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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Wanting to make her angry, that's emotional manipulation.  That's the verbal version of a drunken man with a bottle who uses domestic violence to get his way.  It's non consentual, it's abuse.  You expect you can make her angry, but don't consider the alternative to anger is depression?  Those two emotions are very closely linked.  If your ego permits, take a good look at what you've done.  You want to make her upset enough that she'll do what you want her to.

yea yea yea...have you figured out yet that I really don't care what you think of what I said, and that all your oh so convincing attempts to convince me of the error of my ways isn't working?

I stand by what I said, how I said it and the reasons why I said it. Beyond that, we're just going to have to agree to disagree. Don't worry though.. you'll get over it.

juliet

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian
Wanting to make her angry, that's emotional manipulation.  That's the verbal version of a drunken man with a bottle who uses domestic violence to get his way.  It's non consentual, it's abuse. 

I think anyone who participates in a forum like this is consenting to any honest reply.  It bothers me to see the term "consentual" twisted around, especially when it's twisted around free speech in an open forum.  Also, your comparison to domestic violence is just ludicrous.

MaryT, who does violence prevention education for a living

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ORIGINAL: MaryT

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

OMG!!  complete hogwash!  Mother's are most often MORE protective of their lives than anyone else. Just because she has children does not make her an "easy target".  i am so sick of this "all mothers are deperate" kind of logic.  It's complete horse manure.  When i had kids my standards went up not down!
And has anyone here ever heard the saying about assumptions before!  Don't assume because it makes an ASS out of U and ME!  How can you possibly say that because her name here is tears and torment that she is suffering from postpartum depression.  Good grief!  That's a ridiculous assumption! i can think of a hundred reasons why someone might choose that as thier screenname....none of them having to do with children at all!   LMAO! 

I've raised two myself and am quite familiar with maternal instincts.  I never said anything like "all mothers are desparate" so that leap is your own - and there was nothing logical about it.  I do know that the last thing I would be thinking about if I had a new baby on my hands would be looking for a Dom, and I sure as hell wouldn't be willing to uproot for one. That's just poor judgment - plain and simple.  I could believe she is simply an idiot but she didn't come across that way.  So I'm banking on emotional distress leading to poor judgment - which is hardly a stretch.  And, yes, her screen name feeds my perception.

I don't believe I made an ass out of anyone.  And since you are laughing yours off, I'll consider it a mute point.

MaryT

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ORIGINAL: julietsierra

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

No one is saying You HAVE to mew and puke over every player that comes out, but i see this conitinually here on the boards.  Someone comes in...asks a perfectly legitimate question...and is completely berated by someone because they went and read her profile and are trying to pull info from all four corners of the earth to come up with some big picture of the situation.  Why not just answer the fucking question without all the lecturing and judging and finger-wagging?

Don't you just hate it when you can't control the comments of other people to say exactly what you would say in any given situation?

juliet

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

After all, if we don't accept each other, what community will?

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ORIGINAL: akbarbarian

Yes you can be lecturing and judgemental if you really want to be.  But, do you really want to be? 

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ORIGINAL: ObjectivistPNW

First thing to remember.  Don't lower your standards, but when disappointed, you need to raise them.

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

i think if you took a look at your own original post you will see who it really is that is angry about people not living the way you would have them live.  i am not trying to control anyone.  Simply asking a rhetorical question for all here to consider.  Why do You all feel the need to jump down someone's throat based on assumptions and judge them...which i must add NOBODY has the right to do. Not you or anyone else has the right to EVER judge another human being. 

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

It may not be our right as humans; Aeon, but by god it is our talent....


There shouldn't be murders, or wars and the childrens bowls should never go empty, I am for you Madam, but there are those of us who; having not made the world must live in it, and therefore hasten to instruct the youth that because they are virgins, and innocents is no reason that when they put their hand above the flame on the stove, that they shall not be burnt.

Santa Claus

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

fact go back and read my nearly 150 posts....i never have.

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ORIGINAL: Aeon

Ain't that the goddamn truth...

Give people the choice bewteen right and wrong and nine times out of ten they will choose wrong.  But SOME people forget sometimes that they are just as much a part of perpetuating this theme of humanity as the rest of us are.

"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
                                      JESUS