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RE: Negative postings - 11/7/2006 2:01:16 PM

adaddysgirl

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LaT,

i have no sisters but i have 2 female cousins who were both born in the same year as i. We were very close as children....almost like triplets. Even into adulthood, we would sleep over each other's houses and stuff.

About 10 years ago, one of my cousins met a guy and in a nutshell, he pretty much cut her off from her friends and family. We rarely saw her anymore. She did end up marrying him....and i didn't even know it.

Fast forward to last year....out of the blue, she came to my house. i was stunned. Well, her husband had cheated on her....she was a wreck. Did i turn her away? No. Even my son asked me how i could just 'take her back' like that. Even she couldn't believe that i was even talking to her. i won't go into the reasons i was able to do that because i don't think that is the point here.

When my oldest brother went through a separation with his fiance....when my daughter went through her divorce....i was there for them, come hell or high water. i did not tire of them. Eventually, all of them figured out what they needed to do, did it, and moved on with their lives. They are all in different places now and happy....and they still thank me for being there for them.

i know emotional vampires who really do just suck the very life out of you. But i see those as people who are continually negative (or depressed, what have you). i've known people like that and i cannot deal with them on any ongoing basis. But what i descibed above was a situational experience....involving those i dearly love. People who were otherwise happy in life but just needed some support....and on they went. i know i've been there before and could not express the gratitude for those who helped me through it...even when it was probably tedious for them to do so.

So, i wouldn't say you're a bitch....perhaps i even have a higher tolerance for that kind of stuff than others. And quite honestly, i really don't know those that come on and post looking for help...some over and over. i mean, i have no emotional tie with them. But again, i personally would just pass the thread by rather than criticize them for what they've posted. And that is probably just me.

DG

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RE: Negative postings - 11/7/2006 2:26:06 PM

raiken

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

OK, but I, on the other hand, really am humble.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh...but I am humble even in the nearly blinding light of my own magnificence...therefore I am more humble.

Makes me want to start a thread about the humbliest of dominants...ah just imagine...those hard assed doms...gently lowering their eyes in deference to those they are claiming humility before...what an interesting visual...just couldn't help it. i believe there may be such a thing as humble arrogance, no? ~grins~

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RE: Negative postings - 11/7/2006 2:38:39 PM

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But being negative is not necessarily inherently bad, the universe should be balanced after all. There is a difference between being necessarily negative about something and polyannish. Negative does not always equate to mean, cruel, and barbarous.... just saying there is a place for everything, even negativity, now we can debate if the negative outweigh the postive around here, but I bet there are more positive posts than negative posts.... negative ones just seem to stick out more (especially if we feel they are aimed at us)

i agree with this. In my mind, sometimes my best lessons have come through the worst of experiences. Sometimes my deepest and most profound periods of growth have come out of the most painful of lessons, through the negative experiences. For once the emotional attachments and baggage are stripped away, (which means healing occured), i can then look back and remember only the lesson and let go of the emotional residue. i believe it is the many stages we go through after an experience, that marks the difference between those who are still (or choose to remain) victims, and those who have moved on to become survivors, to those who have moved on from both of those stages, which indicates a more complete healing and letting go, to reach a state of freedom from the past, and a place of peace. Just my experience. ~smile~

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RE: Negative postings - 11/7/2006 5:52:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: raiken

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OK, but I, on the other hand, really am humble.

Ahhhhhhhhhhh...but I am humble even in the nearly blinding light of my own magnificence...therefore I am more humble.

Makes me want to start a thread about the humbliest of dominants...ah just imagine...those hard assed doms...gently lowering their eyes in deference to those they are claiming humility before...what an interesting visual...just couldn't help it. i believe there may be such a thing as humble arrogance, no? ~grins~

There you go....~g~.

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RE: Negative postings - 11/7/2006 7:14:32 PM

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ill be honest i really never understood that scene...am i missing something? can you explain it to me?

What scene?

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