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blushingflower -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 5:52:55 AM)
1) Just because you've already done it doesn't mean you can do it again. If it was enjoyable the first time, it should be enjoyable the second time. Then, consider what it is you've always wanted to do to/with a girl. Bring it up and see if she's up for it. 2) My personal favorite activity is fisting, but you can't just rush into that, it takes work. 3) Part of "fuck buddies" is "buddies" which means, to me at least, that you should also be friends. You can hang out, watch a movie, heck, watch a porno to get ideas. And I would also recommend a conversation (if you haven't already had it) about what your respective limits are. That will help you establish trust (very important) and help give you guidelines in determining what it is you'd like to do with her.

RiotGirl -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 7:08:03 AM)
quote: Oh and in case anyone is wondering: strictly fuck buddies. i'm sticking with my orginal suggestion. You say its strictly fuck buddies - yet i think you left out the BUDDY part. Now i know i've had a few fuck buddies in my life - cant remember when - but i'm sure its happened.. and they were always buddies. B - u - d - d - y's. Which in my definition of buddy you would almost consider them a friend. Friends are people you know and fuck. Right? I think you are missing the know part. Second side of my advice to "get to know" is if you actually know and talk to the girl you'll find out more what she likes and it'll give you some better ideas on what to do NEXT. umm.. duh? Sure i could suggest peeing on her.. roman showers.. brown showers.. fart domination.. extreme nipple torture.. and whupping her ass with a single tail whip.. sewing her vagina shut.. fisting her.. using the baby hughy (spelling?) on her.. cumming in her ass and making her suck it out with a straw.. .. suspending her by her genitals.. face slapping.. slapping her in the face with your penis.. brining friends over and riding the train on her ass.. making her call you "MasterlyLord of all the Universe".. sticking a candle in her ass, lighting it and singing happy birthday to her.. applying bengay to her nipples and telling her "shut up bitch you know you like it!" calling her "whore, slut, over used pie hole", hell you could even try calling her "fartblossom" i heard thats a very nice thing to call others, you could try puppy play, pony play.. hell just fart on the girl. But ya know - if you dont know the girl - you'll have no clue if its her birthday or not. What i think you mean is that she's a booty call. Yet even with booty calls - you sorta know what floats the bootys boat. On top of that - we dont know you. We dont know if you can suspend a turkey from a chicken wire or even if you know what Fart Domination is and if you dont know what Fart Domination is - i dont suggest trying anything from my list. Are you flowing with me yet? Is the broad sense of the picture becoming clear? We havent a clue what your skill level is and you havent a clue what her likes and dislikes are.. so how in the hell are we to suggest anything? What you might want to TRY - is going out for coffee.. having a chit chat with her.. get to know her, find out if you'll be the 3rd or 4th guy she's fuckeing that night, what her likes and dislikes are and umm... yeah. You do understand that random sex with total and complete strangers is not wise in this day and age. STD's and HIV is everywhere. No and you cant tell by looking at a person if they're dirty with disease or not.

Mercnbeth -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 7:44:52 AM)
quote: tying up hands buttplug but couldnt fit dildo in at the same time no matter WHAT i tried ice on nipples, underarms, front, pussy leather paddle to butt and pussy (she really loved her pussy getting spanked and I could see it made her wet, she wanted to be sitting up at the time) hand spanking to pussy and butt pouring wax on pussy (she could hardly handle this) calling me master, me fucking her in ass and vagina and getting head Don't let these others offend. You have the perfect ultimate Master/slave relationship. If you know more than her name you know too much and you may start caring for her and that will only inhibit your ability to be a true master. The reality it you HAVE done it all! At least on the basic level. You have to move on to some more advanced play. For example: Breath Play - Nothing feels as good or as erotic as the spasm of a vagina or asshole as the slave losses conscience. Use a rope, or better yet, bend her over the toilet with her head beneath the water and go at it. Fire Play - Waxing is a good way to start, but a small blow torch and heated metal really gets them going. Pick up one of those cheap kitchen 'crème brulee' torches and a hanger. You can make all kinds of nice patterns on the skin. Knife Play - As long as you don't penetrate more than an inch or two, which may be a bit extreme. Sometimes it's fun to burst the blisters from the Fire Play with the time of the knife. Gun Play - She loves having you control her orgasms? Well put a little excitement into the action. How about 'Russia Roulette' orgasms? Get a revolver and put one bullet in a chamber. Every time she wants to cum she has to hold it to her head and pull the trigger. If you have any "switch" tendencies you may consider having her point it at you after your orgasm. Necro Play - You've already iced up your sub, but take it the next step. Put her in an ice filled tub for an hour or so, and plug her holes with ice dildos. After an hour, carry her to the bed and pretend you're a horny morgue worker. If the Gun Play, Breath Play, Fire Play, or Knife Play goes wrong, you won't need the ice. Of course whatever you do, make sure you implement a 'safe-word'. That will protect your sub from any harm and protect you from any responsibility. If something goes wrong, just let the police know it was consensual and she could have safe-worded. The police are very understanding. Better yet, create a contract where your sub gives you permission in writing to use her body as you wish, acknowledging that she has a safe-word to protect herself if something goes wrong. Think of a safe-word is your BDSM "get out of jail free" card. You'll never have to worry about going too far. Have Fun!

ExSteelAgain -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 8:08:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RiotGirl Sure i could suggest peeing on her.. roman showers.. brown showers.. fart domination.. extreme nipple torture.. and whupping her ass with a single tail whip.. sewing her vagina shut.. fisting her.. using the baby hughy (spelling?) on her.. cumming in her ass and making her suck it out with a straw.. .. suspending her by her genitals.. face slapping.. slapping her in the face with your penis.. brining friends over and riding the train on her ass.. making her call you "MasterlyLord of all the Universe".. sticking a candle in her ass, lighting it and singing happy birthday to her.. applying bengay to her nipples and telling her "shut up bitch you know you like it!" calling her "whore, slut, over used pie hole", hell you could even try calling her "fartblossom" i heard thats a very nice thing to call others, you could try puppy play, pony play.. hell just fart on the girl. RG, geez, fricking stream of consciousness, bdsm thoughts. Your mind needs to be studied. :)

mgdartist -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 8:46:23 AM)
quote: wow, I didn't expect such a negative backlash. I feel ya man, but you'd better fucking get used to it here, especially when sportin' the ice cream cone. I'm down with NINASHARP. If you need to hold forth a comment on ANYTHING, this is the best place to test it for flame-resistance, and have it stripped of its intent, broken-up and ridiculed out of context, while having your character and profile critiqued, this is the place, and the CM forum welcome team rarely disappoints. One can glean actual useful advice, if able to read between the lines, sift thru sullies and sarcasms, and prudently maintian ones composure enough to just leave quietly.

KatyLied -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 8:49:10 AM)
quote: What else should we try next time? See how it goes when she doesn't top from the bottom. That will be something different for you.

RiotGirl -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 8:50:56 AM)
awwwww Mg - i dont think you've been hugged lately! i know two posters who are always looking for head and i bet you could get a hug afterwards! Course knowing them, they prolly wouldnt - but it never hurts to try. LOL Ex and i was only posting the things i thought that wouldnt go over well on the second meeting.

Emperor1956 -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 8:56:28 AM)
Everything Merc said (I trust that was Merc?). That is what a REAL Dominant would do. And We all know because (1) we're Old Guard knowledgeable real-time Dominants and (2) we don't got no fuckin' vanilla cones on our avatars! If all that doesn't arouse, I suggest a nice cup of tea. Myself? I like Lapsang Souchong, brewed in a pot with loose leaves. No lemon. If you are a newbie you might try Irish Breakfast or Earl Grey ... the stronger exotic stuff takes some work-up (just like BDSM). That's what a TRUE Dom would do. E.

mgdartist -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:07:40 AM)
@RiotGirl - how sweet. Thanks for the offer, but given the choice of getting head from dommes, I'd rather watch cows fuck. Granted perhaps about the hug, but that's nothing I'd be so naive to come to this forum for, and in fact isn't why I came to cm in the first place. Tho I didn't at first seek to be insulted, have my heterosexuality questioned, and observe those I presumed would be the most upbeat, funloving and intensely happy folk in the world, turn out to be the lot of back-biting, critical, disgruntled and intractible group they are. So I've then adjusted and now feel right at home, thank you.

RiotGirl -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:17:13 AM)
<grins> i wasnt suggesting Domme's.. i was really suggesting LaM and Ron.. though i didnt know that your hetero - ness was questioned.. who'd of thunk it? And i know LaM and Ron arent bi.. but ya know they had a thread in here about straight men accepting head from men.. so ya never know! p.s. it was all tongue in cheek cos i didnt like your negative attitude. <grins> Sorry i couldnt trilly be sweet.. but then i tend to think the people on here are hilariously funny and funny people are always high in my book. But then - i dont have to go home with them and give them head at the end of the night, so who knows? They coulllllllld be just as negative and dour as you! though there are some people on here who do have to go home and give them head at night and they all seem quite happy - so that says something. p.s.s - its not a bad group of people, you just need to get to know them. Course with in any group there are always a few you want to bop on the head a few times, you want to hug, and you want to give them head. (not in that order and not with the same person of course.. though it could be kinky if it WAS with the same person) ::sigh:: i think i just need a good cry in my oats later - care to join?

Mercnbeth -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:29:04 AM)
quote: Everything Merc said (I trust that was Merc?). That is what a REAL Dominant would do. And We all know because (1) we're Old Guard knowledgeable real-time Dominants and (2) we don't got no fuckin' vanilla cones on our avatars! Emperor, Of course it was Merc, beth was still shivering under the covers from a morning session of the aforementioned 'Necro-Play'. It was a very chilly night here so just for fun I had her spend it tied to a bungee cord connected to the drain in the deep end of the pool. I integrated breath play into the scene. You know, we've done these things so long we have to combine them so we don't get bored. she wanted to cum, but I had just used the last bullet on a new kitten she just found (she DARED* to focus on its care instead of me for 5 minutes and I had to re-direct her attention to where it belonged!*) I have a string tied to my finger to remind me to re-load on the way home. she'll just have to be 'frustrated' during the day, but it is her fault.

RedSavageSlave -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:31:59 AM)
Hey Merc??? Are you looking for a second sub because I think that is soo hot!!!! I miss having my Master do all those things to me..<sigh> There are SOOO few real Masters around anymore..dammit~

Lordandmaster -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:33:35 AM)
Laugh! quote: ORIGINAL: RiotGirl getting to know each other? i always find that a good starting point....

mgdartist -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:39:11 AM)
quote: <grins> i wasnt suggesting Domme's.. lol, ns, huh? methinks you doth protest too much, nor was my first post to the OP of any reference to you or any comment you made. Yet now I'm presumed dour and negative, and if I'm not mistaken, sad yet gay.Since you couldn't see my smiling countenance and happy demeanor as I wrote each post, I fear you've misunderestimated me. But I must thank you yet again for proving my original point. As far as the quality and nobility of the varied D/s aristocracy who gather and pontificate here, who am I to say? But since you have vouched for them as you have, it is only seemly I should take your surety as valid and true, after all the kindness and gentleness youve shown me, and offering to share your tear-filled oats like that. peace

Mercnbeth -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 9:50:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave Hey Merc??? Are you looking for a second sub because I think that is soo hot!!!! I miss having my Master do all those things to me..<sigh> There are SOOO few real Masters around anymore..dammit~ Red, I hear ya'. Every meeting there are fewer of us. I think it has something to do with the fact that more and more of them have become 'switches' and masters have been on a streak of bad luck in 'Roulette'. On the other matter well, I don't know. beth's just turned 40 and it seems she's not recovering as quickly as she used to after a night of 'deep end pool bungee' play. However beth's a redhead and I think a brunette in next in the rotation. But I've always been interested in trying the completely shaved headed look. If your interested let me know and I'll send you my standard application and waiver.

crouchingtigress -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 10:44:07 AM)
quote: wow, I didn't expect such a negative backlash. lol you have stumbled in to the wrong place then...we are a very lashy bunch...backlashes...frontlashes...double fisted lashes....we like them all....[;)] ps welcome to the fora....

RedSavageSlave -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 11:13:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth But I've always been interested in trying the completely shaved headed look. If your interested let me know and I'll send you my standard application and waiver. I dont know....I have always been kind of "identified" as the raven haired beauty... shave it off and what am I but just another face in the crowd.. I think I have to figure out if thats a hard limit for me or not.. can I get back to you??

NINASHARP -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 11:29:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RiotGirl quote: Oh and in case anyone is wondering: strictly fuck buddies. You do understand that random sex with total and complete strangers is not wise in this day and age. STD's and HIV is everywhere. No and you cant tell by looking at a person if they're dirty with disease or not. RiotGirl, safety is a good point. I’m a safety gal myself. I use to wear latex gloves for even a OTK spanking, and even wash my nice deer skin floggers in diluted bleach water, cause well its not just cum you have to worry about when you want to avoid body fluids that could contain disease, theres also blood, sweat, tears, saliva, and well the last thing I would want is to get get knocked up right now, or have unprotected anyhthing from some one who has been playing around with others, so I'd never consider having sex without a condom. I am so paranoid, I have seperate toys for seperate people and still use condoms on dildos and butt plugs. Course you have to secure them with tiny rubber bands at the end so they don’t slip off in the rectal canal. OK, so maybe the OP was just a fantasy or maybe he’s trolling for wanker material, which Merc so graciously supplied. But I’d bet my adjustable stocks that if the OP had came here with a post like “How do I get to know her better?” the CM welcome wagon would come out in full force and happily offer ideas with no problems, no flames, no bashing. But that wasn’t his question, and yet it was thrown at him over and over and over again, and now the whole thing is just a joke. It makes me wonder why is it so hard to get advice on the physical ways to enjoy wiitwd, better?? BTW, I've been lurking here for almost a year, (I know that’s a short time for most of you) but in just the last 11 or so months I've seen lots of this crap go on from the different regulars. What if this guy now has some safety issues to address, would he dare come here to post again? I think not. I don’t think anyone here (including me) can throw stones at vanilla cones, if ya know what I mean.

Fitznicely -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 12:42:12 PM)
Riot: Given the facts as he presented them - a one-night-stand with whom he pretty much ran the gamut of SM 101, would anyone wish to stand up and give him advice which could end up in one of them getting hurt in a bad way? I can see what you're saying: "He's fine with it, so just give him what he asks for and move on", but maybe some of us are concerned that the situation might not end up going well if he's not careful.

NINASHARP -> RE: What else should we try? (11/29/2006 12:53:45 PM)
I completely and totally understand that. But 30+ posts and you and Riot were the only one to suggest he use any physical care. OK, so maybe I didn't see what the others saw. I saw a guy looking for some help with some physical s&m ideas. Nina

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