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ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Oh no!

Dont start the whole "men belong in stables" thing again.

There will be hissifits I tell ya!

E

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

Sorry TJ.. I tried to reword it..but I just can't pose the question any better than I have. Maybe someone else can.....E?

Probably the first sentence confused everybody. I think I was just thinking as I typed and actually the specific question posed was what I wanted to ask.

The first sentence is more along the line of :" Have you ever been in awe of your slave" like a submissive is of their master?

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

He's very sexy and has learned my body and mind very well. I might be in awe of the fact that he knows almost exactly what to do and what to say to get me to orgasm every time, multiple times -- no other partner I've had, not even my husband, can do that so consistantly. I never specifically directed him step by step in what to do -- couldn't because what works one day may not be the same the next. He just pays very close attention to how I look, sound, move, everything.

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ORIGINAL: kc692

I am with the others, laying back and enjoying is not letting them take over, it bespeaks the fact you trained them well.  Since I like my subs intelligent, I also expect them to be creative when given the chance.  I don't see how that is giving in to an urge to submit because I have gotten off on theirs.  The power is mine and will remain mine..so a pedicure with massage should be a given unless I am in a hurry and just need my nails done.  I think I see what you are asking, but it (to me) means they are carrying out their duties, and I expect no less.  I'm sure they enjoy it too, although that is not my first concern, but I do expect them after a time to be able to be creative and know in what directions I like and would approve of, and which ones I would not.

edited to add: as far as your example of breast bondage because it drives them nuts,........NO, nothing at that time is done because it gets their rocks off, it's because it gets mine off.

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

To put it metaphorically.. sometimes you just need to let your dog run off the leash..

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ORIGINAL: UtopianRanger

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Can you explain it to us confused folk then Utopian?

Well, to be blunt.... my take is that she'd like to feel boisterously informal masculinity run it's full course 

Ok, being in awe of her slave confused me even more.....



- R

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong


So, the question is;
 
While the attitude of sumission is still there as well as the knowledge that he knows you are still in charge, are there times you give your submissive free reign within your boundaries to do to you what he knows/what you taught him?
 
 

1. Someone deciding to take charge of their partner after a hard day.  Greeting their loved one at the door, getting their coat off, getting them seated and warm and cozy, bringing them their favorite drink while their favorite dinner finishing cooking or cooling, along with their medication.  Making sure that said dinner was appropriate for any dietary restrictions our target person was on, and giving our target a look if they tried to bypass their health, offering a foot rub and/or pedicure, guiding our target person to bed over protests that they have to check their work mail or somesuch, pleasuring our target if said person is up for it, tucking them in and then sneaking back downstairs to clean up.
   
   
2. Giving oral sex.  The active partner is often considered to be the submissive one, pleasuring the receiving partner.  However, the active partner is in charge of the recipient's pleasure, comfort and -- let's face it -- safety.  Putting one's genitals near somebody else's teeth gives that person a great deal of responsibility.  There are active partners who do whatever they want, bite and shift the receiving partner around when the active partner feels like it.  Hopefully these people don't get laid too often.  It's the people who realize the trust that's been put in them and do their damnedest to live up to the responsibility, to customize what they're doing based on what they know about their partner -- even if they're trying something knew, who are my main concern here. 
   

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ORIGINAL: LotusSong


We should also address just how lucky the male subs are.  I don't think the Dominant males understand that a successful Domme/submissive realtionship gives the submissive male pretty much what the Dom is knocking his brains out trying to get his sub fems to do.

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

It's Friday Night, I decided to "dig up" an interesting older thread.
IMHO, if I "decide" or "allow" my submissive to flip the script he is not topping.
BECAUSE, he has my permission.  I am not a switch nor do I seek a switch partner or relationship.
That said, I often crave a 1-2 minute spanking, LOL.
I am by NO means switching because THIS is what I want, and I will tell him exactly how to do it.
There is a big difference from a submissive topping from the bottom, and "allowing" him to act a certain way,
or do certain things, that YOU both agree on.