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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:18:39 PM

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I would also like to thank you, SG, since your thread promoted me from 'nila to curious. I wonder how many more posts I have to make before people start calling me sir?

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:18:56 PM

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The best I can do here is say what I would of done in this situation.

With the 2nd cancellation (or postponement) I would of just written it off as a habit of hers. Whether or not she was lying, do you really want to put up with someone who habitually does the same thing?

While I would be polite about it, I would of let her know that when she has her affairs in order and her life a bit better scheduled where she would have ample time to keep plans to please give me a call.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people do not respect my time. Her having you wait is obviously not respecting you are sitting there waiting for her when you could just as easily be somewhere else. I can't stand that. I wait no more than 10 minutes and even then they better have a good excuse. I tell everyone to shoot for being early, because you cannot control traffic, etc. but you can control your reaction to these possible problems. The appropriate reaction to this would be to leave early.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:20:46 PM

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ok
now its personal,,
this person just e-mailed me again and his now explanation for being uncivil is that
"all mothers arent saints"
Are you getting this?
The guy has problems..and its not the first time I'll bet..
trust these words...if I wanted to be a bitch..you would know it...
I am done with this thread,,if you wanna wipe his ass then do it.
But if some one needs to be coddled they should not be prancing around in a Dom suit.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:22:52 PM

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Settle down kids.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:23:23 PM

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hey Aqua ((hugss))

no thank I dont need back up on anything by a person like here.. just read her 5 posts here each more angry and nasty then the last.. I just wana know who pist in her cocoa puffs!!!

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:25:40 PM

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quote:

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ok
now its personal,,
this person just e-mailed me again and his now explanation for being uncivil is that
"all mothers arent saints"
Are you getting this?
The guy has problems..and its not the first time I'll bet..
trust these words...if I wanted to be a bitch..you would know it...
I am done with this thread,,if you wanna wipe his ass then do it.
But if some one needs to be coddled they should not be prancing around in a Dom suit.

To be fair, not all mothers are saints. He was probably trying to avoid going into that on the boards (makes sense to me actually). She should have mentioned that she had a kid but it wouldn't have killed him to give her another chance. He was there anyway. I don't really see either one as having any sort of moral high ground. He doesn't strike me as having the patience to deal with the disruptions a child and ex can put on a woman's schedule, but if she had told him that from the start he could have told her that.

He was stood up once without a phone call, then was told she had a child. He gave her another shot. Frankly, I would have waited till 9:30 but at that point he had given her a chance when she had stood him up without a phone call to let him know that night. Unless she knew he was going to be there anyway with friends, being a mother doesn't make that not rude.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:25:47 PM

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you dont know many real Dommes do you sweetie?
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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:27:06 PM

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Just a guess, but i would say some Dom did. Did you not see where she asked "Where the hell are you Doms when someone needs you?"

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:27:23 PM

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I just wanna know if you (Magik's slave) are gonna take the cookie she (Aqua) offerred, hehe
IF not, can I have it please.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:29:31 PM

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and just for the record..you said I was being a bitch..and if you re-read my origanal post I never actually called him a jerk..
I think he has just heard it so much he is twitchy bout it..smilez
the mod wasnt really talking to me..

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:29:58 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

hey Aqua ((hugss))

no thank I dont need back up on anything by a person like here.. just read her 5 posts here each more angry and nasty then the last.. I just wana know who pist in her cocoa puffs!!!

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Eh... we all get pissy here on the great wide interwebs when something strikes a nerve. Frankly I don't think either the OP or the mother in question have much right to a defense but he was within his rights to call it off. I was siding with the mother till I figured out he wasn't informed about the child beforehand.

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:31:04 PM

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that wasDEMS ..it was a little somthing we call a political joke..

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:31:45 PM

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It sounds to me as if the OP was very fair in giving her a second chance.

If you would like to give her another chance, perhaps you can suggest meeting her at a time when she will have dropped her children off the day before.

If puncuality is your thing and she can not control her x, this may be something to consider when thinking about being with her. The One who owns me is extreme about punctuality too, and has helped me tremendously, but there are still things beyond one's control. If it is not in you to accept that (and i am not critisizing you for it at all), then maybe you would be better off with someone who has less complications and other commitments.

Be Well~*
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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:35:14 PM

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Oh, my bad. Sheltered life, please excuse. Three things i try not to talk about politics, religion, and him. :)

edited to add: and one very dirty computer screen, course i still wouldn't have gotten it. would have thought it was a typo. (shrugs)

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:35:46 PM

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Damn...did someone tamper with the national supply of Prozac and switch them all with sugar pills or something?

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:36:25 PM

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quote:

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I just wanna know if you (Magik's slave) are gonna take the cookie she (Aqua) offerred, hehe
IF not, can I have it please.

((giggles splits the cookie in half and shares it with sub shy))

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:41:13 PM

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:42:32 PM

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((giggles))

Welcome

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:46:19 PM

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It just has been my experience that Doms need to be aware of more than what this guy is aware of.
~~~Agreed, he should be more aware, but of what? And how could he have been aware if she wasn't compleatly open with him? It seems she didnt disclose some rather important information from the get-go and as others have said it takes 10 seconds to make a phone call or send a text message~~~
He had to come here to be told that ..yeah she might not be a liar?~~~~no I think he came here to ask how other submissives would have behaved in the same situation~~~~
Did anyone else feel that?~~~actually, yes~~~~
He actually equated her (as yet and forever ,never truly known ,if it was due to her own inabilities) having to rain check as a lack of MORALS..(where the hell are you dems when someone needs you?)~~~whats are dems, and where did he question her morals, I think he questions her lack of reliability~~~

Lets think about it this way, if you have a job, and dont call and dont show up, chances are you dont have a job anymore either. When someone gives their word to be somewhere at a certian time for WHATEVER reason, they have the obligation to have the basic social skills to either be there at that time or to inform the person or persons waiting on them in a timely manner that they will not be. Otherwise yes, it does reflect badly on their charecter. Then there is always the old saying "once bitten twice shy" I have to say, if you meant to or not your whole additude towards the OP is a bit harsh. Posting on an open forum does invite the reactions of others, in fact that is the whole point of doing so. I'm just curious why you seemed to feel the need to attack SmokingGun, because as an outsider it sure looked to me like that is what you did. Just my 2 cents

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RE: Misreading? - 12/18/2006 10:50:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave

quote:

ORIGINAL: SubShyButFlirty

I just wanna know if you (Magik's slave) are gonna take the cookie she (Aqua) offerred, hehe
IF not, can I have it please.

((giggles splits the cookie in half and shares it with sub shy))

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I am firmly convinced that if everyone sat around with some cookies and milk, all disputes would be solved.

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