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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/30/2006 1:14:57 PM   
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Wrap them tightly in plastic, immediately, do not refrigerate and fedex them  to:

Herman T. Furbisher
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Dismal Seepage, Iowa 55469

I will let you know if I am into it a little later


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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/30/2006 4:48:38 PM   
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I too was taught that if you say you want to talk to someone of a certain type then you owe someone of that type that responds to you a response.  If they say they are lesbian and I am straight I will not contact them but will reply.  At this time of year, I just add and have a happy holiday season.  But I do try to read the entire profile all the way through.  Sometimes when I write and am offerring advice, I will say no response is necessary. 

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/30/2006 5:00:21 PM   
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Courtesy runs both ways if you send someone an email asking about sex or bra size before  you even say hello you deserve no response. Does not matter this is a D/s site its not a sex site despite what some people think. So if you are rude you deserve not to get a response.

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/30/2006 5:04:49 PM   
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Very, very true!


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Yes and no.  Of course, it's easy to simply reply "Thanks, but no thanks" and I think a lot do try; however, it sometimes happens that those you've replied to find that "no thanks" reply as an invitation to "chat". 

Also, if it's apparent from the email that the person who contacted you either didn't read your profile or simply ignored it, then, why should I feel obligated to say no thanks?  I've (pretty much) already said it in my profile.

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 3:24:34 AM   
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Well thanks everyone, aspecially those ladies who've elaborated, for beating the tired old skinless nag once again, to help me fully understand.  As I haven't been here quite a year, have sent out enough notes of admiration to to get a bulk mail discount, had I used the USPS, and have recieved enough replies to make me feel certain the entire female submissive population here is surely illiterate, and possibly catatonic. Of course I now see how that is erroneous, and that they merely have little regard for anyone who may happen to be male who sits down and writes them so much as a few words of admiration  and if he, having the unmitigated gall to presume to do so, does, will be shown how they deal with fools such as he, as he must be taught that they simply don't,  won't , and are certain if they did, would surely regret it. And were he dumbass enough to complain, unfairly to their mind, of their inaction, will be taught the time honored lesson which has always been used: more of the same. Maybe it ain't pretty or popular, but all the subgals can vouch for it's effectiveness.

I've had a few kinky friends both male and female ask about cm, and I give them the link, with the disclaimer;

"Here you go. Have fun. But you won't. Unless your favorite pastime is ignoring folks, since thats the game there, and you may as well get a head start, cuz they're keeping score."

To the sub ladies interested in cm I just say:
"Damn, and I was starting to like you too..." or
"If I give you this link, you won't like men in a week"

They laugh, sign up, and don't. Rarely takes a week though. Had a few kill their profiles and ask me then,

 "Why do you stay at that site? it sucks"

Somewhat flabbergasted at first, I managed to come up with a standard reply:

"Any good Dom worth his whips needs an in-depth understanding of what it's like for a masochist, and trust me, Ive learned so much about it there, and discovered what it really means to have people who are unworthy to lick your browneye, treat you like dogshit" 

While not entirely truthful, suffice to say, it's been a humbling experience, and made me realize some illusions I'd had, were just plain silly, Like once believing that Dominants, by nature, had more class that the average man, and that submissives, were invariably interested in submitting.  Now I know you could search every trailer park and slum in the US, and not find men of such incremental class and stature as many "Doms" here. I also know If I want to actually have a sub, I've had a lot better success rate, subverting curious, adventurous vanilla gals, and of the "real" submissives here, attaining the surrender, of just one, while possible, will surely involve much time, best measured in dog years,  jumping through innumerable hoops, questionaires, and evaluations, quitting smoking and any sort of non-acceptable predilictions, losing the sense of humor which seems to annoy them so badly, and after passing whatever UA's, STD's, and background checks they require, might finally arrive at a face to face or 2, and at last get a chance to solve the chinese arithmetic connundrums they've prepared, and then a kobiachi maru scenario or 2 (a la star trek) and then maybe, just maybe, if I can remain positive, un-affected and definately not bitter (they really hate that!) by it all, will see the utter thrill of her finally saying;
"collarme."

Funny, when I first came here, I really thought this place would be an answer to prayer. being a fairly large and friendly enough group of my kind of people, on a reasonably good free site. Actually I had it almost right,  just backwards. It's more about sitting and waiting, praying for an answer.

But well, it is free, so I really can't bitch (but just did, sue me). Since I'm getting exactly what I paid for.

couldnt find my lol.
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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 3:19:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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ORIGINAL: gretchenS

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

How about women who; when I say on your knees bitch and start sucking----

Well, they don't even answer back?   How fuckin' rude is that, I ask you?

Ron



It's probably because her mouth is too full. I thought you figured that one out already.



Of what?  Mousepad?  Eclair? 

Ron



well, yeah... what else would I be talking about... what kind of slave you think I am...

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 5:48:53 PM   
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quote:

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greetings
 
I have been here for some time and recently I am experience as others here a lack of common politeness.  Okay, someone post a profile and gets responses.  Now, I can understand that if a message is vuglar and rude you do not want to reply.  However, if a message is a simple introduction of a person who is responding to your profile and you are not interested, don't you think a simple "Thank you but No Thank you" reply would be approiate?
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro


Fuck common courtesy.

Miss Manners never wrote a specific peice on common courtesy, and until she does....fuck 'em.

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 9:54:57 PM   
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quote:

Miss Manners never wrote a specific piece on common courtesy.


Actually, she wrote a whole book called Common Courtesy. The slender volume is the text of a lecture she gave at Harvard.


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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 9:57:01 PM   
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quote:

I just got one of those....the guy's first email to me was a one liner "may I have your email address".  He responded with, "well I guess that's a no".....then basically I told him why would I want to talk to someone that won't even greet me with a simple "hello"   I then received the patented "fuck you bitch"  then he blocked me


That's appalling. Is that a common experience for women at CM?

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 9:57:13 PM   
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i think courtesy died out with disco and 8-track tapes...LOL

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 12/31/2006 10:17:05 PM   
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Dismal Seepage, Iowa 55469


That's where my folks went for their honeymoon.

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 1:35:19 AM   
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I'm with you on this Nosathro, i ALWAYS send a reply, even if its just a 'thanks but no thanks', and often get a reply back with 'thanks for taking the time to reply'.

I realise not everyone is at my level of courtesy, many are, in my opinion, sadly lacking. I simply look on them as self weeding, they save me time, by proclaiming their lack of manners straight up.

However as many of the women on here have stated, the men often abuse us if we reply back that we arn't interested. Either via email on here, or in chat rooms etc. Many times have i been called a whore or a slut because i WON'T put out, or show on cam.

Unfortunatly, particularly on the net, forums, chat rooms etc, are a breeding ground for rudeness, with people hiding behind their keyboards.

twistedwillow
edited for found typos

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 6:20:23 AM   
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quote:

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Miss Manners never wrote a specific piece on common courtesy.


Actually, she wrote a whole book called Common Courtesy. The slender volume is the text of a lecture she gave at Harvard.




(Well, of course, I presumed we were specifically excluding anything regards Harvard).

Oooops :)

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 9:36:09 AM   
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greetings twistedwillow
 
Grammacy...nice to know I am not alone on this.
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 10:06:23 AM   
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I will be honest, since joining here I have gotten more insulting mail than I had ever received in a lifetime. Now, instead of answering them back I just delete after reading them. Now, with the way my life is going, I am getting the inevitable 'oh you poor thing mail' all of which adds up to 'talk to me and Ill convince you to fuck me " mail.
 
Most of the mail I get is deleted before I even read it, unless it happens to be a person who I have known since joining here. I just can't deal anymore with the idiots who abound here.

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 1:23:46 PM   
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Could I interest anyone in a slice of cheesecake?

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 1:33:02 PM   
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I'd love a slice, would you like a cup of coffee? :)

I can never understand the people who think they've discovered the land of milk and honey because it's bdsm world.  Maybe the problem doesn't lie with finding the right people, but more with being the right people?

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 1:36:24 PM   
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i think courtesy died out with disco and 8-track tapes...LOL

 
I think you right.
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro

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RE: What happen to courtesy? - 1/1/2007 1:41:49 PM   
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Tal Tigresse
 
Ah..if you have it..Blueberry and blackwyne, second slave would be nice.
 
I wish you well
 
Nosathro

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