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RE: nursing in public - 2/11/2005 10:37:55 PM   
Tempestspet


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Status: offline 		I have 3 children, I breast fed the first two, and bottle fed the last. The first breast fed for about 8 months, and my son, for a year.... I think he just didn't like the bottle cause he was a boy...grins...
Health wise, yes the mother has to eat properly, careful of gassy foods etc... these do get into the milk.
As for doing it in public, I made sure I had a loose weave cotton blanket, that was light and breathed well. I realize not everyone wants to see it, restrooms are far far from adequate, and when in an establishment that has the restrooms, that are only made for one person... I do not think that the other patrons, especially those with a problem with breastfeeding would want to wait 30 to 40 minutes or so for the baby to finish, before they could use the restroom. So mother's make do. I believe they could be dicreet, I don't have a problem, but use some finesse, and common curtesy. I did, it wasn't that hard.
I don't see that it made a difference between my 2 children that were breastfed, and my youngest that wasn't. They are all healthy children, rarely sick, smrt, athletic.
Those babies that have adverse reaction to being breastfed, find out if these are the mother's dieting there way through pregnancy, in order to not gain any weight, there's where you'll find your problem.

I think those who chose to brestfeed.... are great!! Do what's right for you and your child.

Have a great evening!!!

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RE: nursing in public - 2/11/2005 10:54:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Very well said Tempest's Pet!

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RE: nursing in public - 2/12/2005 11:17:30 AM   
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RE: nursing in public - 2/12/2005 4:57:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I breastfed both of My daughters in the 80's. I always tried to be as discreet as possible when in public, but there are always those who view it as either *yuk, don't look* or *oooooooh, we shouldn't look". I dealt with that but when I was in My own home as people seemed to think I should hide-away while doing something so natural, it kind of made Me laugh.
And, yes I got the "you should go to the restroom to do that" to which I once replied "Well, do you want to eat your lunch in the bathroom?" I also got a lot of "How can you do that?" Isn't it hard on you? Wouldn't it be easier to bottle feed?"
To each his own, but I always felt a great freedom in not having to sterilize bottles, mix formula, or warm bottles. A quick meal was always ready and at the right temperature! I was a stay at home Mom, so I am glad I had the luxury of being able to breastfeed.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/12/2005 5:20:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I never had a problem with someone nursing in public. The child has to eat, right? Seems natural enough to me. Breasts also seem to be a natural occurance.
I understand that just because it's natural doesn't mean it should be shared in public. Using the bathroom is a natural act, but I don't really want to be eating my dinner while some guy at the table next to me is relieving himself.
But where does this feeling come from? Why do some people feel uncomfortable seeing a child be breastfed in public? (Honest question...any ideas?)

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RE: nursing in public - 2/12/2005 7:21:58 PM   
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But where does this feeling come from? Why do some people feel uncomfortable seeing a child be breastfed in public? (Honest question...any ideas?)

~Thorns


I think people are uncomfortable with seeing a child being breastfed because a woman's breast has been characterized as being a sexual desire or an attraction. The fact that the purpose of breasts are to nourish children in infancy has been lost in this day and age. In other countries where there is no other way to feed infants, the women dont wear tops and it's perfectly natural to be exposed 24/7.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/13/2005 7:11:21 AM   
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quote:

But where does this feeling come from? Why do some people feel uncomfortable seeing a child be breastfed in public? (Honest question...any ideas?)


Here is an interesting article that sheds some light. I particularly enjoyed the quote from the restaraunt owner who said that breast feeding belongs in porn movies and cat houses.

http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2294/is_7-8_49/ai_109355381

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RE: nursing in public - 2/13/2005 10:28:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		It seems whenever I have come across this it has always been somewhat akin to turning a corner and seeing some woman with her tit hanging out.

It takes me a moment to take in the image to understand what is going on, and then I almost feel a little guilty about my initial glee.

If a woman is comfortable with or without a covering, doing this in public I think society should be more than supportive.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/13/2005 11:05:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		My mom was not able to breast feed her first son, her nipples just didn't have the ducts I guess is the word nessisary and he was alergic to cow's milk and the formula's. He drank goats milk. I think weather we choose to or not breast feeding is something every mother who desires to should get to experince. I said it's one of the joys of life an someone came back all sarcastic, right shafed nipples and sore breasts are a joy?


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RE: nursing in public - 2/15/2005 1:11:46 PM   
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I'm greatly in favor of breasts!

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RE: nursing in public - 2/19/2005 2:48:15 PM   
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RE: nursing in public - 2/19/2005 2:50:16 PM   
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RE: nursing in public - 2/19/2005 8:16:02 PM   
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Nursing in public often makes others uncomfortable, and yes, the appropriate thing to do would have been to go to the ladies lounge or to cover with a blanket.


Go to the lounge? You mean that little room next to the toilets - now that's gross. Why would this be appropriate? I am obiously missing the point. My youngest is now 12 and I nursed her when she was hungry - public or private - if she were hungry, I fed her, it seems a simple thing to me.

My other daughter is pregnant and I will be a new grammy in about two months (I'm so excited). We've talked a lot about nursing versus bottles. Supporting her through her pregnancy has been interesting. There is a great deal of economic pressure for women to bottle feed which I suppose makes sense when one considers that formula is a multi-billion dollar a year business. Add in people who get all squishy at the sight of a breast... we come closer to the time when pregnancy and childbirth were referred to as "confinement" and children were to be seen after they were eatting, drinking, and toileting like the adults.

It is interesting to me that I see many women who wear clothing that shows more breasts than can be seen while nursing, yet I never read that these women should be sent to the louge or covered with a blanket. Is the problem then the non-sexual function of breasts?

It is indeed a strange world.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/19/2005 10:17:44 PM   
GoddessDustyGold


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ORIGINAL: newflowers

It is interesting to me that I see many women who wear clothing that shows more breasts than can be seen while nursing, yet I never read that these women should be sent to the louge or covered with a blanket. Is the problem then the non-sexual function of breasts?



This is so true. Wen I was breastfeeding in the 80's I did attend La Leche(Le Leche? How soon we forget!) I got a wonderful book full of humerous drawings and captions. One of them was a nursing mother on a beach. SHe was wearing shorts, a tank top and sandals. SHe has a blanket thrown over her shoulder, totally discreet and was nursing a baby. Others were all over in little bikins and speedos. A couple was pointing to the nursing Mom. The caption read "She shouldn't be doing that in public!" I laughed and laughed!

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My other daughter is pregnant and I will be a new grammy in about two months (I'm so excited).


Congratulations! Keep us posted!

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RE: nursing in public - 2/20/2005 10:55:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		Very funny!

We attend LeLeche meetings - a rather feminazi group, but they are the most supportive group of women. The group was tremendously helpful to me and my daughter is finding the support invaluable. Even doctors say that you should nurse, yet they give free formula and coupons for formula Never have I heard anyne say outright that you should not nurse, but the subtle pressure to bottle feed is everywhere.

Medically, we cannot argue that breastfeeding is the best possible thing for a baby. The length of time one chooses to do so is subjective - just as some parents choose the bottle for quite sometime, some parents choose to breastfeed for a longer time too. If as was suggested, a child should be cut off when they can lift the shirt to feed, how is that different from the child who can demand a bottle?

One would think we're talking(writing) about an unatural bodily function. Nursing is not at all the same as someone relieving themselves in public for goodness sakes! For those who are offend, I must why that it so; perhaps they should wonder why it is "appropriate" to hide a breastfeeding baby.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/20/2005 11:25:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I bottlefed my babies - I never wanted to breastfeed - never had any inclination to do so and had an excellent doctor who gave me medication so my milk never came in. That aside I dont have a problem with a woman breastfeeding in public - although if the child is old enough to be walking and talking I do get alittle squirmy but thats not the norm.
In NZ there is a huge push for breastfeeding to the extent that I had very little support to bottle feed from the hospitals and I did get some looks when I was out and about by people who obviously thought I should have been breastfeeding ( they must have thought my 38DD's were wasted doing nothing lol) - for me I made the right choice and thats what its about - a womans right to choose - problem is I keep coming up against these guys who obviously werent breastfed and are now trying to make up for it *g* (looks around for smile2cu)

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RE: nursing in public - 2/21/2005 6:24:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		well its good to see that we all have opions on this, i think that moms have the right to feed there childern as we have the right to not want to see a tit, lol , here in kansas its coming to a head over this as a woman can be charged with showing her shin in public, they are way too up tight here.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/22/2005 6:39:04 PM   
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problem is I keep coming up against these guys who obviously werent breastfed and are now trying to make up for it *g* (looks around for smile2cu)


Hmmmm, maybe that is back to the breasts as a sexual part or a Peter Pan never growing up sort of thng. Very funny.

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here in kansas its coming to a head over this as a woman can be charged with showing her shin in public, they are way too up tight here.


In spite of all of the rain and flooding we are currently experiencing, things like this remind me to thank God, the goddess, the fates, and everything else that I live in Southern California. Way too uptight 0 that's an understatement.

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RE: nursing in public - 2/22/2005 7:27:39 PM   
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RE: nursing in public - 2/22/2005 7:41:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: proudsub

We were at Quiznos for lunch today and a lady at the table next to us pulled up her sweater and started nursing her baby who looked about 18 mo old. I am curious what everyone thinks of this. Hubby enjoyed it LOL. I know it's a natural thing to do, but personally i feel she should of at least covered with a blanket.


proudsub i had to laugh....

i am a nurse and took a course in London regarding child nutriton nd learned so much.
after i took that course, i was 30 or so at the time, all i wanted to do was to defy social culture and whip out my breast and feed in public if i ever had a baby.

smiles softly.

but then i am an exhibitonist.

Americans seem much more apposed than other countries do. i have lived in countries where it is VERY accepted.

my apology as i have not read any other posts yet....

shy


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