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boltaction -> What else should we try? (11/28/2006 8:25:13 PM)

So, I met this girl sunday night and before we even meet she wants to meet up at a porn shop. Yeah...

So we meet, she tells me she wants to be spanked and has some ideas for ice+candle on her pussy, plus a buttplug. We get everything and go to a motel. Here are the things we did:

Spanking:
OTK, Diaper position, legs up, all fours, sideways, laying down on bed, otk with legs up

tying up hands
buttplug but couldnt fit dildo in at the same time no matter WHAT i tried
ice on nipples, underarms, front, pussy
leather paddle to butt and pussy (she really loved her pussy getting spanked and I could see it made her wet, she wanted to be sitting up at the time)
hand spanking to pussy and butt
pouring wax on pussy (she could hardly handle this)
calling me master, me fucking her in ass and vagina and getting head


the entire time she was blindfolded. I also told her she couldnt come until I gave her permission, she seemed to thrive on being told what to do. She begged me to let her cum.

What else should we try next time?



RiotGirl -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 8:56:19 PM)

getting to know each other?  i always find that a good starting point....




TemptingNviceSub -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 8:57:51 PM)

Talking?......................Tempting



DiamondOrchid -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 8:58:05 PM)

How about something vanilla? Your profile says you are "interested in a vanilla relationship on the outside with dominant/submissive relationship in the bedroom." By the way, since you just met this girl, I would strongly advise getting all STD/STI tests possible. If she's this easy with you, what makes you think she isn't with everyone else?
 
Also, you say you're a Dom. Act like one and take the lead next time.
 
D.



StacyCat -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 9:28:17 PM)

Dude, if you are bored after only three days, there is something majorly wrong.  Not very imaginative.  Great, what a wonderful characteristic for a dom!



theRose4U -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 10:15:08 PM)

Yeah sorry I usually try coffee talk before something that could very easily do perminant harm like wax on the genitals. I sure as heck hope this is a troll that's been watching too much porn. Otherwise dude you're lucky as hell you're not in jail.



AquaticSub -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 10:15:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

getting to know each other?  i always find that a good starting point....




Excellent advice. I always advise a "getting to you" round of STD tests for the newly met couple along with a wonderful stroll down "tell me about you" lane. After that, have an nice bowl of ice cream. I recommend the "so what your goals and dreams" flavor. As the day fades into evening, I suggest a lovely wine, perhaps of the "tell your fantasies" vintage. Spend the next day pondering what you have learned and work your mind to figure out if you two are a couple or fuck buddies. Then start worrying about new positions to try.

And: If you are really tapped out already, watch more porn now. Mix and match ideas, top with whipped cream. Heavily whipped cream.



twistedwillow -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 10:49:12 PM)

Yep, what everyone else has said, i realise from your post, that getting to know someone, spending time talking to them, may be a little extreme for you. But i suggest you try it, never know, you might actually  enjoy it. Failing that i hear boardgames are a good way to pass the time

twistedwillow



CandleInTheWind -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 10:58:10 PM)

buddy I extremely doubt that you will in fact actually have the same girl in the new wet dream you have so  well you should just be ableto repeat the activities in this one and well it would be all new....LOL



boltaction -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 11:18:17 PM)

wow, I didn't expect such a negative backlash.

Let me take you back a little bit:
I posted an ad on craigslist that said basically: "I am looking to spank someone, not looking for sex." and I got her response hours later. She initiated, got me involved, and wanted to try it that night. I am 23, she is 21. She has a dominant personality, except in "the bedroom". So in other words I am still what my personal says: vanilla interested in kink in private.

Furthermore this happened so fast I didn't really know what to think. This is what we both wanted to do, so thats what we did. I wore condoms, obviously. Of course if this goes farther we will talk. As of right now, all I know is that this person is very kink minded and I wouldn't mind having some new ideas for if we meet again.



boltaction -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 11:19:28 PM)

Oh and in case anyone is wondering: strictly fuck buddies. Not to be a jerk, but if you think there is something wrong with two consenting adults being so, then don't respond.



susie -> RE: What else should we try? (11/28/2006 11:55:22 PM)

You seem to have missed the point. This should not be a case of "done that what next?" All these things should take time and thought. If you did that all in one night  then it seems to me more a case of "phew another thing to tick off the list". If you do things properly some of these things on their own can take hours.

Getting to know someone is not just is also about watching and learning from their reaction to what you are doing to them. Seems to me you rushed through all these things so that you can say you did them. Take a bit more time over them and stop thinking that you have to try everything.



ExSteelAgain -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 1:38:36 AM)

The reply by Susie was worthy of a Dear Abby column. Perfect.



Focus50 -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 2:00:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: boltaction
What else should we try next time?

Fill out your profile checklists - that's what you did wasn't it; collect multiple experiences?
 
Focus.



Quivver -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 2:24:42 AM)

Wow, the laundry list of activitys... sigh, how common. 
There is nothing wrong with a fuck buddy, but it's the way chosen to get one that give us all a bad name.
[:'(]



SamKeithsslave -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 2:38:40 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: boltaction

wow, I didn't expect such a negative backlash.


You didnt? Wow! To be honest I am amazed at how passive the responses have been - lol.
I actually read it and thought "This guy is just trying to brag about a good lay he has just had", there are plenty of ideas of what you could try next, they are limited only by your imagination. However I cant helping think that fuck buddy or no fuck buddy its still worthwhile getting to know this person, it doesnt sound as if you even spent much time online chatting. I'd be concerned for my safety.



MrrPete -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 3:07:54 AM)

I too recommend getting tested. But there's nothing wrong with doing that all over again.

Here are my suggestions:

Dinner and chat
Walk and chat
Shop and chat

Of course if this was a one night stand that's all mute.

Why I don't believe this happened.  You're bragging about it.




Fitznicely -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 4:19:01 AM)

Y'know what? If that's your thing, if it really happened and if you don't have the police knocking your door with an arrest warrant, then hell, it's all good.

We're all allowed a bit of fantasy, eh?

I do agree with the others though. You might want to spend some time talking to the poor wench. She's took a lot from you and presumably given you a night to remember for a long time. She deserves your respect.

As for what next? More of the same, I'd say. There's plenty of variations to be had with the stuff you've already done, plenty of implements to be had and a wealth of experiences to be tried out.

Don't throw money at her without caution, though. Imagine the situation...she wants you to get all this stuff, she invites you to her place one night, says don't worry taking it home, it'll be ready for you to use on her next time.

And then you never hear from her again - apart from a police visit.

Even given all night, you can't have spent much time on each activity, so how about one night where you try out different types of bondage, or times when you just use one implement or whatever?

Above all, if that's what you're gonna do then for the sake of everything good and holy, please stay Safe Sane, Consensual and clean! There's no reason it can't be hugely enjoyable without going into the realms of stupidity and danger. And if this chick WANTS to have the stupidity and danger...

Run for the fucking hills.

And because I'll probably catch hell for not adding some kind of disclaimer - I'm not saying you should go further than you or she is willing to go. You're having fun and all, but don't and I mean this seriously DON'T use your sessions for Limit Stretching. It's my opinion that you need to get to know your victim a LOT better than you ever could in a one-night-stand before you can get into edge play or limit stretching. If you're not happy doing such-and-such with/to her, then don't .Simple.

If that's what she wants - dude, she's a psycho. No ifs, no buts.

Edge play and limit stretching (for me anyway) is an exercise in empathy, mind reading and interpreting body language in very extreme circumstances and only to be done between people who know each other inside and out - mentally and emotionally as well as physically.

Aside from all that, well, what can I say? If this isn't just the fevered imaginings of some troll, then good on yer, mate. Get the chick to sign up to CM and have a chat with us, too [:D]



NINASHARP -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 5:33:16 AM)

fast reply;

For god sakes people! I know I won't win friends with these comment, but what is the deal with everyone? When someone comes on here and asks a question (no matter how lame) they get all the flack about what they are doing??  Time and time again I've read posts that ask about ideas or suggestions, and unless they're "emotional" ones, all they get are jokes, hijacking and harsh opinions. Maybe no one here has anything better to say for the lack of experiences or maybe its just jealousy? I understand that people should come up with their own ideas, I have many of my own. I'm not trying to be mean, but whats so wrong with someone asking for new ones? So fucking on a first date isn't your thing. The OP was asking for advice and gets shot down.  

Funny how in another post, where the OP is doing the exact same thing by bashing another website, gets a totally opposite reaction.

Nina 



Fitznicely -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 5:45:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: NINASHARP

fast reply;

For god sakes people! I know I won't win friends with these comment, but what is the deal with everyone? When someone comes on here and asks a question (no matter how lame) they get all the flack about what they are doing??  Time and time again I've read posts that ask about ideas or suggestions, and unless they're "emotional" ones, all they get are jokes, hijacking and harsh opinions. Maybe no one here has anything better to say for the lack of experiences or maybe its just jealousy? I understand that people should come up with their own ideas, I have many of my own. I'm not trying to be mean, but whats so wrong with someone asking for new ones? So fucking on a first date isn't your thing. The OP was asking for advice and gets shot down.  

Funny how in another post, where the OP is doing the exact same thing by bashing another website, gets a totally opposite reaction.

Nina 


Hey hey hey!

Tar someone else with that brush!

The least he's gonna get is advice that will help him stay safe in what could be an extremely explosive situation.



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