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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian
So if noone is willing to relocate, how do you meet someone unless they are already local to you?

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

I think most likely she feels overwhelmed and was looking for a rescuer ...   That's a very bad reason to go Dom hunting, and it makes her (and more importantly her children) especially vulnerable to men who couldn't care less about her well-being.   I hope she puts energy into sorting it all out and puts off seeking a Dom until she's in a better space.

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Well she deleted her account.  I hope people give more friendly advice in the future.

I think most likely she feels overwhelmed and was looking for a rescuer ... maybe suffering postpartum depression going by her screen name.   That's a very bad reason to go Dom hunting, and it makes her (and more importantly her children) especially vulnerable to men who couldn't care less about her well-being.   I hope she puts energy into sorting it all out and puts off seeking a Dom until she's in a better space.

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

I think most likely she feels overwhelmed and was looking for a rescuer ...   That's a very bad reason to go Dom hunting, and it makes her (and more importantly her children) especially vulnerable to men who couldn't care less about her well-being.   I hope she puts energy into sorting it all out and puts off seeking a Dom until she's in a better space.

And THAT is precisely the point.

If she thought *I* was some mean person, just what is she going to do if she happens to run across someone like that? More importantly, what will her CHILDREN do if that happens?

That is important enough to not sugar coat things, not be all nicey nicey about what she's talking about. She has larger issues to worry about than her need for domination for goodness sake!!

juliet

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

OMG!!  complete hogwash!  Mother's are most often MORE protective of their lives than anyone else. Just because she has children does not make her an "easy target".  i am so sick of this "all mothers are deperate" kind of logic.  It's complete horse manure.  When i had kids my standards went up not down!
And has anyone here ever heard the saying about assumptions before!  Don't assume because it makes an ASS out of U and ME!  How can you possibly say that because her name here is tears and torment that she is suffering from postpartum depression.  Good grief!  That's a ridiculous assumption! i can think of a hundred reasons why someone might choose that as thier screenname....none of them having to do with children at all!   LMAO! 

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Low self esteem makes one more vulnerable to bad sorts than anything else.  Funny how you know this but you probably sent her self esteem down the toilet just now.

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

OMG!!  complete hogwash!  Mother's are most often MORE protective of their lives than anyone else. Just because she has children does not make her an "easy target".  i am so sick of this "all mothers are deperate" kind of logic.  It's complete horse manure.  When i had kids my standards went up not down!
And has anyone here ever heard the saying about assumptions before!  Don't assume because it makes an ASS out of U and ME!  How can you possibly say that because her name here is tears and torment that she is suffering from postpartum depression.  Good grief!  That's a ridiculous assumption! i can think of a hundred reasons why someone might choose that as thier screenname....none of them having to do with children at all!   LMAO! 

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Read her first four posts, nothing fits correctly even for a 23 year old.  She's gone already?
has a 6 year old, left out of the post, and a newborn, 4 years in the biz and gone without a trace,  has a place she is moving to, left out of first post, and yadda yadda yadda....

Where is the righteous indignation? She up and hauls blocks becasue of Julie?  Bullshit.

Why do I have to mewl and puke over every player who comes out here?  I mean I ain't really mad, but what politically correct law says that I have to kiss every fuck weasels ass that comes here, signs up, and in case you didn't read her profile, says exactly what her profile says in her first post? 

Yeah, that's reality happens every fuckin day, I have decided to commit suicide tonight, and I just wanted my 200,000 closest friends here at collarme to know that  I don't want you to talk me out of it......C'mon......

I want a  drop dead gorgeous lesbian back woman with an ass that puts all the ass models ever been in Elle's to shame, to suck my dick and grovel over me, and since I can't find it I am coming out here to get everyone's insightful and intelligent and unbiased tips and tricks on how to do so, and I now expect that anyone out here will pet me, and fondle me, and make me feel good and barring that, at least be like Sybil Fawlty on the telephone, and say:

I knooooooooowwwwwwwwww!
I knoooooooooowwwwwwwwwww!

Begin the Beguine,
Artie Shaw

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Low self esteem makes one more vulnerable to bad sorts than anything else.  Funny how you know this but you probably sent her self esteem down the toilet just now.

Now who's underestimating the woman? If she is so bothered by a post in an online forum as to send her self esteem down the toilet, she's got bigger problems than her perceived lack of desireability.

In fact, I want her angry with me. I want her so angry that she starts to think beyond her loneliness and desperation, and comes to the determined conclusion that she damn well CAN make it on her own.
juliet

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Wanting to make her angry, that's emotional manipulation.  That's the verbal version of a drunken man with a bottle who uses domestic violence to get his way.  It's non consentual, it's abuse.  You expect you can make her angry, but don't consider the alternative to anger is depression?  Those two emotions are very closely linked.  If your ego permits, take a good look at what you've done.  You want to make her upset enough that she'll do what you want her to.

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian
Wanting to make her angry, that's emotional manipulation.  That's the verbal version of a drunken man with a bottle who uses domestic violence to get his way.  It's non consentual, it's abuse. 

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

No one is saying You HAVE to mew and puke over every player that comes out, but i see this conitinually here on the boards.  Someone comes in...asks a perfectly legitimate question...and is completely berated by someone because they went and read her profile and are trying to pull info from all four corners of the earth to come up with some big picture of the situation.  Why not just answer the fucking question without all the lecturing and judging and finger-wagging?