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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 9:17:07 AM   
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In fact I think a lot of people in the scene struggle because they set up a dichotomy for themselves- some actions are "bdsm" and "ds" and some are not- so unless you are doing those actions, you aren't "being Ds."

Or they set up that you have your "vanilla life" and your "kink life."

I think if people learned how to simply integrate things and realize it's all just a flowing dynamic which is present at all times, they'd be able to relax more and not be so worried.


...couldn't agree more with that sentiment.

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 9:39:38 AM   
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hmmmm, or in the cage, or with the other girl, or or or ,,,,, *wink

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 9:43:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

In fact I think a lot of people in the scene struggle because they set up a dichotomy for themselves- some actions are "bdsm" and "ds" and some are not- so unless you are doing those actions, you aren't "being Ds."

Or they set up that you have your "vanilla life" and your "kink life."

I think if people learned how to simply integrate things and realize it's all just a flowing dynamic which is present at all times, they'd be able to relax more and not be so worried.

Thank you LA; I could not find the words to express it as eloquently as you have

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 6:27:33 PM   
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For those of us who live 24/7 with all the wonderful distractions, work, beasties, housework, bills and all the trappings of the world of reality if you knew you had 2 days to spend escaping from that reality how would you envision your 2 days/nights.

I would love to hear from both sides of the collar, what would you do?  It would be in your home, (its cheating to say off to a deserted island with toys and all the trappings).  In the space you live now with the toys you have now.  Just without the world of reality sneaking in and interferring in your 2 d/n of uninterrupted BDSM, D/s, M/s or whatever your kink is.

I look forward to hearing from other kinky minds.

Owned

Got me thinking and the only thing that i do not do on my days off would be. Run around the house nakkie, stay in my 2 days off and i would not answer the door or answer the phone. i would want to play all day long to bad we can not find a island where no one would be around grins. Thinks i would love to be outside being tied to a tree bound of course. Knowing at any time a plane could flyyyyyyyyyy by grins

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 7:26:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		honestly  due to the issues i deal with in my life i actually used to steal the one evening a week I used to spend with th eman in my life and make it a what it kind of time.  I am actually pretty good at just stealing the time and enjoying it and keeping the memories to help me through the next week or so until the next time i could have several hours uninterupted...


so pretty much the answer is UNINTERUPTED TIME!!!!

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:13:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mons

greetings
 
i would love to paint my dollhouses and wallpaper each one that would be my two days of fun now you are speaking to dommes too right?
 
mons


The question was meant for anyone who wanted to think what if.  Thank you Mons fior your response

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:19:28 PM   
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If I had 2 days... lets see.  I am thinking a nice quiet back yard, a good book, a really big pitcher of iced coffee and a box of peanut butter filled pretzels for day one.  Day two, have someone else do my laundry while I slept most of it away (preferably snuggled next to a certain warm body), and maybe work in a hot bath and a home cooked meal somewhere.

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:22:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kalira

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I have made reference to that ideal twice as some do not seem to be understanding the intent of my post.  It is the most far fetched out of reality example I can give.

I do not believe anyone truly lives the fantasy, there are some I am sure that live that fantasy in thier minds, or perhaps think that the fantasy is real. 

kalira, if you are looking for an argument I would suggest you perhaps look at another post, I am not looking to argue the lifestyle, how you or anyone else lives it.  I was simply offering up a topic for discussion for those who have a M/s relationship (or any other version of the power exchange) and what they would love to do if they could have 2 days of uninterrupted time entirely focused on each other.

Seems rather simple to me, not to you?

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No, not looking for an argument. For those of us who responded that we did not need to take 'uninterrupted' time, you seemed to come across as superior in your attitude that 'you' don't live a slave's fantasy. Perhaps I read more into your words than what you intended, and if I did, then I apologize.

I don't live a perfect life; I have bills that have to be paid; I have a teenager who has just entered into the difficult stages ; I have my bad days, I have my good days. And yet, if given 2 days to do exactly what I WANTED, I still would not do anything different than what I do on a daily basis now. I enjoy what I have been blessed with; a happy healthy family; with the bonus of a Master who accepts and understands my needs and limitations. What time I am able to spend with him is perfect for me; there is nothing that we do when we are together that can be done in an extra 2 days.

/shrug




Thank you for clarifying kalira,  I did not intend to take any attitude it was a simple question.  For those that wished to think what if, to respond to my thought.

As to LA's response it is not about only being D/s M/s or kinky when we can seperate from "the real world"  it was what would you do if you could have 2 days of uninterrupted time with the other half/third etc of your power exchange.

Honestly I felt many who responded that they did not feel the need to have 2 days of uninterrupted time to come across exactly how you suggested I was, arrogant and superior.  A simple I would not prefer to have that or something similar would have been sufficent.

This was not intended as a post to argue kink time vs vanilla time.  It was simply meant as a discussion and thought provoking.

The majority of couples I know in this life are living together with kids, bills, housework, jobs, pta, afterschool stuff, and perhaps even school after work for themselves.  Never mind the yard work the maintenance on the cars, lawn mowers, snow blowers, ...... well you get the idea,  With all of that yes we live the power exchange 24/7,  however would it not be wonderful for a couple of days to live in a fantasy time warp where you do not have any of the other distractions just time to focus on each other.  I honestly think this applies to any couple not just those in this life, however my question was to those in this life.

Thank you for your replies

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:24:39 PM   
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ORIGINAL: gemy

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hmmmm, or in the cage, or with the other girl, or or or ,,,,, *wink


whoo hooo now thats what I am talking about.........<winks back>

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:26:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Thanks dsamethyst,  I think I would need to request another weekend in warmer weather for the tied to a tree time 

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RE: What if? - 11/3/2006 10:29:08 PM   
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Maybe you should have posted your question differently to say something along the lines of 'if you could live the FANTASY of slavery, what would you do'

My response would have been different, as I suppose many others would have also.

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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 6:12:30 AM   
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What a bunch of crap this turned out to be! 
 
Maybe you should have just said 'IF YOU ARE OTHERWISE HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE BUT COULD SPEND 2 DAYS ALONE AT HOME WITH YOUR PARTNER, WHAT TYPE OF ACTIVITIES WOULD YOU ENGAGE IN?'
 
my god....people are implying that somehow they are so content with their lives as they are, that they don't need a break from that.  Nobody is talking about that!   
 
Simple question....IF you had 2 days alone with your partner with no other distractions, what would you do?   Nobody is saying your life is otherwise unhappy....or that you need  to get away from it...or that you are or are not 24/7....and all that other bs. 
 
Couples have kids, they love them, they do what they gotta do, they would live no other way...fine!  But imagine not having kids around for 2 days....what things would you do?
 
So simple yet some just have to make it so hard.  Amazing 
 
DG
 
 

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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 6:19:39 AM   
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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 6:21:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Does the trees moving make the wind blow?

from the Ransom of Red Chief



Ron, i can't take these metaphors.  What the hell are you talking about?  lol
 
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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 6:26:00 AM   
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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 6:43:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		I had the same thoughts.

I hope I'm never SO content with my life that I lose all imagination for some totally hedonistic times.  I can think of trillions of things I'd like to do with 2 uninterrupted days. Small things, weird things, first things, heavenly repeated things, lazy things, active things, silly things.........

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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 7:02:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I 'got' the original question, too.  But as I don't have unmentionables or many other time consuming responsibilities it didn't apply to me.

No matter how satisfying my day to day life is, I'll still want to take holidays occassionally.  I like variety. 

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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 7:11:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not really a metaphor, it is the beginning of a long passage in a book entitled The Ransom of Red Chief by Jack London...........

In any case, Red Chief (a boy who was kidnapped for ransom)  and thouroughly tormenting his captors began a long series of  what ifs?  with the purity and innocence and wonderment and enthusiasm  that unfortunately is lost to adults in their sophistication and knowledge..........

So, foolish me, I thought that it had some tangentiality to the discussion. Because in reading some of this thread I began to wistfully  consider within myself, What if? What if? It gave me some moments of rather pleasurable daydreaming.

Please don't ask  me to explain myself again, as I am considered a loose cannon and over the top smart ass kinda guy out here .....and I rather enjoy the reputation, but if  I am forced to reveal my cogitative processes, I would become undone rather quickly out here, you see?  And it is such a nice warm and dark closet I occupy at this juncture.

And we simply cannot abide that, can we?


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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 7:28:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Owned,
 
What a bunch of crap this turned out to be! 
 
Maybe you should have just said 'IF YOU ARE OTHERWISE HAPPY WITH YOUR LIFE BUT COULD SPEND 2 DAYS ALONE AT HOME WITH YOUR PARTNER, WHAT TYPE OF ACTIVITIES WOULD YOU ENGAGE IN?'
 
my god....people are implying that somehow they are so content with their lives as they are, that they don't need a break from that.  Nobody is talking about that!   
 
Simple question....IF you had 2 days alone with your partner with no other distractions, what would you do?   Nobody is saying your life is otherwise unhappy....or that you need  to get away from it...or that you are or are not 24/7....and all that other bs. 
 
Couples have kids, they love them, they do what they gotta do, they would live no other way...fine!  But imagine not having kids around for 2 days....what things would you do?
 
So simple yet some just have to make it so hard.  Amazing 
 
DG
 
Honestly DG I have no idea,  well no, I do have some idea why some have taken this thread the way it went.  However those are their issues not mine.
 
That being said I have reread my origional question to see if I could have been clearer, as with each move in life we are given the opportunity to learn and grow.  Suffice it to say I have learned 
 
Thanks for your post, it does reinforce that I am not actually speaking in some unknown language.
 
Cheers!!
 
Owned

 
 


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RE: What if? - 11/4/2006 9:22:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the point is more that if you're living the life you really want for yourself, you don't need a "break from reality" and you don't feel the need to get out stuff you've had to repress because of "life stuff" interfering.

It's a great question and very valid- people SHOULD take vacations, people SHOULD take time to be special and intimate with their long term emotionally connected partners.

But for me, I'm not repressed in what I can do and when, in general at least.  And I'm actually really content with my day to day life.  I enjoy vacations where I don't have an alarm clock, or dishes to cleans- but my vacations are the same as anyones.

I don't have "special" vacations just because I am kinky- although I do enjoy kinky camps and conventions, that's just a special interest.  Vanillas go to special interest camps too that I'm not at all interested in.

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