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ORIGINAL: mstrjx
You can be direct, you can be PC.  I don't see where ignorance is served in choosing the latter.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Exactly, thats why I try and post in the negative, to kinda balance out the posts by that happy ass wench of a smiley.........

LOL,
Ron

(smilezz: (observe cybercommand that will prolly be obeyed, LOLOLOL, or not)  post me a note on the other side and tell me how that guy that signs his name with the funny norse p like thing (called a thorn) is doing, K?)  

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LaTigresse: Julia, I am glad that you do. I honestly do hate hurting someone's feelings when it was not intended to be taken negatively. I know I do hold back alot more than I would in person. In person, with body language and facial expressions it is easy to convey the intention of the words. Not so much so here.

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ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz

The thing that really grits my shit (no, its not a BDSM practice. Is it?) though is when people jump into a thread having a go at the OP when all they were requesting was advise. Please people (well, argumentative people) read the thread and see what it is being sought. If it's advise, then its being asked for a reason. Someone obviously values the advise of others. Don't just wade in with you senior experience and give them what for. If you don't like what you're reading, click on something else (Reality check: it is only a computer screen after all!)

In summary...thanks everyone. You lot are great on here and at times inspirational to us newbies. But please, lets try to be positive with each other. 'Construictive' critisism is good. Slating people is a numpties trick!

First you have the 'cliques'....the ones who have 'known' each other for some time and will back each other come hell or high water....even when they don't really agree! 

Of course you have the class clown who has to make a joke out of everything (just for attention) and really thinks he's funny, when he/she really just sounds like an idiot 

Then of course there are the 'know it alls'....i probably don't have to explain that one 

my conclusion is that most who have to somehow put others down to make their point are probably the same in RL and as a result, live a very lonely, unfulfilled, unhappy life.  How sad for them 

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Then you have people who analyze it and say this person is either:

unrealistic,
self absorbed,
profoundly disturbed,
attention whore,
or any number of things that are really at there core very self serving and seeking self-aggrandizement or pity or justification or grudge help or........... and so you blast them, for coming up with puerile crap after having seen this ilk many thousands of times.

And i do know what you are saying here Ron.  In the short time i have been here, i have seen these same types of threads.  i imagine you have seen many more.  But i will read the OP, shake my head, and move on if that's how i feel, rather than jump in just to add something derogatory.  Replying, even negatively, only keeps those types coming back for more.

But that ain't me, I am the class clown.....the impudent ass as it were, so that's why I do it. Just to be funny (or  not, in deference to adg) I have wrote my heart out on these forums with great passion in the olden days, and will still talk to someone pretty earnestly (if not toughly) when it is obvious that they are listening to bad self-talk............but............  

i really don't mind jokes.  As a matter of fact, i really have a good sense of humor (believe that or not...lol).  But when jokes are made just to pick on or belittle another, then i really can't see the humor there. 
 
i don't know....do people just become jaded when being on here so long?
 
DG

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ORIGINAL: LAMPedge

Not entirely accurate, but certainly close. Reality is perceived through the lens of perception, which is why children are more open and accepting. Their realities have not become bounded as the vast majority of ours have.

Perhaps this is why I feel compelled to call people on their bullshit.


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reality_tunnel

That's an interesting link LAM.  i wouldn't mind seeing a thread on that some time (under off-topic of course  )

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  i really don't know why people go on a thread and post just to mock or denigrate the OP.  If you find a thread foolish or don't have something positive to offer, why not just pass it by?

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

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ORIGINAL: PiercedDaz

The thing that really grits my shit (no, its not a BDSM practice. Is it?) though is when people jump into a thread having a go at the OP when all they were requesting was advise. Please people (well, argumentative people) read the thread and see what it is being sought. If it's advise, then its being asked for a reason. Someone obviously values the advise of others. Don't just wade in with you senior experience and give them what for. If you don't like what you're reading, click on something else (Reality check: it is only a computer screen after all!)

In summary...thanks everyone. You lot are great on here and at times inspirational to us newbies. But please, lets try to be positive with each other. 'Construictive' critisism is good. Slating people is a numpties trick!

Daz,
 
When i first started posting here, i thought the same as you do above.  But after some time, i have come to the conclusion that this forum is like a big classroom.
 
First you have the 'cliques'....the ones who have 'known' each other for some time and will back each other come hell or high water....even when they don't really agree! 
 
Then you have the bullies....the ones that just for the heck of it, like to pick on others and start shit.  Kind of like a bully at school...really just trying to get attention.  And of course you have his/her followers....the ones that go along just so the bully won't pick on them and who are generally too weak to take a stand on their own.
 
Of course you have the class clown who has to make a joke out of everything (just for attention) and really thinks he's funny, when he/she really just sounds like an idiot 
 
Then of course there are the 'know it alls'....i probably don't have to explain that one 
 
Then you actually really have intelligent people contributing intersting and helpful stuff here.  And you have the ones who want to learn from them.  Those are the ones i respect and whose posts i look forward to reading.  i myself like to ask a lot of questions, mainly so i understand exactly what is being asked/said.
 
i really don't know why people go on a thread and post just to mock or denigrate the OP.  If you find a thread foolish or don't have something positive to offer, why not just pass it by?
 
i copied what i said on another thread:  i think what people on these boards fail to realize is that when they denigrate another in a post, they really say more about their character than that of the one they post against.  People try to make others look like fools but in the end, they are the ones that look foolish, and end up losing the respect of those that read. 
 
my conclusion is that most who have to somehow put others down to make their point are probably the same in RL and as a result, live a very lonely, unfulfilled, unhappy life.  How sad for them 
 
DG

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Why do you think criticism isn't positive?

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ORIGINAL: SassySue


I keep thinking this one thing, the we see the world as we are, not as it truly exists... I become more and more convinced of this the older I get.

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ORIGINAL: toservez
I am often fascinated though by people in the cyber land who talk so bluntly negative to other people on the pretense of being honest and say they are that way in real life.

i have been guilty of that.

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Being negative is being negative. It is not an attractive quality in any of us.

Whether it is blunt and coarse or razor sharp intellect, whether it is done on whatever the pretense is of keeping it real, poking holes in absurdity or logic and anything else, the language and tact we use reflects who we are and our personality.
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aint that the truth.