Jasmyn
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i am a 23year old single mom, i am currently on leave from work cause i had a baby not to long ago. i seem to keep running into Doms that are just wanting one night stands. or a sub to play with while their wife is not home. i am wanting to relocate to a new area yet when i meet a Dom they want to move in with me? i am just wondering if there is a Dom out there for me? i've been told its to much to ask to have a Dom that is with in ten years of my age but thats something i cant change so how do i handle being harassed all the time?
There is just so much in here that I want to comment on and for the life of me, I don't know where to even start!
You're 23.
You're on maternity leave
You're single
You're DATING?
Honey, you have a child to take care of, and you're sitting here saying that you need to find a DOMINANT?! That child is going to be - and SHOULD be - the biggest dominant in your life for the next few years.
You are that child's CHIEF protector, and yet, you are comtemplating MOVING - to live with someone you barely know - with your BABY?! Are you telling us that your desire to orgasm is outweighing your responsibilities to your CHILD?!
You need a SERIOUS reality check!
I know this is the holiday season and things can get downright depressing, but man! the very LAST thing you need in your life right now is a dominant! I'd suggest getting to know yourself and your baby enough so that you can stand on your own two feet. I can pretty much guarantee that as you do that, you will find more people who are interesting and who are interested in you. Right now, you're not looking for a dominant - as much as you'd like to believe and have us believe. You're looking for someone to save you from being alone. And alone is specifically what you need to learn how to handle.
So:
If you haven't already done so, start being productive - not in the mommyhood kind of way - and get yourself in school. FINISH. Get a job that will support the two of you. Start being independent and strong and all those things that single mothers have to be so that YOUR child will have the best start possible in her life.
And for goodness sake, realize that your priorities are - in this order: First: your child. Second: You - keeping yourself healthy so that you are able to protect him or her and provide for him or her and LASTLY: some dominant.
Looking for a dominant while on maternity leave smacks of looking for a wallet - and sounds like one from over here. To tell the truth, if I were a dominant - I'd be running hard - in the opposite direction.
And know what? I really TRIED to sugar coat this, but you need a good shaking just so that you start looking at life through a little reality based glasses.
No apologies given or qualifying statements to take the bite out of this. I'm sure you'll just discount it, but with a child, you damn well better not. That's not a doll you have there!!
juliet
Juliet you're way out of line saying this. She asked for advice on how to handle been harrassed by men she has come across to date, assuming largely from this website, and how to handle them in the future. From her statement that she is looking at relocating you made the leap that she was looking to relocate for a dom, when her words were "i am wanting to relocate to a new area yet when i meet a Dom they want to move in with me?" She questions the idea of moving in with a dom, yet through selective reading or stupidity, I'm not quite sure, that became you screeching "You are that child's CHIEF protector, and yet, you are comtemplating MOVING - to live with someone you barely know - with your BABY?! Are you telling us that your desire to orgasm is outweighing your responsibilities to your CHILD?!"
You then went on to suggest she gets herself an education and a job ... um what part of her opening post is your computer screen not showing for you, because it clearly states she is "on leave from work"... which leaves no doubt to the reader she has a farken job to return to if she wishes. And you further go on to insult her by telling her she's a gold digger looking for a wallet... so I'll say it again ... what part of her opening post is your computer screen not showing for you, because it clearly states she is "on leave from work"... which leaves no doubt to the reader she has a job to return to if she wishes.
Fark you where right when you said the holiday season is depressing ... reading your reply certainly depressed me.
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