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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 2:45:02 PM

thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Color me clueless, but I'm still not fully getting your code here.

What show? Life in general? Sex? Whaaaat? Toss me a bone here!

While I don't NORMALLY do puppy play..here ya go:

"Have you ever been so impressed with your boy that you just give it up for him"? Turn the kid loose in the candy store per say? :)

I'm starting to think I'm the only one that does this)

Meaning that he wants to be a puppy so you do that scene for him?

Sure, we do this sort of thing often around my place. Fox loves bondage so when he's been a good slave, we'll set aside time for him to get wrapped up or tied up. I'm neutral about bondage myself.

OR

Meaning that you play a puppy so he can be your trainer/caregiver/master?

No, that woud be switching my book and I don't switch.

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:15:15 PM

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There is no code.. Fyre got it.. please see her post above me here :) I really can't think of any other way to explain it. It's not switching. , it's more of a reward situation?

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ORIGINAL: MisPandora

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Color me clueless, but I'm still not fully getting your code here.

What show? Life in general? Sex? Whaaaat? Toss me a bone here!

While I don't NORMALLY do puppy play..here ya go:

"Have you ever been so impressed with your boy that you just give it up for him"? Turn the kid loose in the candy store per say? :)

I'm starting to think I'm the only one that does this)

I give up. I was not meant to understand your code in this post.

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:16:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

quote:

ORIGINAL: LotusSong

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Color me clueless, but I'm still not fully getting your code here.

What show? Life in general? Sex? Whaaaat? Toss me a bone here!

While I don't NORMALLY do puppy play..here ya go:

"Have you ever been so impressed with your boy that you just give it up for him"? Turn the kid loose in the candy store per say? :)

I'm starting to think I'm the only one that does this)

Meaning that he wants to be a puppy so you do that scene for him?

Sure, we do this sort of thing often around my place. Fox loves bondage so when he's been a good slave, we'll set aside time for him to get wrapped up or tied up. I'm neutral about bondage myself.

OR

Meaning that you play a puppy so he can be your trainer/caregiver/master?

No, that woud be switching my book and I don't switch.

ARRRRRRRGH!!!! ROFL!.. No I was just making an allusion to "throw me a bone here" :)

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:39:45 PM

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Good grief Ladies; its not that difficult!

Think of it as bottoming from the top sorta thing...... he is well trained enough to know what you want/like sexually and gets on with it without needing direction, and/or you let him loose to do what he wants/likes, but within the boundaries he knows.

Its not switching. Its like a natural end to a tease and denial scenario, where he is rewarded for restraint by being let loose to ravish and molest (oh goody!) - but with the restraint still there that he knows you expect.

I think

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:43:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Good grief Ladies; its not that difficult!

Think of it as bottoming from the top sorta thing...... he is well trained enough to know what you want/like sexually and gets on with it without needing direction, and/or you let him loose to do what he wants/likes, but within the boundaries he knows.

Its not switching. Its like a natural end to a tease and denial scenario, where he is rewarded for restraint by being let loose to ravish and molest (oh goody!) - but with the restraint still there that he knows you expect.

I think

E

Yes!! Give that girl a cupie doll !!!! I thought I was "speaking in tongues" there or something!

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:47:27 PM

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*chuckles* I like a good shag as much as the next girl. But I don't consider anything I do for my own pleasure with a man to be "subbing" in any respect, unless "get off my hair you oaf" and "not like that" are now considered "safewords".

I do not switch in the sense that I allow anyone to inflict pain or humiliation of any sort, but then again--I'm not a masochist. If I enjoyed those sensations, I'd want them on my own terms like any other--worst bottom EVAR.

--M

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:48:21 PM

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I guess it just proves that youre as crazy as me. Or maybe the other way about. LOL!
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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:51:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

[ARRRRRRRGH!!!! ROFL!.. No I was just making an allusion to "throw me a bone here" :)

*****lol**** Yes, I think I follow you.

How about saying to your submissive:

"Do Me like you know I want to be done".

Still a command, still under your authority but you're granting him leeway.

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:51:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: Morrigel

*chuckles* I like a good shag as much as the next girl. But I don't consider anything I do for my own pleasure with a man to be "subbing" in any respect, unless "get off my hair you oaf" and "not like that" are now considered "safewords". I do not switch in the sense that I allow anyone to inflict pain or humiliation of any sort, but then again--I'm not a masochist. If I enjoyed those sensations, I'd want them on my own terms like any other--worst bottom EVAR.

--M

Yes.. you get a cupie doll too :) At no time do I go "sub"..I'm still the one in control.

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 3:58:23 PM

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Yay! I like kewpie dolls!

--M

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:02:51 PM

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Isn't getting "done" a form of getting sexually serviced? Queens/drones that whole thing?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:16:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

Isn't getting "done" a form of getting sexually serviced? Queens/drones that whole thing?

That's what I think. I don't see how having sex without needing to direct every step of it is rewarding a sub. I thought that was just having sex. Heck, I love it when Fox is horny and eager and knows what to do.

Are there people who don't like that?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:22:10 PM

LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

Isn't getting "done" a form of getting sexually serviced? Queens/drones that whole thing?

That's what I think. I don't see how having sex without needing to direct every step of it is rewarding a sub. I thought that was just having sex. Heck, I love it when Fox is horny and eager and knows what to do.

Are there people who don't like that?

Did I mention sex anywhere?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:31:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

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ORIGINAL: Grlwithboy

Isn't getting "done" a form of getting sexually serviced? Queens/drones that whole thing?

That's what I think. I don't see how having sex without needing to direct every step of it is rewarding a sub. I thought that was just having sex. Heck, I love it when Fox is horny and eager and knows what to do.

Are there people who don't like that?

Did I mention sex anywhere?

Im not a domme in the Ds world, but admit that I occasionally get this pang to want to try to dominate someone, in "play". It's only recently begun in the past year or so. Its only a fleeting thing and never really grabs hold of me in any real kind of way...not so far anyway...I doubt that I will ever go through with it, but I have to admit that having that desire or worse yet, following through with it would make me feel like somehow my submission was less pure. Im not saying thats rational, but its how I feel.

Could it be that you are having desires of bottoming or subbing and feel that it somehow would dilute your Dominant pursuasion?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:33:33 PM

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Could it be that you are having desires of bottoming or subbing and feel that it somehow would dilute your Dominant pursuasion?

Nope. What's the use of training someone then not using it?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 4:53:43 PM

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Amen lotus,, WE ARE the shit ... aren't we :)

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 5:13:22 PM

LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: missivy2u

Amen lotus,, WE ARE the shit ... aren't we :)

It'd be sort of like building a primo limo and never driving or riding in it.

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 5:24:39 PM

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I really couldn't figure out this code either then after reading a bit further I think I see where this whole "code" as Pandora put it went way off course... I really didn't get what you were trying to convey either.

You started this whole post off talking about topping & bottoming, letting to sub take control & joking it up a bit about bottoming from the top. It really seemed like you were talking about switching.

What I think you are speaking of is sexual service & having them carry out their training. (how you have trained them to physically please you) or possibly just service of some sort, not necessarily sexual.

First of all... I for one... not sure about the others here... feel that sex is sex & I don't use terms like topping & bottoming to describe my sexual activities. Secondly.... by gosh there are times when I'd much rather lay back & enjoy the experience rather than have to voice instructions &/or point out directions while I'm being sexually serviced... orgasmic moments aren't really times that I speak very clearly. If I did find myself having to speak out instructions, then I obviously failed miserably in training this sub to please me in this manner.

I am a strong believer in training providing the sub with an ability to anticipate my needs & if this is what you are talking about... my sitting back & they sense what it is I need at that moment & they carry it out without instruction... then yes, I do this.

< Message edited by MstrssPassion -- 11/29/2006 5:28:05 PM >

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 5:51:53 PM

jonathan

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Mmmm......i picked up on 'THE CODE' without a problem. Maybe it comes from always being that in tune with the One when i've been fortunate enough to have that happen. And not been the best boy when not allowed to act on it. Frustrated at not being given the latitude. Sooner or later, if you're that involved, you ought to be able to give the most extremely general of instructions and let the flow go. If it's working to begin with, You'll be most pleased. If not, well, who knows?

i completely understand what Lady Lotus is referring to. Ought to be the way my life is being lived right now.

Any plans for a TEA still this year?

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RE: The Secret Lives of Dommes - 11/29/2006 6:00:23 PM

LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: jonathan

Mmmm......i picked up on 'THE CODE' without a problem. Maybe it comes from always being that in tune with the One when i've been fortunate enough to have that happen. And not been the best boy when not allowed to act on it. Frustrated at not being given the latitude. Sooner or later, if you're that involved, you ought to be able to give the most extremely general of instructions and let the flow go. If it's working to begin with, You'll be most pleased. If not, well, who knows?

i completely understand what Lady Lotus is referring to. Ought to be the way my life is being lived right now.

Any plans for a TEA still this year?

I know.. I checked my keyboard and there was no option in which I can type between the lines :)

As far at the TEA goes.. That is now in the hands of Goddess DustyGold and MistressPam. This time of year is difficult due to the holidays. It's hard to pick a day an time that is convenient for most.

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