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Level -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:08:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Love is knowing that you would absolutely, without a doubt die for someone.
I have seven people in my life that I would die for.


The number for me is two.




nakedbeaver -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:18:59 PM)

i am new here and haven't had a chance to get to know many people yet.  i think you seem like a very nice person that is just going through a lot right now.  We all need time, it's the only thing that will heal at all.  i don't think there is anyone that hasn't been hurt by someone they loved, or that they thought loved them.  Just please don't give up and think you will never have it or that it doesn't exist in any form.  You will find someone to open and warm your heart again, have no doubt.
 
With Respect, Brooklyn




Level -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:20:23 PM)

Nicely said, Brooklyn.




windchymes -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:21:59 PM)

~~replying to no one in particular, just a quote I always liked~~

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want to be loved doesn't mean they don't love you with everything they have.




nakedbeaver -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:23:29 PM)

Thank You, Sir. 
 
 
Respectfully, Brooklyn




Level -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:24:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: windchymes

~~replying to no one in particular, just a quote I always liked~~

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want to be loved doesn't mean they don't love you with everything they have.


Very true, windy. I keep that in mind here.... one I care for does not care for me in the same way, but that doesn't mean my love for her is meaningless, nor her affection for me without meaning. It just isn't perfect.




meatcleaver -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:26:25 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Noah


quote:

ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

Love doesn't exist. It's a blanket term for a host of physical and mental reactions between two people, some we don't have control of and some that are as base as him wanting to fuck her and her wanting him to provide. Life is about procreation and little else and people like to put a sugarcoating on it to give life meaning. Love is a state of madness, we become psychotic when we are in love and like religion it is also delusional. We reinforce the lies to we tell ourself to say there is a spiritual connection between us and a lover, rather than admit to an instinctual reaction and a cold calculation that they will materially provide for ones needs.



ACTUALLY ... physical and mental events don't exist except as epiphenomena on the interactions between the foci of the Unified Field of Love (you and me), or as the fear-inspired delusions of those who lack the stomach to dive into Love. The infinite power of love inspires a wide range of emotions. Those struck primarily by fear typically respond by denying the existence of the sea in which they are floating. They struggle vainly to keep their head above the "water," afraid to dive deep and breathe it in and confront their intrinsic nature, preferring instead to imagine that clothing and crap and corpuscles are the basis of the human experience.

To imagine that your body is what gives rise to your experience of life is like imagining that your avatar picture is what gives rise to your internet connection.

These poor, cringing, deluded souls traffic in all manner of theoretical constructs, like separateness, temporality and causality, terrified to confront their spiritual selves, to acknowledge and sink into the love that surrounds them, the love which constitutes their being and all being.

They reinforce the lies they tell themselves at every opportunity with theories about how the human experience is based in biology rather than based in spirit and manifested in biology. This rather than to admit to the fundamental immanant and transcendent reality of Love.

But whaddaya gonna do, you know? With luck one day they'll find the stones to be what they are. In the mean time we can make allowances for them, huh? The poor things.


OK Perhaps I should be more careful of my use of language. I keep forgetting that many of these questions end up in philosophical discussions about language rather than the subject in the question. I think we all know by now you have read philosophy and like a good philosopher you like precision in language.

People respond to physical and visual stimuli. You may call that love (whatever that is) or you may call it a biologic response.




Sinergy -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:27:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: swtsouthernsub

Riches do not bring happiness.
SONG OF SOLOMON 8:6


While this may be entirely accurate, having had a great deal of money one time in my life I can assure you that it buys things that for all intents and purposes can look so much like happiness that it is difficult to discern a difference.

Richie Rich



I have had lots of money at various times in my life, and have struggled at various times in my life.

In both cases, my favorite things to do are road trips, sitting on the beach working on my sun tan, reading and writing, getting kicked in the head after being mean to people, and submerging myself in whatever local culture I happen to have road tripped to.

One of my former submissives used to be angry with me because I made so much money at the time, lavished her with presents, and never bought myself anything.

Stuff is just stuff. 

"Things you own end up owning you."  Tyler Durden, Fight Club

Happiness is something one finds internally, or not at all.

Just me, could be worng, but there you go.

Sinergy




mnottertail -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:29:15 PM)

Well, have you ever had a thousand dollar blowjob?  It looks alot like love to me.  But I am rather shallow sort.......................


LOL,

Ron




meatcleaver -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:32:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Noah


They reinforce the lies they tell themselves at every opportunity with theories about how the human experience is based in biology rather than based in spirit and manifested in biology. This rather than to admit to the fundamental immanant and transcendent reality of Love.



Explain what the human spirit is since you are an expert. Explain the transcendent reality of love. You are so nit picking about language and precision, 'human spirit' and 'transcendent reality of love' seem rather woolly terms to me. Define them.

I'm sure it wouldn't be surprising to find that the majority of people would agree with you about the qualities of the 'human spirit' and the 'transcendent reality of love' while wanting to send all illegal immigrants to an archipeligo somewhere and kill all the muslims because they are all terrorists or blacks because the are all criminals and never once question the nature of the 'human spirit' behind these drives.

The human spirits sucks and needs examining.




Sinergy -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 4:32:37 PM)

 
Hello A/all,

I do not know how many people I would die for.

I do a job as a male assailant helping to empower other people where a faulty blood vessel in my brain could pop and kill me after a successful kick to the head.

I have rescued struggling swimmers as a camp counselor.  Only realized afterwards the risk I took doing it.  This happened a few different times.

I have climbed up cliffs to help children trapped on them climb down.

I once had occaision to jump in and push a fellow longshoreman out of the way of a falling lashing bar.

There have been other examples of times where I have placed myself in danger to protect or help another person.

In all these cases, my own personal thoughts of the danger to myself were something I considered after the danger was gone.

I am not sure I can rationally answer this question.  The part of me that is willing to die to protect other people (limbic system / adrenalin response) has no answer to that type of question.  So I am not sure how much help I can be to this thread.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy




Noah -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:05:26 PM)


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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver


Explain what the human spirit is since you are an expert. Explain the transcendent reality of love. You are so nit picking about language and precision, 'human spirit' and 'transcendent reality of love' seem rather woolly terms to me. Define them.


Did I say anything about either language or precision?

I can define "water" for you meat. I can define "immersion" and "diving" and "floating" and "sinking". You still won't know fuck-all about getting to shore until you admit that the boat we were on sank five minutes ago, we're a mile past the breakwall and there are holes in both your floaties.


quote:

The human spirits sucks and needs examining.


I'm not sure what those words mean, but if it's true, it's true. Now what?

Yes. We might as well say that every word in my first post to this thread was wooly including the "and"s and the "the"s as they appeared in those necessarily wacky propositions.

I suspect that a lot of people didn't notice that and it is cool and frankly impressive that you did.

But language is a tool, meat. It does what it manages to do with great beauty and power but there are things which language can't adequately handle. When the tools you need are a measuring stick and a pot of glue, demanding a wrench of a specific size just isn't going to help you. On the other hand, a good eye and a wad of chewing gum might just patch things up enough to limp home on.

If you want to say: "I won't acknowledge (or explore, or what-have-you)any aspect of the human experience for which explicit and exhaustive, genus and difference definitions cannot given, that's your choice. Rock on. To me it seems about as advisable as deciding that you won't acknowledge any aspect of the human experience which you can't identify by smell.

Some things you can't pin down with your nose. Some things you can't pin down with your lexicon. This shouldn't surprise us, it seems to me.

It would be a very strange theory of ontology which posited that the test of existence of a thing is whether it can be pinned down in language (not that this one hasn't been published and not that all theories of ontology aren't strange.)

You offerred a tired old reductionist argument for the non-existence of Love. Okay.

The thing about reductionist arguments is that it is very easy to screw one together so that it will indeed stand on its own. Unfortunately, every reductionist argument which manages to stand up has exactly as much probative value as any other one. And for every reductionist argument that can be flung against a thing, another reductionist argument (of precisely equal probative value) can be a called upon to defend it. I swear that after years of trying pretty hard I have never found an exception.

Here's a really nice little accessory you can add to your personal bullshit detector (of which, no lie, I suspect you have a fairly good one, no doubt better than mine in some respects)

Look at the argument. Is it reductionist? If so then despite whatever aesthetic value it may have, however warm it may make you feel or what a wonderful object of meditation it may be, it is probably bullshit, or if it has to do with ontology it is more likely nonsense masquerading as an argument in the first place. And it it isn't bulshit it is almost certainly only trivially true.

Since the thing this thread is about is prior to language and reason and analysis those tools can only help us very awkwardly and incompletely on out little trip toward understanding. It is a trip one has to take by diving in and kicking and stroking. Even before that the trip also requires opening a certain door to allow the first step to be taken. The door which needs to open is on your heart. I know that is weird but, hey, so are quantum theory and girls. And I believe that each of them has its uses.

There are lots of ways of knowing. Analysis is a powerful and sublimely beautiful one, properly applied, Still, there are places it can't take you. Some times you just have to jump. Love is one of those places.

And yeah, it is scary as hell.


To the original poster I have just one word to say: Courage!




Noah -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:07:36 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

 
Hello A/all,

I do not know how many people I would die for.

I do a job as a male assailant helping to empower other people where a faulty blood vessel in my brain could pop and kill me after a successful kick to the head.

I have rescued struggling swimmers as a camp counselor.  Only realized afterwards the risk I took doing it.  This happened a few different times.

I have climbed up cliffs to help children trapped on them climb down.

I once had occaision to jump in and push a fellow longshoreman out of the way of a falling lashing bar.

There have been other examples of times where I have placed myself in danger to protect or help another person.

In all these cases, my own personal thoughts of the danger to myself were something I considered after the danger was gone.

I am not sure I can rationally answer this question.  The part of me that is willing to die to protect other people (limbic system / adrenalin response) has no answer to that type of question.  So I am not sure how much help I can be to this thread.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy


Shit man, do you arrive in a foil wrapper, taste like peppermint and have a hole in your middle?




LTRsubNW -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:17:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: lauren0221

I've seen the guys on Jerry Springer who stopped "loving" their spouse because they gained weight, or the women who will be happy to have sex with their husband when he starts making more money.


(I for one would be willing to have sex with my ex wife, if she paid me back all the money the divorce attorneys cost me). 




Emperor1956 -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:19:41 PM)

FastReply:  Well this thread has gotten very deep.  I need waders.

I just listen to rock n' roll.   It answers all my questions.

I've had the blues, the reds and the pinks, and one thing's for sure.

Love Stinks.

E.

yeah, yeah. 

(which is what the OP was trying to say, I think)




marieToo -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:32:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

Love is knowing that you would absolutely, without a doubt die for someone.
I have seven people in my life that I would die for.


I have seven that I would kill.  Does that count? 

You know what they say......Theres a fine line between love and hate.




KatyLied -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:34:32 PM)

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I've seen the guys on Jerry Springer...


If you are using Jerry Springer as a guide for your life, a lot of work needs to be done.




marieToo -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:35:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver


The human spirits sucks and needs examining.


Sometimes the human spirit just needs to be sucked and licked and fucked and put to bed for the night.

:)




cuddleheart50 -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:37:58 PM)

I swear marie, you need your own comedy show...you crack me up!!!!




subjected2006 -> RE: Love. Actually? (10/22/2006 6:52:15 PM)

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