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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:30:37 PM   
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You too? *Grins* We have to lay out playmats and towels before doing anything. Such a pain...


Hell I'm not worried about any of that stuff, I don't mind sleeping in the wet spots, actually like it nasty lil girl i am lol and this one time i did it from anal sex. now that was weird lol getting it in one hole and cumming out the other.... ok now maybe that was too graphic


The spots I leave are big... He doesn't like having to wash the mattress pad every couple of days and he hates sleeping on the wet spots. Then there are the times that I soaked into the mattress through three towels...  I don't actually like the playmate cause it seems like too much prepwork but it's his decision.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:33:00 PM   
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I personally love orgasm denial. I love him letting it build and build. I also love the begging that I have to do along with it.


And as a Dom, I love hearing my sub begging for release.  That's my primary turn-on.  And the way she cums so hard once given permission.  But orgasm denial, per se, doesn't interest me, just orgasm control. 

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:34:35 PM   
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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:36:42 PM   
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But come on....orgasm on command? 

Whoever she was--she was faking it.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:37:12 PM   
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I am certainly not of the belief that if you enjoy an orgasm as a submissive, it isn't submission.  That is an illogical point of view (as if one cannot derive pleasure from their submission).
 
However, I do enjoy orgasm control, and yes it's about control (and specifically, about control of something so very personal).  That is not to be confused with orgasm denial, which is an entirely different issue (the absence of orgasms).  Orgasm control does not imply the absence of orgasms, but control over the when, where, how, etc. that they are to be experienced. 
 
The pleasure of that control also includes the gratification experienced with the "giving" of orgasms.  Depending upon the level of control and individual capabilities, that may include orgasm on command (great for some semi-public play, and for sadists).
 
John


Nice post John....But come on....orgasm on command? 

Whoever she was--she was faking it.


   I think it'd be a riot to get the male to orgasm on command :)  You know..while standing in the line at a bank..walking down a mall ...
 
Has anyone ever achieved this?

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:42:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		My reasons for enjoying orgasm control is that it was formerly an addiction for Angel, and now he has to control that addictive urge to make me happy. I know he thinks about making me happy by denying himself the selfish pleasure of daily masturbation. I dont often tease him and the deny him when we are seperated, we dont play on the phone often enough for that quite honestly. When we were face to face, I did becasue I wanted to teach him how to refocus whether or not he was aroused on something else he might have to do before release. We both enjoy the teasing and denial, as well as the orgasm control.  Without a chastity device, I have him where he goes about 2 weeks without on average. He will likely have to wait until I am moved down before he gets his permission again. For him, giving up control over something as basic as that is fundamental to his submission. For me, I want the power to control his sexual urges as much as I do the other aspects of his life.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:42:57 PM   
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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:44:50 PM   
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lotus unless they were in a diaper to contain the mess cum makes, I doubt I'd want them cumming in stores and in lines at the bank


Nah.... having  spot is all the fun.. I'd let HIM worry about it.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 6:48:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think it's acceptable for me or my partner to wander about with pants visably wet from cum in public venue's, that to me feels like a flaunting look at me look at me draw attention to themself  kind of thing.

It was also be highly inapropriate for me believes to have them orgasming in public venue's not approved for play.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:17:41 PM   
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Master often says to me that he doesn't know which entertains him more- watching me cum or watching me NOT cum. Orgasm control reinforces my place- I am participating in sexual activity in the first place because it pleases Him. And control doesn't just mean denial- he often tells me to cum after I think I've cum as much as I can, and I have to reach for it.
 
When I was first learning about submission, I was like- nobody is going to tell me not to cum. I had always been proud of the fact that I was responsible for my own orgasms. But as I let go and learned to trust and learned the freedom and beauty in being controlled and owned, I gave this aspect of myself, along with everything else, to my Master. Pleasing Him is so much more fulfilling than getting an extra orgasm or two. I guess it's a spiritual fulfillment rather than just physical. 
 


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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:21:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd be way out of sight... comanding him through his bluetooth. Actually, I don't believe ANYone can "cum on command" in that sort of venue.  They might get a twitch of the clit from master's voice.. but a full blown orgasm?  I seriously doubt that.  But what is considered an orgasm to one...is nothing to another.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:24:25 PM   
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I'd be way out of sight... comanding him through his bluetooth. Actually, I don't believe ANYone can "cum on command" in that sort of venue.  They might get a twitch of the clit from master's voice.. but a full blown orgasm?  I seriously doubt that.  But what is considered an orgasm to one...is nothing to another.


LOL, I so thought of missturbation when I read this.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:28:46 PM   
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I'd be way out of sight... comanding him through his bluetooth. Actually, I don't believe ANYone can "cum on command" in that sort of venue.  They might get a twitch of the clit from master's voice.. but a full blown orgasm?  I seriously doubt that.  But what is considered an orgasm to one...is nothing to another.


I think Master has hypnotized me so many times that when He uses a certain tone of voice and speaks to me, it's like I am in a different head-space- He can send me to sub-space with just a minimum of  pain or make me cum with just a verbal command. Believe me, it's a full-blown orgasm.

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:29:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LotusSong

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

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ORIGINAL: Rover

I am certainly not of the belief that if you enjoy an orgasm as a submissive, it isn't submission.  That is an illogical point of view (as if one cannot derive pleasure from their submission).
 
However, I do enjoy orgasm control, and yes it's about control (and specifically, about control of something so very personal).  That is not to be confused with orgasm denial, which is an entirely different issue (the absence of orgasms).  Orgasm control does not imply the absence of orgasms, but control over the when, where, how, etc. that they are to be experienced. 
 
The pleasure of that control also includes the gratification experienced with the "giving" of orgasms.  Depending upon the level of control and individual capabilities, that may include orgasm on command (great for some semi-public play, and for sadists).
 
John


Nice post John....But come on....orgasm on command? 

Whoever she was--she was faking it.


   I think it'd be a riot to get the male to orgasm on command :)  You know..while standing in the line at a bank..walking down a mall ...
 
Has anyone ever achieved this?


HA! HA! HA!

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:33:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		No physical stimulation???  None at all?  This is what throws me...these men who claim they can make their girl cum by saying--across the table---"cum now bitch". 

I know alot of men and women make this claim, but for me its one of those "when-see-it-I'll-believe-it" kinda things.  Oh... and even then, Id have to 'check' to make sure she wasnt fullashit.  I mean...dont you men ever think maybe she's faking it?

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Don't knock it till you've tried it.

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ORIGINAL: marieToo

But come on....orgasm on command? 

Whoever she was--she was faking it.



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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:34:57 PM   
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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:47:46 PM   
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I mean...dont you men ever think maybe she's faking it?

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:49:02 PM   
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 And control doesn't just mean denial- he often tells me to cum after I think I've cum as much as I can, and I have to reach for it. 
 


This has been my experience as well. 

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:52:01 PM   
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if we are giving you orgasms for YOUR pleasure?  If you enjoy it, it isn't submission."

So how do they explain oral service of dominants. I'm guessing that their own orgasms aren't submissive? Though personally the one with the teeth near the tender parts is the one in control.

< Message edited by theRose4U -- 12/19/2006 8:18:24 PM >

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RE: Orgasm denial - 12/19/2006 7:57:22 PM   
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Nice post John....But come on....orgasm on command? 

Whoever she was--she was faking it.


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