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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/17/2005 3:32:22 AM

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k thanks no one pointed that out to me. i never look down there...

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/17/2005 10:14:22 PM

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Years ago, before I became a mother, I was a slave to a man who was the Master of many slaves. We were required to give him all of our money -- we were not allowed to own any property of our own. When I left him (because I was pregnant and he would have made me abort the baby) I had to leave with nothing. He owned everything, including me. However, since slavery is not legal in this country (see separate thread on defining a slave), and since I was able to make a choice between continuing to be an obediant slave, or being a mother and giving life to my baby, I chose to disobey and run away --- which was a very hard thing to do. And I took no material possessions or money with me because none of it was mine. My master owned everything, even though I and the other girls were the money makers in our relationship.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/17/2005 11:41:34 PM

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i am personally very very sorry and hurt over your ordeal. that is a crock for someone to treat you that way. he shoulda been hung up by his balls and been horse whipped in public.
that is inhuman.
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i can only say, my life has not been THAT tough. you are a better person than i am. i would killed him. i woulda gone to prison but i woulda killed him.
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damn. and here i was about to say something, but now i will wait for a better time for a new post.
please take care.
be well.

the wolf, .......hanging his head in sorrow for you.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 3:49:41 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn

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ORIGINAL: lonewolf05

p/s as to someone saying liking being punished or some sort......"I" have YET to find 1 domme anywhere that did NOT ask for money. always seemed to ME it is s.o.p. ===

I am pretty sure that there are at least three Dommes on this page of postings, including myself, that don't require monetary tribute.

Be well,
Julie

Correct, Julie, and let me add one more non asker of tributes to this thread.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 3:52:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: lonewolf05

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He could be more selective of partners. However, I don't know any woman who would take a live in slave, from out of state, and just let him move in.

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first off, just because YOU don't AAkasha doesn't mean the rest of the world thinks like You do. and the one i am supposed to meet this coming week IS that kind......JUST like my 1st Ms.!!
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it is not about tribute.......it is about the moment you walk in the door....EVERY dime you have goes in HER pocket and you never see any of it again.......THAT is HOW "I" was taught it is supposed-to-be.
i have YET to meet ONE woman anywhere on this planet didn't ask for money. if i ever found 1 that said sure you can have some in your own pocket i would faint!

the wolf.......

Lonewolf, does this mean that you are already complaining about some aspects of your possible new Mistress? You are comparing her to your first, which on other threads you bitterly complained about giving money to.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 5:55:12 AM

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Pardon the late post to this topic.
I have not been on this board long, however I'm constantly ask if I am a "money" Domme. Even with decades of experience I had never been ask this question. I searched the board looking for an explanation ...and of course, true to form found one . Lady Sonelle, not only do I applaude your post, but thank you . A thank you also to the person that began this topic.

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Well, after 23 years as a 'straight' BDSM practitioner, I have branched into Financial Domination.
I have done this for several reasons: 1. I want to learn new things and this (with three other 'new' fetishes) is something I intendd to learn. 2. I am very intrigued by this form of Dominance. 3. Several slaves have offered this to Me.

Interestingly enough, My first financial slave was/is an impoverished student! He lives on a frail pittance (less than $500/month!) but he begged Me to financially use him.

I did.

No, I did not take his money from him, nor did I use him and discard him! I find that type of play repugnant, violating My every tenet and vow! What *did* I do? I took over his life, put him on a budget and what tiny amount he could squeeze out, he was to place in a bank account, under *his* name but "dedicated" to Me. He was to keep the account growing, making a deposit with every masturbation he was permitted, and making monthly deposits.

as the account grew, he asked to give Me a gift. I told he he was to practise "financial chastity" and give no more than $20.00. What he does not know is this: I have no intention of touching that money he has so carefully saved! Not a bit! Should he have an emergency, he has been ordered to use the money in that account if needed. I have done him no harm, but I *have* controlled him the way he desired.

That, to Me is financial slavery in its best aspect! If I find a wealthy slave, no I will *not* "ruin" him as many of the Financial Dommes out there claqim they wish to do. My first responsibility is Primum non nocere "First, do no harm!" and the Hippocratic Oath. I will exercise control, as financial slaves desire to be controlled, but I stop short of the ruination many claim they want.

What does the submissive get from giving tributes? Probably the same thing he gets form serving. The satisfaction of pleasing a Mistress. If/when I receive gifts from slaves, I have photographs taken showing My enjoyment of the gift! The slave will receive a gift in return! he will have an extra day of masturbation, possibly a picture of Me, an article of My clothing, shoes, a personally written fantasy about what I will do to him in person, etc. For his tribute, the slave gets My time, attention, care and value in teturn.

So far, I have two slaves and I love them both as they love Me. In the Contract of Slavery I gave to them, there is a clause promising that I will never harm them permanently, nor ruin, nor abuse them beyond the agreed upon limits, mentally, emotionally, physically OR financially. I know My methods are far different than most Financial Dommes out there, but I suspect that it comes from My decades' experience in BDSM rather than being a "newbie" to the scene.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 9:42:18 AM

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kc692;

i am always, wary,-------i am not one, that, gives absolute trust to anyone, anywhere.
am i complaining? to a small degree yes. i dont think it is totally right, that any sub/slave/underling/ should be completely broke, all the time.

and thank you for being nice in your post.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 1:42:24 PM

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Thank you for digging up this nugget of info. It's so hard to sift through the numerous posts and this topic really caught my attention. Here is the thread I started on

http://www.collarchat.com/m_108129/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#108129

which has a lot of good perspectives on financial dominiation. Also, here is a thread with a post from kc692 with a bunch of other threads to peruse

http://www.collarchat.com/Gold_Diggers_Looking_for_a_Quick_Buck%2C_Or_Lazy_Mistress%27s%3F/m_120880/tm.htm

There seems to a be a strange coincidence in which everytime I'm looking at something bdsm related or having a discussion about such topics, I find a thread on here that relates to it EXACTLY. When I first heard about financial domination, I thought the same things that most folks do initially - WTF?????? But after reading from that first thread, I realized that yes, it is a legitimate kink. I also understand the supply vs demand analogy better. If there is a demand for something, in this case financial domination, then somebody is gonna jump to fill that niche. Of course there are opportunists who will take advantage of that niche. It happens in everything. As for the lack of actual feedback from Money Dom/mes or Money slaves, the backlash from people who 'just don't get it' is a sure deterrent. I personally get no thrills from financial hardship of any kind (been there, done that). I also get no kicks from being shat on. That said, I can accept that both are legitimate kinks, even though they're not my kinks.

At this point if anyone is reading this and still doesn't get it, go back to what BDSM is. Giving up control is at the core of that, finances are merely an offshoot.

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 2:20:40 PM

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I haven't checked a really large portion of Google yet (just the first two pages of results) but wouldn't green be a rather common theme (at least in the US as the money is predominantly green here) for financial domme's websites?

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RE: Where does money come into it ? - 7/18/2005 5:21:33 PM

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Ive just read most of this thread and I dont know whether to laugh or puke. At the end of the day the world should be full of people who are interested in each other for what they have as human beings and not feel as though they have to rip into people for money. But we all know the world isnt like that. The fact that people have to even bring this crap up is evidence that there is far too much money BS going on in the BDSM scene.

As for Lonewolf I would suggest that if you are only meeting women who want you for all the cash u got then you should see a Pro Domme, at least then you will know where you stand and know that its not a relationship unlike being in the ambiguos situations you seem to have been in. If you are looking for a Domme who wants to have a mutual freindly relationship then u got your work cut out b4 you and I suggest you dont concern yourself about it as wanting something that seems not to exist isnt nice. I know this!

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