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ORIGINAL: mpmaster4sub

I am going to defend Wolf since no one here seems to realize what has happened.  She is not trying to excuse herself and well she's not good with words either.  I made an agreement to only have a relationship with Wolf and not bring another in.  I broke that agreement.  That I am at fault for.  I know that Wolf has some issues, but I don't hold those against her.  Another thing.  Dakota and Coffee couldn't be placed anywhere since there is no backyard.  They also know how to open the doors.  I never called to let Wolf know that I was bringing a friend over and so there was no time to take Dakota and Coffee over to Wolf' dad's place.  I didn't see Wolf ever mistreat my friend once.  In fact the opposite.  Granted Wolf was unhappy over my friend doing the dishes and stuff.  But Wolf said nothing about it.  Not once did Wolf glare at my friend or follow her.  Wolf kept an eye on her due to our unmentionables and the dogs.  I know Wolf well enough to know that had either dog attacked that Wolf would've protected my friend.  After talking to my friend I finally had some answers. 

She didn't think Wolf was being mean or unwelcoming.  She said that she didn't know what to say to break the ice with Wolf and with the dogs she was scared.  When I asked why she was scared of the dogs my friend said she had been bitten as a kid.  At first she thought there was only one dog and that was Charlie, a 21 year old fox terrier.  He's very friendly and would rather lick you to death.  It was when she went looking for the bathroom that she accidently opened the oldest unmentionables room and was greeted by Coffee.  Scared she shut the door and went further down the hall.  She tripped over Dakota and started crying.  It was Wolf that rushed over to pull Dakota away.  What Wolf and I didn't know was that Dakota was licking my friend's face.  Wolf kept asking me if my friend was ok, but my friend insisted on going home. 

Wolf thought she had done something wrong and decided to come and post all this.  Many of you have said she was rude, unwelcoming and completely in the wrong.  That she owed my friend an apology.  She even tried to clarify from her point what happened today.  Like I said she is not good with words.  This is why she draws.  However I apologized to my friend thinking that Dakota had done something wrong to only find out later that my friend had a bad experience with dogs.  Also Wolf is carrying again so I'm giving her some leeway.  We are all sorry for any wrong impressions anyone got here and will not discuss our issues here again.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

However, as hostess, she was still wrong to not provide a decent welcoming to a guest.  Even if it was nothing more than a smile hello, offering of cookies and milk while she dragged you into the other room, reminded you of what a dumbass loser you were being and that you needed to take the girl home and apologize ten times over for being a dumbass loser, go back out into the living room, thank her for coming, apologize for not being prepared for company and then having the master and the poor new girl go off to enact said plan.

You both acted really irresponsibly and unfortunately someone completely innocent has gotten hurt in the process.

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ORIGINAL: mpmaster4sub

Wolf thought she had done something wrong and decided to come and post all this.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear subartist4dom, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Being in the lifestyle a long time, I am fully aware of the cuthroats within the lifestyle and outside it, in a military venue as well as a semi-military situation as well.
 
That said, you identify an arch type of an 'artist' which are sensitive and more times then not over sensitive, eccentric behavior is peppered throughout the artist lifestyle throughout history.  Another arch-type I see you identify with, is a she-wolf/alpha wolf and with a vein of a sniper laying in wait, ready to take pot shots at unsuspecting targets under the guise of "guard."
 
In addition, your fix on 'sex' and how other women have behaved in the past or you have knowledge of; creates 'justification' in your mind's eye to behave as a predator, sniper and savage any woman; justified or not just because it 'feels good' and feeds the hate.  In a sense, becoming exactly what you loath in other women.
 
The paragraph #1, where you put in summary, that you did not think highly of another slave doing the tasks assigned to you.  No different than a military officer assigning a soldier to do what tasks you normally do--you got your nose out of joint.  Since you cannot take it out on the Master/Officer--you take it out on the poor soldier/slave following orders and blindsided by your 'personal' dislike and controling nature.  Nothing team work about that.  So, you make sure she knows that you hate the girl, your poison just oozing out of your pores...your hate scent waffles into her sense of smell and she knows you're ready to eat her for lunch.
 
2.  You mention 'unmentionables' and your need to guard them.  Are they that terrified of people in the house that they need guarding or do they attack like predators also?  After all unmentionables learn from the adults--they don't always understand--but they learn.  Perhaps you cannot imagine, that people can enjoy watching young people being youthful.  Spirit of intent was never manifested in a way that they were a danger.  Just another justification for an assumption that all people are abusers.  A justification to attack before a justification is determined.  Trigger happy when it comes to other females perhaps.
 
Paragraph #3, you write about females in a general sense, lumping the majority in as unsavory people and 'loose' or 'needy' as to have to pay $100.00 to get with your Master for a few hours.  Well, maybe he is worth a hundred to listen to, learn from, be mentored from, to be the decent man he is.  Maybe they have to pay to have somebody as a Master to pour their soul out to, as they're in pain with abuses of the past and hurt so much, that they would die for a few moments with a healer and have some form of catharsis.  Perhaps you take your Master for granted and don't want to share his gifts of goodness with others.  Its just easier to give them such negatives as the hate is felt for women, that having your own personal healer, you let other slave female spirits die.  It would be fine with you to see all female slaves die.  The question would be--would you feel the same way if you needed a healer in the form of your Master and his slave treated you as you treat the lass who your Master invited?
 
There are a lot of men and women who have suffered abuse and have equal justification to be angry and cruel.  However, they have gotten help, healed, they have allowed others to help.  They have reached for the positives, which is much harder to reach and grasp.  It takes courage to do so.  Nobody will see survivors of abuse, who become positive individuals despite it all cannot be called cowards, in my mind's eye.  Abuse in the past is no excuse for being abusive.
 
In my mind's eye I see--One angry woman, who hates and lets hate be the dominant over you.  As far as a slave arch-type,  I don't see a slave who trusts their Master to make good decisions.  I'm sure he knows all the hate you have and live for the opportunity to manifest it.  Identifying a prejudice is just the beginning to owning up to that prejudice.  Just like racial, gender, religious and or class prejudice it is born from a learned behavior.  Plus, you know that not all are worthy of the hate but, it is an justification for ugly, cruel behavior which is no less destructive then lynching.
 
Problem is--the hate you have, causes collateral damage.  Your hate, your attitude, your behavior hurt two people.  Congratulations on wounding your Master, congratulations on still taking pot shots on a innocent target who is waving the white flag in surrender, putting rounds into her, not to kill her off but, to make her suffer, crawl and degrade herself and at your mercy.
 
In my mind's eye I see, that you're just fooling yourself by your words of obedience to your Master and others would find you 'rash and defiant.'  Seems to my mind's eye-- you were defiant and rash with your Master and 'his' guest.  I venture to say, that your Master isn't aware that he isn't your dominant but, more like a 'catch/prize.'  If he crosses you--he'll be another excuse of being abusive.  Hate is your Master currently.
 
I would be extremely embarrassed as a owner of a slave who behaved in such a manner.  Most un-slave like.  Any 'alleged' slave manifested one tenth of the cruelty to another individual as a guest; they be uncollared and given some dollars and sent packing.  Just common courtesy in scene/lifestyle or vanilla; my guests are to be treated kindly.  If anybody can't stand them, excuse one's self and go out of the house, go to a movie, walk the wolves--go anywhere but, be in the house if they couldn't be civil. 

Wolves being scent qued, knowing that and they fed of your hate, you put into motion a dangerous situation. 
 
And, I do see in my mind's eye--that this is just the tip of the ice burg of the 'incident.'  There are two sides, in this case three sides to the story.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 
 
 

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ORIGINAL: agirl
Whatever the OP's *issues* are, regarding females ....they are almost irrelevant..........she may have had to face them at some point....but with a broken agreement, in her own home/safe place.........I think not.

I can imagine a VERY badly behaved slave here......in reply to a very badly behaved Master.

agirl

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  He had brought a slave over to play with and needless to say the slave was crying shortly after.

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ORIGINAL: angelic

i agree major issues are going on there, imo.  My point is i don't know whether she was rude to her or not, she stated her case here in a rude manner that i too took offense to, but having not been there and without knowing exactly how she treated the friend, i have a hard time now of convicting her of being less than hospitable to a guest in her home, when she got blindsided by a boarish Master. (Just my opinion)