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ORIGINAL: boundfem    <post snipped>

I am sorry, but to me there is NEVER a time that it is okay to put your hands on someone else unless invited to do so.  I did not find my Mistress at fault, She was attempting to be polite in someone else's house and not cause an uncomfortable vibe or scene.  
If one's Master allowed someone else to touch this one without His permission, and stood by and let it happen more than once, this one would certainly find Him at fault.  No - the host should not have touched you - but he did, and got away with it repeatedly.  He was testing your Mistress - you can decide if she passed or failed. 

A couple of people I know met him at TES Fest. That wasn't a play party and it certainly wasn't a swinger party.   He was extremely gropey and forward to complete strangers.  I find this disgusting in any scenario, venue, lifestyle or not.  I find that there is established protocol in the scene.. do not touch anything that does not belong to you unless you have been given permission or an invitation to do so.  I am shocked so many are sidestepping or downplaying this.
So why aren't you shocked that your Mistress sidestepped and downplayed this?  She may have talked to you at length about it - but did that change anything?  What would have changed it?  Why do you expect others to handle it any differently than your Mistress, if you think your Mistress handled it appropriately?  one would bet that a knowledgeable Master could sit back and watch this man - and that there are certainly those that He does NOT grope - because He knows better.  He is testing everyone - the Dominants to see if they will do the right thing; the submissives to see if they have what it takes to tell Him to back off.  He knows exactly what He is doing. 

We left early the next day and did not stay throughout that day's lengthy brunch and play party as She could not wait to get out of there.  Her being invited back is independent of me.. She may or may not go, with or without me.  She doesn't even desire to go, but he announced publicly She would be the featured weekend guest Domme in another month when we were there prior to even confirming with Her.  She most likely will not go back.
Again, He is testing her.  If she goes, with or without you, He will have succeeded in dominating her once again.  Announcing publicly that someone will be a featured guest without their prior knowledge and consent is definitely dominating that person.  Why doesn't she just tell Him "look, You did not show respect to Me or My slave when we were in Your home, and neither of us will be returning."  Do you think He has any respect for your Mistress right now?  He does not, and will not, unless she earns it from Him.  She also does not have the respect of anyone who knows that she allowed Him to touch her slave without permission.  They do not look at it as His bad for doing it - they look at it as Her bad for allowing it. 
 
It might be a good idea for the two of you to attend your next function with a more experienced, knowledgeable Dominant that can help guide her.  After all, we never stop learning.........................................

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ORIGINAL: susie

I too am surprised that your Mistress said nothing to stop this. I understand it was in someone else's house but my Masters concern for my wellbeing would have far outweighed any misgivings he might have had at saying something to the host. Perhaps you should discuss this with your Mistress, it may be that she was not as unhappy with the situation as you seem to have been.

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She did not want to create a scene (pardon the pun), but wanted to just attempt to keep his hands off of me in ways like subtlety and deflect his unwanted attention.