close ended, yes/no responses.

For me to be in a D/s relationship it is all about her and how i fit in with her. Im not saying everything goes, but i guess eveerything goes......eventually, with learning, with obeying, with admirig, and the most important thing FULLY accepting another human being, another soul, a Dominant woman to be exactly who she wants to be, and to be withness to her strength, and weakness, her confidence, her willingness to show me not only her dominance but also the beauty within her.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 9:58:37 AM

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ORIGINAL: Samwhiplash

Ohhh easy. I love it that I can just be me and not have to keep any of it in.

isnt that what a sub likes about being sub as well?

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 10:20:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: dicipline2

I enjoy the confidence of dominant women. Women who are not afraid to express themselves sexually with you or bother you with insecurities like "am I pretty?" (*chuckles* for the millionth time yes!).

I enjoy women who arent afraid to grab a handful of your ass and smother you with a kiss when she wants. I enjoy women who know what they want and will try to get it from you.

I love the openness and the feeling that nothing is forbidden, nothing is secret.

that relationship is sacred...

Try to get it from you? Do you lay down the gauntlet? lmao

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 10:21:39 AM

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I like being a dominant female because it's easier to explain myself to others.... I'm real easy to get along with, even live with... I just want things MY way... that's all.

Jewel

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 12:45:19 PM

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It's a mixture of the control, the power and the self expression.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 12:59:09 PM

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This is very hard for someone just starting out looking for a Mistress so to speak. For I may anger the perfect women who will read this and not want anything to do with me. Which if thats the case I don't think I'd want anything to do with her.
Even though I've been in love once and at the time I didn't know it but now I do and it simply was that she was the dominate one. I don't even think she knew it. She was ten years older then me and I think we both just put it down to the age differnce. It freed up my mind so I could improve myself and not worry about what she might like and other things that in the long run really mean nothing. It left me time to improve myself to be a better man for her. At work and all aspects of my life.
I would do everything to the best of my abilty. Even when she wasn't around. Knowing that it would make her happy.
In the bed room she was a master at control over me. My every thought and action was to please her. We never did any of the things associated with D/s. She never degrade me in public or private or made me feel like a fool and if she did it was in a teasing manner. Also though when she would be wrong and I would point it out. The same way we are all wrong sometimes. There are times in real life when even the submissive person has to stand up to the dominant one. Those times in real life are very far and in between but they do come up and if you really care about the other one be it Master or Mistress you will stand up for what you belive no matter what the out come.
The sword cuts both ways I myself would not want to be in a relationship with a Mistress that is small minded and vindictive.
I was involed later in life with a women who was domiante who if I ever see again I really would'nt want to give her the time of day.
I know there are a lot of women that could be exceptional Mistresses.
It is in most womens nature to be in charge and mens nature to please. Soicety has changed that over the years that everyone has to be the smartest and the fastest and most powerfull person to ever live. Being a Bitch and being a Mistress is far two differnt things. In my mind a Bitch is the same thing as what a man is when you call him an Asshole.
In my opinion Soictey has warped are natural inclinations.
On both sides of the fence.
Sorry Ladys this is just my opinion and just one of the reasons I'd like to find a Mistress.
Once again not a Mistress but a Queen fits better in my head but words are just words after all Actions are what count.
Everyone has their own reasons.
Everyone their own opinions too.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 1:26:23 PM

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ORIGINAL: Jasmyn

And for women... what is it about being a dominant woman that you love?

Hummmm... Aren't those both the same question?
And can submissive women contribute what they love about a Dominant woman they love?

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 1:54:10 PM

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I like things being My way and that's the way they will be. No arguing like vanilla couples do.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 5:41:23 PM

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Feeling confident
Feeling cherished
Feeling respected
Being obeyed
The sexual charge during play
The mental buzz - the fact that this man has given responsibility to Me...and trusts Me...what a rush.
Running out to the store for <insert ingredient here> in grey sweats and sneakers with My hair a mess and having men still stare... love it.
Hearing the boy say... "Yes Domina" (meltssssss)

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 5:47:39 PM

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The frequent flyer miles ...

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 6:00:55 PM

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I love it when my Mistress that tells me what to do. Being with a Mistress is like going to the Army because they discipline you and treat you like an adult.

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RE: What is it about being a dominant woman that you love? - 1/27/2007 6:22:10 PM

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I like that i dont need to leave the small details of courtship to chance. I like flowers, i insist on them.

I like that i dont have to leave the intimacy in the hands of someone who may not priortise it the way i do. I expect transperancy, i expect, communication.

I like that i can give structure and control to some one better then i can to myself, but because of that person i am much better at my own self disipline.

and i like that i can be a cum-o-phobe.

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