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timeoutgurlie -> RE: Can avatars be deceptive advertising? (12/4/2006 4:31:59 PM)
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Haven't read the entire thread.
I tend to think a lot of what is shown by people in general is false advertising, I take everyone here at their word initially, but that's with the safety that I'm not looking for a partner so I stand no real risk from doing so.
In /rl however, it's much different. I have a baseline of trust that I give to everyone because that's the way I like to interact with others, but I'm very cautious about them at the time until I feel I've been able to both follow initial instincts and ascertain a knowlege of them based on time spent getting to know them.
Even then, I'm realistic enough to know that people can often surprise you later on, so I rarely feel 100% certain about someone and keep whatever distance I need to in order to feel 'safe'. There's risk in everything, it's all variant on the situation and the type of relationship with a person whether or not trust even needs to be an issue.
As far as this site goes, I take an avatar with as much value as I'd put on a physical appearance. It can help to get a feel for a person, but is a bit ridiculous to assume anything in depth about a person from it. Anyone's who convinced an avatar is the real person and then feels some disappointment likely needs to reassess their processes.
Maybe I'm just thinking too much, I tend to do that [X(] lol
If it's just as basic as someone having a false picture for an avatar or profile, and another being genuinely interesting then finding out the pictures had been a lie, I could understand feeling angry or disappointed. Seems it's just one of the risks of online dating. I'm not the kind of personality who could deal with that sort of 'risk'. I'd rather stick with face to face interactions where I know I could still be fooled by a potential partner, but the risk would be significantly lower because there is so much more to go on that is harder to fake when you're both in person.
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