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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 8:33:48 PM   
Grlwithboy


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Status: offline 		I saw the post and the reactions. I think he just meant further along the edge, which is subjective, but most people will agree that roman is a little less 101 than a riding crop to the bootie.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 8:40:37 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		I'd say a higher kink level would mean something along the lines of "one person likes missionary style with the lights off would be less kinky than someone who likes oral sex with the lights on"

Vanilla would be the operative standard. How far from vanilla is someone? Anal penetration and oral sex could both be kinkier than missionary with the lights off."

Or if someone says "Ewwww, that's sick."  The person saying "Ewwww" would be less kinkier than the person doing the thing that got the reaction.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 8:47:11 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		mp072004 understands. Give this person another pair of cuffs and move him up another level.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 8:53:17 PM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		Najakcharmer is definately kinkier than I am. Not better but kinkier. It's like someone could be taller than I, but that doesn't make them better. Someone with a Ph.D may be more knowledgable in a certain field than I but that doesn't mean better.

Someone may have a higher tolerance for the gross factor. Again not better, but has a higher tolerance.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 8:57:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy


Or if someone says "Ewwww, that's sick."  The person saying "Ewwww" would be less kinkier than the person doing the thing that got the reaction.


Well, since you were the person who originally wrote about higher kink levels, I'll have to take you at your word and attribute your definitions to purely squick factor. I'm curious as to why you answered my question here and not on the original thread?

Since you are here now, perhaps you'll answer this question as well ... is it a badge of honor for you to have a 'higher kink level' than everyone else? I can certainly see that as sound reasoning because the owner can point to you as an example and show others what she has managed to Master, so there is no shame in it (who doesn't want to be the ultimate prize for their owner after all!) but I am curious as to your reason for stating it in the first place.

Thanks for answering at least the first part of my curiosity and the second part too, if you choose to do so.

Celeste


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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 9:08:42 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I'm thinking the person probably just used terminology that was confusing.  When I was new at all this, I would have said something like that too.  Now we call it "edge play" or "extreme."    You know, getting a light spanking might rank "lower" on that person's "Oh my God, I can't do that" scale, then say asphyxiation play.  The very first time my Master used me is child's play to me, compared to some of the things he does with me now.  Back then, I might have called today's stuff pretty "high end."  I don't necessarily take such phrases as meaning lower, better, greater, lesser, or any other negative or boasting comparison. 

Make sense?

Edited cuz oops, the person in question already posted his answer.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 9:13:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy

Najakcharmer is definately kinkier than I am. Not better but kinkier. It's like someone could be taller than I, but that doesn't make them better. Someone with a Ph.D may be more knowledgable in a certain field than I but that doesn't mean better.


MASTER LORD DOMINATE BLACKTHORN DEATHCLAW BLOODSMACK TEH TENTH LEVEL GOREAN NINJA ASSASSIN WARRIOR CHIEF IS WAY COOLER THAN EVERY BODY.  EVEN MY MOMMY SAYS SO.  WHEN SHE LETS ME USE HER COMPUTUR.  CUZ BEING KINKIER ALL WAYS MAKES U TEH BETTER THEN OTHER PPL.  EVEN IF U CANT SPELL OR RITE.  OR KNOW WHERE UR CAPS KEY IS.  REELY ITS TWUE.  AND I AM TWUE DOMINATE.  I WIN TEH INTARNETS.  ALL OF YOUR BASE ARE BELONG TO US.

-MASTER LORD EMPEROR BLACKTHORN TEH MIGHTY

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 9:20:39 PM   
Najakcharmer


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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
.. is it a badge of honor for you to have a 'higher kink level' than everyone else? I can certainly see that as sound reasoning because the owner can point to you as an example and show others what she has managed to Master, so there is no shame in it (who doesn't want to be the ultimate prize for their owner after all!) but I am curious as to your reason for stating it in the first place.


I think that for some people it can become a valid part of their self-identity.  For some folks it may even be empowering and healthy to have confidence and pride in their own sexuality, owning and claiming it rather than being ashamed of it.  To the sexually repressed Judeo-Xtian world, being "kinky" is percieved as a bad thing, so some of us may reclaim this "bad" label and make it a thing of pride rather than a badge of shame.

I think that for other people "kinkier than thou" can become an unhealthy or negative game of one-upmanship, somewhat resembling a pervy version of "keeping up with the Joneses".   Which is the attitude that is educationally depicted by some of the odd entities I occasionally channel for amusement value.    Typically the more an individual is concerned with playing this kind of game, the less self-esteem they actually seem to have, and the less they seem to be capable of achieving as human beings in real life. 

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 11:19:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		My Kink Level currently stands at 47; my race is Elven and my class is Ninjutsu Dragon.  I've spent many years working at all this, and consequently I'm proud of my exalted standing.  I considered selling it all on ebay, because I know there'd be people who would be willing to pay for it (hell, they're willing to pay for gold and weapons in Ultima Online, right?), but then I decided that that would just be prostituting myself.  Any self-respecting kink keeps his level to himself and cherishes it to the grave.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/29/2006 11:42:30 PM   
QuietDom


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Status: offline 		I think that we attain higher kink levels over time.  I give my small leather flogger as illustration.  (Free plug to the manufacturer: http://www.mgleatherworks.com/)  When I first purchased the flogger, it had flat, smooth tails.  I have a bad habit, however, of just leaving it in the toybag instead of hanging it up.  Over time, more and more kinks formed in the tails, and today the same flogger that was once completely unkinky now has a very high kink level indeed.

(Does anyone know if it's possible to iron leather?)

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 7:04:34 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

quote:

ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji
Essentially, anytime someone wants to make themselves feel better, they decide to assign a value to things they do, and assign a lower value to things other people do.  This makes them feel good about themselves.


BUT I R AT TEH HIGHEST KINK LEVEL BECAUSE I AM DOMINATE MASTER LORD EMPEROR BLACK CASTE NINJA ASSASSIN OF GOR.  & MY KINK IS BETTER THAN URS.  BECAUSE I AM KINKIER THAN U.  I LIKE GERBILS.  AND DUCT TAPE.  WITH RAW SPAM AND MAYONAISE SAMMWICHES.  THAT MAKES ME BETTER THAN U. 



Naja, you make me laugh every time you post this beautifully crafted *coughbullshitcough* stuff. The sad thing is, there's probably someone out there...

Email me on the other side and let me know how you and yours are doing.

Master Fire


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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 7:07:00 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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quote:

ORIGINAL: QuietDom

I think that we attain higher kink levels over time.  I give my small leather flogger as illustration.  (Free plug to the manufacturer: http://www.mgleatherworks.com/)  When I first purchased the flogger, it had flat, smooth tails.  I have a bad habit, however, of just leaving it in the toybag instead of hanging it up.  Over time, more and more kinks formed in the tails, and today the same flogger that was once completely unkinky now has a very high kink level indeed.

(Does anyone know if it's possible to iron leather?)


OT tip: If you want or need to store floggers in your toy bag, roll them up in a towel. By placing one, rolling once, then placing another one, rolling once, etc. etc., you can get several in one towel. They're stored flat that way, but, hopefully, still fit in the bag. They do in mine.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 7:19:21 AM   
Tslaveboy


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Status: offline 		It is not a badge of honor. I just question why Collarme was recommended to me as a BDSM site that would be of interest to me.

Between Collarme and Max Fisch, I find Max Fisch more in tune with who I am. Collarme is very mild and not as open. I'm not criticizing the people who are comfortable here, everyone needs a place where like minds can meet. Collarme just isn't for me.

It's like if someone mentions a gaming discussion board and I'm expecting chess or video games and everyone prefers talking about tic-tac-toe.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 7:23:33 AM   
CreativeDominant


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Ahem...As Lord High M.O.A.H.S. (Master of All He Surveys), let me deign to answer you mere mortals...High kink is when you are attempting to do something that might bring you to the hem of my lovely and luxurious garment so that you may then begin to secure handholds and footholds within the textures of the cloak that will enable you to climb fully to the heights of my magnificence...be forewarned though; tis very scary...verrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrry scary...to constantly reside at this loftiness.


On a more serious note, I go along with the person that noted that the original poster of the thread you are referring to, Bita was probably trying to express an intensity level.  As another example, when I use my Serpent's Bite it is wayyyyy more intense than the use of my hand on a bare backside.  But either using my hand or using the Serpent's Bite both fall into the general category of 'striking/spanking the backside'. 

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 7:32:04 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		I just perused through there and found see what you mean, as there were a lot of "this is a detailed story of my session that will make you hot" type posts, and many threads used simply as advertisements.  You are right - these are two seperate beasts.   Thanks for trying us out, and good luck to you.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 8:06:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy
Between Collarme and Max Fisch, I find Max Fisch more in tune with who I am. Collarme is very mild and not as open. I'm not criticizing the people who are comfortable here, everyone needs a place where like minds can meet. Collarme just isn't for me.


So, why, then, do you feel the need to stick around and ensure that we all know that we're on an inferior site, where the kink level is simply not high enough for someone as advanced as yourself???  If this other site is more to your tastes, then go there!!!

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 8:13:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		because he is flogging his movie on another thread.

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 9:00:17 AM   
acquiescentfem


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Status: offline 		I have no idea but I messaged a 'Dom'  ( I use that word lightly at the best of times)
that has this in his profile ...."I like to play at all levels including edge play and beyond. "   Surely the only thing beyond edge play is death

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 9:02:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nah, wishing you were dead is kinda edgy.... once the neck is snapped the goodtimes are over, know whadda mean, Vern?

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RE: Higher Kink Levels? - 11/30/2006 9:20:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Tslaveboy

I just question why Collarme was recommended to me as a BDSM site that would be of interest to me.



I'm afraid I can't answer that question but perhaps your friend thought there was more to you than meets the eye and that you might appreciate quality to add to your education away from the fetishes you embrace. If it is simple titillation which you seek then you are probably right, Collarme is not for you. If you would like think outside the fetish box, then you may get something out of Collarme.

The kink is not the be all end all for most of us here. It's simply one of the flavors we taste and enjoy, not the entire menu.

Good luck with MF .. if it suits you, and you call it home, then I am happy for you.

Celeste



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