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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 7:51:01 AM

MzTlaz

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I've always been one to believe alcohol and BDSM don't mix. That got clarified one night when giving a spanking to a sub I regularly played with....after just a couple of glasses of champagne her skin did not react as usual. She did not hold a color as she normally did which made it very difficult to judge whether she was warmed up enough. As I noticed this I asked her to identify the paddles I was using....something she normally had no problem doing but this time she couldn't, the play session ended and we both learned something new, it's not just judgement that can be affected by alcohol, the body responds differently too. And she learned that if she wanted a spanking she had better not drink.

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RE: Drinking - 8/29/2006 8:06:51 AM

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There is a YES AND NO aspect to the "scene" as to being SSC.

on the right we have NO ALCOHOL AT ALL !
on the left we have PARTY IT UP !

I'm in the middle.

I'm somewhat in agreement with your middle ground idea. A deep red glass of Pinot Noir or Sauvignon doesn't bring ill fortune at all; paying tribute to Bacchus with every strike of the whip is needless and unwise, however.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 8:12:40 AM

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I might snuggle with my slave after I've had a glass of wine but otherwise nothing else.

I think that if I'm not comfortable or satisfied scening unless I've had a drink or two or more, I frankly am not being honest with myself about why I'm scening and I may not be doing something that is good for me.

I feel the same way about all drugs, even poppers though those remain common in some parts of the gay scene.

I won't scene with someone whose been drinking or doing drugs because I'm a selfish bitch. I want all their reactions to be because of me and what we are doing not because of some other substance.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 8:20:13 AM

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Ok here it goes ... LOL.. I am alcohol and 4:20 friendly I belive in Moderation ... I myself do Not drink if I play maybe a glass of wine ... but I am a corporal Bitch and I find alcohol makes Me sweat too much when I play and I hate PVC,leather,rubber and sweat ..

I have attended successful partys that drinking and 4:20 was allowed and the people there have tempered just fine ..I believe responsibility is the key

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 8:36:12 AM

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I think drugs and sceneing are a bad idea.

Then again I don't do any-my body doesn't tolerate them. So I am pretty biased.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 9:37:25 AM

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Discussing the effects of drinking is like discussing the effects of sunlight on people. It can make some feel somewhat good or it can cause sunstroke. There are myriads of possibilities. Alcohol in some is a good thing while in others it is a bad thing. I will say something controversial, I actually drive better after one drink. Remember it is not illegal to drive if your alcohol level is below certain levels.

The person I scene with now doesn’t drink at all so I don’t drink when I play with her. If we have been to dinner and I had a glass of wine of course that wouldn’t stop me, but I have to think the effects of the alcohol are gone by then and that has only happened once or twice.

In the past I have played in all stages of drinking. I once knew someone who liked to play while both of us were drinking pretty good and that was fun, too. Neither of us was the type to go crazy when drinking heavily, so that worked out well. It all depends on the people and how bright the sun is that day.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 9:41:10 AM

wild1cfl

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Absolutely NO WAY
While I enjoy having a beer or two and enjoy fine wines with dinner, or a scotch or two after dinner, I would not even think about being slightly impaired when scening. I would not want anything to happen because I was not in complete control of my senses.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 1:01:09 PM

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Ive bared my ass after a couple of glasses of wine over dinner, on both our parts. Ive also been restrained and had my ass whipped by someone who had smoked pot....who....I would trust more stoned, (tho Im not a pot smoker myself) than a sober newbie who never held a cane in his hand. I am probably one of the most cautious people ever born. And I think theres more friggin danger in driving down the street to buy a gallon of milk, than there is slapping someone around after some dinner wine or a beer.
Im not talking about getting slobbering drunk and suspending someone or holding a knife to their throat. But good christ almighty. Id guess that more people have been hurt in wiitwd putting themselves in the hands of the sober inexperienced, than putting themselves in the hands of someone who's been throwing a bullwhip for 20 years who just drank a friggin Heineken.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 2:13:00 PM

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looks as if i'll never get any play because I have to take 3 nerve pills a day as well as 3 muscle relaxers just so my left leg and foot doesnt tingle as if its asleep as bad (nerve damage from heart surgery ) and I'm a pot head likes how it relaxes me makes me sweeter as if I could be any sweeter ha!! guess I'll marry my bullet

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 2:29:27 PM

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I always believe a drunk dick has no conscience.

Scooter's dick has no memory (it could have gotten some 3 minutes ago and it will swear it has not been laid since it cannot remember when) but it has a conscience as it will only play with family members.

ROFLMAO.... no memory.... that's funny!!!!!!!

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 2:37:47 PM

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I'm in the no booze/drugs catagory.

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Alcohol and BDSM don't mix well. Alcohol slows down and distorts perception. Even with smaller amounts of alcohol, a sub (for example) may not feel sensations that he/she would unimpaired, and risks injury because that *pins and needles* sensation in the wrists went unreported. Not worth it.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 4:06:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: swtsouthernsub
looks as if i'll never get any play because I have to take 3 nerve pills a day as well as 3 muscle relaxers just so my left leg and foot doesnt tingle as if its asleep as bad (nerve damage from heart surgery ) and I'm a pot head likes how it relaxes me makes me sweeter as if I could be any sweeter ha!! guess I'll marry my bullet

I'm right there with you, I take medication as well. And, The Mate is on some really heavy serious meds. If we were to adhere to no drugs/drinking ever, we would never play, ever, since he's disabled and will likely always be taking meds (heavy narcotics even). My meds are on again off again depending on what's going on.

I personally have no issue playing with TM while on his meds, he's built up a tolerance, and is used to it. Plus, we don't do a lot of dangerous play, so it's not a big issue. I also don't mind if he's had a beer or two (and it's because he really likes the taste, not for the effect, he has drugs from the doctor for that hehe), for those reasons.

I will play with him if I've been drinking, because I really do trust him implicitly. We have a safeword, but we may as well not, because he's always stopped before I needed it anyway. That, and if I say my *random body part* hurts, he would stop anyway, as that would be unusual for me. On top of those things, our play is usually light physically, so chances are that there aren't going to be any physical issues. There's some good mental play going on, but the huge amount of trust I have in him keeps that from being an issue, I think.

I may just need to add that we do not play in public at all, mostly because our play is very sexual, and it's not allowed at the parties we've been to. On top of that, the only two parties we have attended that were outside of our group were bad experiences, and we've sort of given up on ever playing in public anyway. We only attend the group monthly parties a couple times a year, and even then more for the bonfire and comraderie than for play.

Wow, I've blathered on enough. I would say that I'm in the middle as well, leaning towards the side of no booze/illicit drugs at parties, but at home, if someone is using in moderation and keeping safety in mind, it's not such a bad thing.

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RE: Drinking, Doming, and scening... OK ? or NO WAY - 8/29/2006 4:12:47 PM

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I have always been a believer that playing and drinking in moderation were ok. As long as it was in moderation. So i would play after having a couple glasses of wine. The problem came in that my ex dom would have a couple as well..and couple turned into a couple more, and one time things went too far. Luckily nothing serious happened but it was scary and a lesson was learned. So now i do take the stand of not drinking and playing for myself. I won't play with anyone who has been drinking either. But this is what works for me, i certainly can understand people who enjoy it, and as long as they understand and accept the risks, i see no problem with it.

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