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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 11/26/2006 9:16:04 AM

Celeste43

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I'm glad you've found your self respect and are considering what is best for you.

You've known you for your whole life, he only knew you for a little. If he really believed that he knows you better than you know yourself it shows that all he really knows is fantasy.

You've learned a lot through this bad experience, as a result you will make better choices in potential partners in the future. Unfortunately the only way to acquire good judgment is to have used bad judgment in the past and learned from it. Good luck.

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 11/26/2006 10:27:04 AM

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Which at this point just REALLY gets me going because his whole line of "I know you better than you know yourself" is now OBVIOUSLY just a line to try and manipulate her into doing the fantasies he wanted- when there was no intention at all to take the necessary time to allow things to develop, or to have the health of his primary relationship priority to everything else.

Glad you talked and at least realized you aren't compatible. Hopefully now he'll realize he just wants to fuck around with a lot of women and enjoy that.

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/4/2006 8:45:29 PM

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I am wondering how safesaneplay2 is now doing?...Tempting

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/5/2006 6:24:59 AM

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I hope she's allright. It's hard to come back into the lifestyle and trust again after being violated like that.

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/5/2006 7:03:18 AM

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greetings

from you post i see that you were made to do something you did not want to do! even when someone loves you they do not have the right mind set for what you need and you did not or need another woman with you in bed. i am not turn on about the ideal of being with another woman either and if i were a slave and my master ask me to do this and him knowing i did not want to i would be feeling the same way. he is asking you to think of this again! i do not know how much say you have in the relationship you have with him but you must tell him no your sick and ready to throw up this is such bad sign and he should be told or he must see you reaction to this . i am sorry you were made to do this, i remember as a teen many young men would say " you will do this if you love me" dear this is not love your love may be true but your master love for you is so different it does remind me of the boys saying do it if yu love me. how sad and i am sorry you went through this tell him no, any man who use this to get something is not a man who has honor or trust no one should be force and this was force by him givng you a suggestion there are fine master out there you change from being his from you letter you feel cold to him but still love him . tthink on what you will do, do not do something that is not right or feel right to you never

i wish you luck dear i hope he reads some of what others think

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/5/2006 7:22:39 AM

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you sound mad that she change what is your problem why are some so mad she is in pain from this she sis opening up more this does not change how she felt really why try to hurt her feeling she did not like it nor should it matter how she changed and why is it s important how her actions are to you ?????

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/5/2006 12:30:56 PM

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I too wonder what happened to the girl...in reading through this thread, I see that she has not come back to check on the posts.

Personally, I look at it this way. She and her master talked about this and she agreed to it. She did it and discovered that it is not for her. At this point, she needs to communicate that to him and get it clear with him that it is a hard limit. If he cannot accept that as a hard limit and does not wish to bring a differing compromise to the table, then they both have some choices to make. It is not necessary that he accept what she wants if he has decided he has got to have it but neither is it necessary for her to break her hard limit or accept whatever compromise he does bring.
I don't believe in this idea of "I know you better than you do". I might think I know some things about a submissive that I am involved with that she is herself not aware of and which I gleaned from observation and critical analysis of the data she herself presents but my endthoughts still come down to this: do I know every possible item of data that would help me know just how she will respond to this given situation? In some instances, yes...I have been right. In just as many, I have not. I'd rather talk to her and be clear about what is happening, what is not, where she stands, where I stand, on any issue. If she agreed to try something that I wanted to try and then came to me afterwards and said "I am sorry...I did it for you...but I cannot do it ever again", then I owe it to her to believe what she is saying and not denigrate her by stating "you are wrong...you really want this...you just have not accepted it yet". That then is MY wish fulfillment, not hers.

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RE: I can't get the third out of my head - 12/6/2006 5:37:29 AM

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greetings

i was shock that a master would do this and not think of the woman he has, he thoughts on it i am against bisexual people at all but as a child my older sister molested me had me doing things i remember now. when i read her post i had a chill the distaste of doing that when you do not want to is so strong and as her master many forget the power many dominants have over slave and submissives they so want to please us and do as we say it is amazing. so for anyone of us who says she should had said something have forgotten the hold we have on these ones we hold in our power. if i speak to a submissive and they have a thing for being force to be with another male i do not speak with them. they are looking to my opinion a way to learn to have a gay expericnes i will not give it to them. i do not share my slaves with anyone, and i make sure when i read their profile it does not mention sharing of any kind. now this girl has now to my opimion is not scare and her master could care less yes he does not care the words" if you love me " sink any type of good realtionhips they had. i do hope she find a another master who has her heart and mind and will take care of them both. i do wonder how we think she has the power to tell him no when he is her master to her he is all and what he tells her she will listen i nor does anyone know what the living arrangment is does she have a way to leave? does she work can she just walk out without anything and a big thing id she loves him, with all of this she is locked in this realtionship but i do hope she leaves him he has taken he power to far.

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