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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 2:30:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren


I (and many others) have tried to offer him suggestions.  However, it's become clear that his aim isn't what he says it is.  In reality, I think he gets off on pity and the posts have been supporting him.

In my opinion, he needs to get out... both of the closet and of the house.  However, it's not going to happen as long as he's happy being the pity queen.


So true Sir. We have also offered him advise, even to the point of providing information about ways to get to Atlanta (soooo far away from him) and other even closer locations to meet real folks.

When will we get to see you again?




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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 2:32:51 PM   
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Michael, you have been given tons of good advice, all of which you skillfully deflect.



Your giving a lot of credit for the 'skillfully' part.

~grin~



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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 2:36:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I just wonder if such problems are really caused by the fact that you simply cannot live up to an unrealistically high level of self evaluation.. Harsh comment I know but is it true ? Only a searingly honest look at yourself will reveal if it has any merit.

Maybe it would be better to achieve more say in the 3rd division rather than fail in the 2nd.

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 3:13:45 PM   
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quote:

getting around town is almost impossible for me. 

but not completely  impossible

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 3:43:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Elegant

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren


I (and many others) have tried to offer him suggestions.  However, it's become clear that his aim isn't what he says it is.  In reality, I think he gets off on pity and the posts have been supporting him.

In my opinion, he needs to get out... both of the closet and of the house.  However, it's not going to happen as long as he's happy being the pity queen.


So true Sir. We have also offered him advise, even to the point of providing information about ways to get to Atlanta (soooo far away from him) and other even closer locations to meet real folks.

When will we get to see you again?


Libby and I are planning on attending Orlando Bash this year.  The only other presentation we'll be doing is in Washington State.  Like Al put it "I try to get out and they keep pulling me back in.

We're looking forward to seeing both of you again.  You're cute and it's fun hashing out old war stories with someone else who has seen the elephant.

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 7:07:29 PM   
NeedToUseYou


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Status: offline 		If I get depressed I also watch how bad others have it. Seriously, it will make you feel sorry for others than your own situation.

Anyway, this one is about starving kids in N. Korea. It's depressing, but when compared to our little problems we let get to us, it shows we really have very little to be depressed about most of the time. A good life is all relative to what you are judging against.

http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-6951629397402742053&q=N+korea&hl=en

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 7:11:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		I feel much the same way.  When I get depressed, I think about how lucky I am to have my health, my home, my kids, my Dom (not necessarily in that order) and I tend to feel a bit better.

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 7:24:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i know some here will probably flame me for this, but i'm gonna post it anyway

i have been so under stress lately that i can't even think straight. so many things going on lately that my anxiety is very high. nothing seems to help. i just want to scream at the top of my lungs.

anyone else here ever get this way?



Of course.

(But the full frontal 6 hour stretches of masturbation largely solve my dillemma).

Now, I have to admit...on the other hand...the $377.00 a month expense for Vaseline really fuck with things.

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 8:43:49 PM   
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the $377.00 a month expense for Vaseline really fuck with things.


Didn't you use the Sam's Club coupon I sent you? It was in the box with the brownies.



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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 8:52:40 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i know some here will probably flame me for this, but i'm gonna post it anyway

i have been so under stress lately that i can't even think straight. so many things going on lately that my anxiety is very high. nothing seems to help. i just want to scream at the top of my lungs.

anyone else here ever get this way?



Of course.

(But the full frontal 6 hour stretches of masturbation largely solve my dillemma).

Now, I have to admit...on the other hand...the $377.00 a month expense for Vaseline really fuck with things.
Well shoot!..you can always try bacon grease...first off you get a meal in between masturbatory delights! and then back to your full frontal...however ..please...before you do so...make sure bacon grease has had time to cool off...unless of course "hot" grease is your thang!..~g~...Tempting

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/2/2007 9:04:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		when the world is just more than I can take I turn the ringer off on the phones rent a bunch of old movies from the libary as they are free get my fav. junk food climb into bed with harry my lion and comfort my teddy bear pull the covers over us and watch TV for the weekend . no stress no worries then go back to reality late sunday night to prepare for the world on monday. 

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/3/2007 11:14:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		I get this way all the time.  I haven't found a way to shake that feeling like I'm right on the edge of a total meltdown.

Yesterday morning, I was in a major funk, like I had broken glass running through my veins.  So, after I got my kids off to school, I put eminem in the cd player, went out to the interstate, and turned it up loud enough so it felt like someone was beating me on the head. Then I starting driving fast and just let my thoughts go.  It didn't make the feeling go away, but it gave me a way to express it, if vicariously.

Thanks for asking. :)





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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/3/2007 12:44:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		This thread actually got me out of bed at 5am to write a response as it has been going around in my mind for a few hours now.

Michael I reread your OP and I see that you were not asking for advice but rather were asking if others have ever felt the way you feel at the moment.  The short answer is yes, I imagine that most people at some stage or another feel that they are at the end of their tether.  So you are not alone in feeling like that.

Now plenty of people have provided suggestions based upon their own experiences of what has helped them however you have explained in great detail why so many of these ideas are not do-able for you.  Have you any ideas about what will help you through these periods?  What are the things that you can do Michael? What are the things that you are willing to do?

I will post the link to an Australian website which has a range of self-paced programmes for people who experience social anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, panic attacks, low self esteem and worrying thoughts.  Can I please ask you to do a favour not for me but for yourself and at the very least have a read through the packages, maybe something in there will be helpful and do-able by you and  for you.

http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/resources/consumers.cfm

Under the resources section there is a whole lot of PDF’s for consumers and you can print them out and work through them at your leisure.  These are basic cognitive behavioural techniques for the most part and the reality is that they are not a quick fix but more a possible pathway for you in the future.  Feel free to email me on the other side if you want to discuss these further.

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 3:05:13 AM   
mons


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yes and i take medicine for my stress you need to see someone there is not shame go fast i was ready to scream many times this week and the month if you can go to your doctor you do no have to feel this way at all

i wish you luck
mons

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 7:44:23 PM   
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just a helpful thought

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 7:48:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: michaelOfGeorgia

i feel like continually beating my head against a brick wall...if i could find one


I have one job where I can vent my frustrations at people in all sorts of ridiculously obnoxious ways,
and they kick me in the head and the groin as hard as they can.

I get paid for it.

Keep a happy heart, Michael, you will get through this.

Sinergy

p.s. on a related note, what I figured out years ago when things started to drag me down was to start writing them down with lots of space between the items, and then start to break down (chunking, to use a word from computer engineering) each item into a bunch of tasks or items which can be accomplished.


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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 10:06:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm curious, Michael... what do you think is the source of your problems (stress, anxiety, depression, etc.)

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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 10:27:48 PM   
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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 10:55:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Michael, you are one of the sweetest men that I have met..I cannot tell you how many times you have put a smile on my face even when I couldn't make the tears stop...being there for me when noone else had time to listen to me rant on...you are truly the greatest...
 
As we walk our path of life,
We meet people everyday.
Most are simply met by chance.
But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends
Whose bond we can't explain;
The ones who understand us
And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries.
So, even we are apart.
Their presence enhances us
With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway,
When even the miles disappear.
And so, these friends, God sends our way,
Remain forever near.


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RE: Heading for a breakdown - 1/4/2007 10:57:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		i'm fully aware that my response is going to sound trite here (so PLEASE don't flame me for it)...

However Michael, while all that Your question asked was weather or not we've felt this way (which i have) i think many people have made a valid point.  And it's this: only You have the power to change the way that You can feel/ look at things. Since You are so adamant about the inefficiency of medication and therapists, i guess the power all lies in your hands... So, here's my suggestion (the trite part i'm afraid).. Make a list of 50 things You are grateful for.. If You wont come up with 50, then You are not looking very hard... In addition make a list of 30 positives about yourself...
i know for me, this complexly change my focus and my perception of things.
Good luck...

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