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juliaoceania -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 8:09:02 AM)

 I have a child that has asthma and has had weight problems.... you have no idea how hard it is to deal with when a kid can't run and play to get them to slim down and then you send them to school and the school fills them with shit food. I had to pull him out because of it.

http://www.webmd.com/content/article/90/100751.htm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/1604482.stm




MistressMelissa -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 8:09:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

This statement could not be more wrong.  For one thing, you don't mean "lower case" and "upper case"; you mean "minuscule" and "majuscule."  And factually you're incorrect too.  The Roman alphabet had no minuscule, and Greek minuscules developed centuries after the majuscule.

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ORIGINAL: MistressMelissa

Lower case letters were developed first , then punctuation and finally upper case letters.



I am not a language expert but I read and try to educate myself. While the terms you use are accurate, many people these days don't understand them but they do understand the terms I used.

The point is that what started out simply as a grammatic rule, has been twisted by the internet into something that is nearly impossible to read. That is what I have been able to discover. If you know more of the historical facts please share them with the rest of us. I would much rather discuss the history and theories of this than the normal nonsense that fills this thread whenever it is posted.

Poor grammar has nothing to do with ones ability to submit.





HalloweenWhite -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 8:32:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

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ORIGINAL: MMshappysub

This all goes back to showing your Dominant respect. Always putting Him first and not yourself.


Actually my dom forbids me writing I in lower case. So what you say doesn't apply to all doms. And some are language mavens who dislike reading non standard English.

More importantly however, is that there are many visually impaired people who use readers and this makes it damn near impossible to follow what is being said. IE " I slash i think You slash you are wrong when You slash you said I slash I"


Just wanted to say I think you made a really good point about people who have a sight impairment. I'd not thought about that.yyuryyubicuryy4me. lol.




TexasMaam -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 9:07:36 AM)

OhhhhhhhhMyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy, Legman1:
What a lovely post!
Makes Me quiver, just to read such a biddable response!

TexasMaam

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ORIGINAL: Legman1

It's not about grammar. It's an exercise in self-discipline which many subs need and a way to honour the D/s.
Where's the tolerance.




Daddysredhead -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 9:16:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lorelei115

its amazing how much emotion and intent people can read into words on a screen, ya know?


I could not agree with you more, Lorelei!!!  Last weekend, I accidentally pushed the caps lock button and typed my post in all caps and was tar-and-feathered for it, because some reader may perceive it as "online shouting."  I think it's far more offensive to flame someone using correct capitalization than to accidentally lock the caps, but that's just me.  What do I know?  I may not be "twue" after all!  [:o]

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Also, I've read a lot of adommeforu's posts, and she has NEVER come off to me as someone who is "Domlier than thou".


Again, Lorelei, you have the wisdom of a sage.  "adommeforu" is one of the most beautifully spoken people I have had the pleasure of "knowing" on here.  She has more respect for others than I have seen in most.




Daddysredhead -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 9:22:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania
To compare this to writing in slashy speak is just freakin idiocy and it shows a total lack of critical thinking on the subject at hand.


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Devilslilsister -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 10:50:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Hercuckslave

O/ok, P/perhaps J/just A/a L/little R/rant O/over H/here.

D/does A/anyone E/else F/find T/the I/i, Y/you, W/we, U/us, M/me C/capitalization S/stuff A/as A/annoying A/as I/i D/do?  I/t H/has N/nothing T/to D/do W/with D/d S/s A/and J/just M/makes I/it M/more D/difficult T/to R/read P/posts A/and E/emails.  T/to M/me I/it I/is J/just C/cyber C/crap.  I/i P/personally P/prefer S/simply F/following T/the A/accepted R/rules O/of G/grammar.

M/m's M/m


no i dont generally find it annoying - but i did find your post highly annoying and only made it through the first line




sultryvoice -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 11:23:42 AM)

To be honest, I find it annoying and unnecessary. Then again, I was a teacher and it goes against what I would teach children. If it suits you, go for it.. In this case, it's neither right or wrong, it's just a preference. Myself, I pass on reading anything done like this. My eyes are not what they used to be. That is what one gets for aging, so called, gracefully!

Respectfully,

Sultry





CreativeDominant -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 11:44:37 AM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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I don't happen to think that all grossly overweight people got there due strictly to genetics


So you take any random child, feed it the same thing that your parents fed you, and by virtue of all the crap they put into this new frankenfood the child gets slightly fat. Add in asthmatic because the air makes them sick, and they do not want to go outside and exercise because of it....

So both parents work, buy convenience foods, are not around to monitor the child and the kid gets fatter and fatter. By the time the kid is an adult they are obese. They have never known a thin day in their life, they have never known what it is to move with ease, they have never known what it is to run without coughing becayse they can't breathe, and the school pushes soda and potatoe chips with pizza at them... welcome to America and the future of obesity... it is a problem that starts in childhood excerbated by junk in school and the air being too toxic for their little lungs to run and play in...

To compare this to writing in slashy speak is just freakin idiocy and it shows a total lack of critical thinking on the subject at hand.


In all actuality julia, I have already conceded that my point that I was inaccurate in my comparison of slash speak to obesity in terms of whether or not they are an active annoyance versus a passive annoyance.  As a matter of fact, I conceded it in the very same post that you are now using part of to call me an idiot for comparing obesity to slash speak.  

Despite your words, I am not an idot. I don't even consider my ORIGINAL post as idiocy, despite my concession of inaccuracy. As noted above and in the post, my words referred to active annoyance versus passive annoyance and referred to other posts and following along their line.  It also conceded, to a certain extent, the inaccuracy of my comparison. 

The rest of it dealt with a differing point of view of obesity and despite your example julia, some people...not all, nor did I say all...get to the point of obesity because they have no self-control and instead, live for immediate self-gratification.  Do I recognize that some people's weight is a harder choice for them due to some genetic disorder and do I recognize that there are those who have no choice because of a disease process?  I sure do.

I have family members whose obesity was easier to achieve due to a genetic predisposition to obesity.  There was my aunt (mother's sister), who died of obesity and complications of obesity such as adult-onset diabetes, high blood pressure, etc.  She was 5' tall and weighed close to 325.  You could say she had no choice in the matter...but then one would have to consider my mother, who also stood 5' tall, had the same genes...including the one for high blood pressure...and weighed 115 lbs.  Luck of the genetic draw?  Or could it be because my mom chose not to have dessert with every meal, chose to take walks every day, chose to learn alongside my dad while he was studying about healthy nutrition, chose not to snack all day?
I also had an uncle with thyroid problems...he'd been hit with it in his teens and he was always overweight, despite following a decent diet and an exercise regime geared towards his condition, and taking all his medication.  He had very little choice in the matter.

So I understand that for some, there is no choice.  Even in your example julia, the kid has a disease process.  The disease he has restricts him from doing certain things, such as exercising outside.  His parents are aware of this and yet, despite this awareness of their child's ill health, they buy him convenience foods to eat and they do not monitor his eating habits even though I am quite sure they see him gaining weight.  Does this kid have a choice?  No...not in terms of his health nor in terms of his parents poor choices.  But...he is not every kid that is becoming obese.  He is not every adult who was slender or husky as a child and who, upon reaching adulthood, began ingesting everything that puts on pounds and quits doing everything that takes it off.

Not everyone is a victim and not every thing that people choose to indulge in is a disease.  If you choose to believe differently, that's your choice.  It does not make you an idiot.  My belief of something different regarding obesity doesn't make me an idiot.   





gypsygrl -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 12:16:03 PM)

When I started with this stuff, the first person I talked to at length and got together with a couple times, had an idiosyncratic system that he wanted me to write with.  It wasn't even the slash speak.  And, he had me writing ALOT, with daily journals.  It got really tedious and I could never get any kind of energy going with him because I was excessively focused on trying to get the grammar right.

I have nothing against this kind of thing, but I've sort of come to the conclusion based on this experience that relying on such practices attempts to substitute some kind of magic ritual for any ability to sustain a real emotional connection.




swtnsparkling -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 12:22:05 PM)

You pulled your kid out of school because the school fills them with shit food?
Why not make him a healthy lunch to take instead




SamKeithsslave -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 3:32:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
There've been several argumentgs against the use of fat people in my argument (won't speak for LA...she can do so quite well herself) re: they do not act as an active annoyance with an intrusion into a person's activities in the way that someone posting on the forum or to you directly does.  I concede that point to a certain extent, though I will say this:  next time you are seated on an airplane and they sit someone morbidly obese in the seat next to you and their size is crowding in on  your body, ask yourself if that is active annoyance or passive.


Its the above lack of compassion and understanding that cause many obese to remain obese. Believe me when I tell you that the 'morbidly obese' would have more reason to find the above annoying than anyone/you. Because we know that there are people out there who think as you do. Now for someone who has tried in vain to lose weight constantly to have to try and fit into a seat that even some "average" people find uncomfortable, knowing that the person next to them is probably thinking "if they didnt stuff themselves with cream cakes........ etc" is extremely embarassing and not at all fun. Add to that the fact you know they are annoyed by you and you then got someone who is going to become even more depressed. I dont believe most weight problems are genetic. I believe most are emotional and/or 'nuture' as juliaoceania states.
So I would say to you, next time you sit on a plane next to a 'morbidly obese' person who is invading on your space, ask yourself how/why they got to that stage. You know no-one chooses to be obese, for some it happens as juliaoceania says. For others there are emotional/mental etc factors that unless you have lived through them you wouldnt understand them. If I were an anorexic person I would be given understanding and consideration that I have a 'condition', being obese doesnt get the same consideration, maybe it should?




empresschaos -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 3:40:01 PM)

Yeah... I think there's something kinda sorta sad about a dom demanding that his submissive refer to the relationship as W/we or O/our on chat boards and forums. Pleeeease. There are waaaaaay more fun things to command your sub to do than relearn grammar in a way that makes things annoying to read. And besides, I am a writer and a student. Would I be required to review a restaurant like this:
"Last Saturday, at Mizuna, my Guest and i enjoyed fine service, and both O/our meals were great."
It's irritating. Just like typing "ur profile is kewl... wanna cum hang out w me and some ppl?" is irritating.




CreativeDominant -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 3:48:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SamKeithsslave

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
There've been several arguments against the use of fat people in my argument (won't speak for LA...she can do so quite well herself) re: they do not act as an active annoyance with an intrusion into a person's activities in the way that someone posting on the forum or to you directly does.  I concede that point to a certain extent, though I will say this:  next time you are seated on an airplane and they sit someone morbidly obese in the seat next to you and their size is crowding in on  your body, ask yourself if that is active annoyance or passive.


Its the above lack of compassion and understanding that cause many obese to remain obese. Believe me when I tell you that the 'morbidly obese' would have more reason to find the above annoying than anyone/you. Because we know that there are people out there who think as you do. Now for someone who has tried in vain to lose weight constantly to have to try and fit into a seat that even some "average" people find uncomfortable, knowing that the person next to them is probably thinking "if they didnt stuff themselves with cream cakes........ etc" is extremely embarassing and not at all fun. Add to that the fact you know they are annoyed by you and you then got someone who is going to become even more depressed. I dont believe most weight problems are genetic. I believe most are emotional and/or 'nuture' as juliaoceania states.
So I would say to you, next time you sit on a plane next to a 'morbidly obese' person who is invading on your space, ask yourself how/why they got to that stage. You know no-one chooses to be obese, for some it happens as juliaoceania says. For others there are emotional/mental etc factors that unless you have lived through them you wouldnt understand them. If I were an anorexic person I would be given understanding and consideration that I have a 'condition', being obese doesnt get the same consideration, maybe it should?


Why does the fact that I believe differently than you regarding this matter make me non-compassionate?  Sorry...the 8 years I spent in classes related to the human body and its diseases and to the psychology of humans and their histology and neurology and endocrinology and -ologies ad nauseum does give me some insight into this and I don't happen to agree that every single obese person made it to obesity through every kind of outside factor you can imagine except their own choice.

By the way...in case you hadn't noticed some of my earlier posts when I first came to collarme...one of my submissives was about 5'3" tall and weighed about 185lbs.
The issue of weight never came up between us.  Made no difference to me or to her.  We both knew how she had gotten there.

If you are going to argue against me or read behavioral characteristics into something I've stated as an intellectual belief, then read everything I say and stop picking out those "soundbites" that inflame you.




windchymes -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 4:19:08 PM)

If S/slashtype is a form of discipline, why can't it be kept strictly between the Dom and the sub, instead of made public? 




SamKeithsslave -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 4:19:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
Why does the fact that I believe differently than you regarding this matter make me non-compassionate? 

I never said it was because you thought differently makes you non-compassionate. I was commenting on your comment in regards to "annoyance or passive" when refering to sitting next to someone large on a plane.
 
Sorry...the 8 years I spent in classes related to the human body and its diseases and to the psychology of humans and their histology and neurology and endocrinology and -ologies ad nauseum does give me some insight into this and I don't happen to agree that every single obese person made it to obesity through every kind of outside factor you can imagine except their own choice.

Only 8 years? [;)] I have spent 20 + years fighting weight and all the -ologies in the world cant give you the insight that actually living it can - as I am sure you'd understand seeing as...........

By the way...in case you hadn't noticed some of my earlier posts when I first came to collarme...one of my submissives was about 5'3" tall and weighed about 185lbs.

BTW, I had not noticed your earlier post you made when you first came to collarme etc Why would I? I have only just started here myself. To expect me to "notice" something you wrote 590+ posts ago is a little impractical.

The issue of weight never came up between us.  Made no difference to me or to her.  We both knew how she had gotten there.

If you are going to argue against me or read behavioral characteristics into something I've stated as an intellectual belief, then read everything I say and stop picking out those "soundbites" that inflame you.

a) I am not "arguing" against you, I was merely stating my point of view about a comment you made.
b) And nothing you have said has "inflamed" me either. Why you think it has I dont know.
 
Why everything I write is being interpretated by some as an attack or a desire to argue is beyond me. I would suggest perhaps it is you who has gotten a little inflamed? Of course I cant make you believe I am not inflamed or looking for an argument, all I can state are the facts, which are that as I wrote my last post and this one I do so calmly and with no malice or desire to cause confrontation.
You made a comment, a specific one about whether or not sitting next to someone obese would be annoying or not, I merely tried to offer an alternative to how the obese person might be feeling. I did in fact agree with you that I do not believe obesity should always be considered to be 'genetic'. I would question your view that some people have no self control and live for immediate self gratification etc While it may be true that some people may start gaining weight through a lack of control I believe there does come a point when every obese person looks in the mirror and says "whoa! I gotta do something". Unfortunately by then bad habits & bad eating patterns have found their footing and failed efforts to lose weight then add to the weight problem and then starts the emotional downward spiral. And you have someone not overweight because they have no self-control and only live for the moment, you have someone obese because they are lost as to where to turn next.




LordODiscipline -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 5:33:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
Also...the American Medical Association has labeled many things a disease...alcoholism, obesity, homosexuality, an affinity for BDSM.  I don't happen to agree with their broad sweep.  Not every alcoholic has a genetic predisposition to it.  I don't happen to think that all grossly overweight people got there due strictly to genetics.  I don't think homosexuals are "sick".  I don't think that those of us who like BDSM necessarily have something "wrong" with us mentally.
Of course, it is the A.M.A. who once labelled chiropractic as "cultism" and accupuncturists as "quacks". 


I believe it was the APA -American Psychiatric Association- (not the AMA) that has overview on the definitions for what is and is not a mental abheration.

~J




Caitriona -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 5:48:17 PM)

I do not care for it, and neither does My Lord.




Aileen68 -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 5:52:19 PM)

*Fast Reply*
How on Earth did this thread become a F/fat debate?




gooddogbenji -> RE: D/does A/anyone E/else T/think T/this? (11/11/2006 5:55:17 PM)

Because God hates people who ask that question, Aileen.

Yours,


benji




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