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Oh my - 2/28/2005 7:58:44 AM

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:10:41 AM

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I completely understand where you are coming from...

I went to this site on breast bondage, and OMG!! I was cringing and holding my poor frightened boobies...

I really don't think I can get into the realllly extreme stuff.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:16:54 AM

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:21:44 AM

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OK, "you're sheltered!"

People do some mighty unusual things to each other. People get equally unusual things done to themselves. What you are describing sounds like some fairly heavy play, not some spontaneous idea for a fun evening. In some ways, it may help to think of it as a cultural thing. Tattooing, 20 years ago, was very unusual. Aghast people used to look at tattoos and wonder how could you let someone mark you for life, or what kind of freak are you? Now? Ink hardly raises an eyebrow.

Speaking for myself, I would never try to involve someone in something that they don't have any interest in. If it's not your thing, you should never allow anyone to push you into it either.

Be well!

Edited, cause hooked on phonics didn't work for me.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:22:22 AM

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I have been perusing sites trying to learn what I can about this lifestyle and have to admit that some of it makes me cringe too, but I know that some people really get off on it so I say "hey, why not?"

Extreme pain would definitely not be my thing, but sensual pain, THAT is another story

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:35:23 AM

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RiotGirl,
even better than seeing a picture or description on the web is to actually witness extreme play in person. this slave highly recommends it--WOW what a rush!!!! this slave has had to ask Master if we could step outside and get a breath of fresh air and re-compose herself more than once! some of the things this slave has witnessed have been very shocking, but for some, THAT is whole or part of their fetish---to shock others. some of the things Master does with His slave would be considered by some to be shocking and extreme and still others will think the same thing is tame compared to what they do!!!! Yes, we are all freaks, and the degree and variety of freakiness is a fantastic thing to witness--wouldn't it be sad if the only flavor of ice cream was vanilla?

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:40:14 AM

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I have been thinking about going to a play party beth, but I really don't even know where to get started... plus I would be going on my own.. so there is the "scared little girl" factor to deal with. Any suggestions you could make?

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:41:26 AM

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think Riot Girl was at the farm. tolerances increase, attitudes change, and limits expand to point there are none as time in scene increases. What i thought was horrendous years ago has become somehat of an every day thing.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 8:46:19 AM

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Or maybe i'm the only one who didnt?

I don't think that you are the only one by far RiotGirl. We have been told on occasion that our "play" sometimes freaks people out....and we generally save the more extreme stuff like sewing up body parts for home! I guess it is all based upon the perspective and the experience level of the viewer. I know that like beth, I have seen some stuff that has really made me feel a bit on the queasy side. Then again, some stuff that might make others queasy I consider pretty tame . If you had told me 25 years ago I would ever be doing some of the stuff we do today, I would have told you that you were nuts. It's amazing how limits grow and change.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:05:56 AM

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:11:14 AM

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Welcome to the darker/extreme side of kink.

It's not all roses and silks.

Like I said, if you can IMAGINE it, people out there are DOING it and very happy about it.

There's a reason some people are referred to as "fluffy."

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:14:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: quietkitten

I have been thinking about going to a play party beth, but I really don't even know where to get started... plus I would be going on my own.. so there is the "scared little girl" factor to deal with. Any suggestions you could make?

Remind yourself that whatever is going on is because the people involved decided it would.

Remind yourself of where the exit is at any time you want to leave- there's nothing wrong in deciding you don't want to be a part of a type of scene.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:34:08 AM

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well it may or may not make you feel any better, but I got what you meant.... not all of us are completely jaded.

Just a reminder that not everyone has the same amount of experience here you know folks.. Some of these things are entirely new to us, and we have a moment where we have a bit of shock to overcome. I am not the least bit apologetic about it either...

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:42:59 AM

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ORIGINAL: quietkitten
I am not the least bit apologetic about it either...

There is something called tact.

I am not saying that this post is tactless, though I would suggest that it is usually considered good behaviour for those with less experience to quietly and politely watch and learn from those with more.

Asking questions should always be encouraged. Shouting "OMG, that is just something I never even considered possible before," however, could be taken the wrong way, by some.

This doesn't just apply to BDSM.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:48:17 AM

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Maybe you don't understand that not all of us were born knowing everything there is to know. The only way we can understand and learn sometimes is by asking the embarassing questions. Sorry that I don't have enough tact for you, but I have been momentarily shocked by the some of the things that I have heard and seen at some points in time.
Perhaps you would be kind enough to write me up a guide on behaviour in here because I don't read minds.
I can't apologize for not knowing all there is to know about this lifestyle.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:54:03 AM

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I have been thinking about going to a play party beth, but I really don't even know where to get started... plus I would be going on my own.. so there is the "scared little girl" factor to deal with. Any suggestions you could make?

this slave found it impossible to even FIND a play party on her own! this slave has always attended any event such as that with Master...and He was an indispensable part of the excursion!!! It was His hand or arm that this slave gripped, His ear that this slave whispered excitedly into, His mind and experience that answered this slave's incredulous questions, His smile that soothed this slave and the security and safety that this slave felt at the end of His leash was relied upon to make it through the scary bits!!! This slave wouldn't know how to make it to a first play party without at least a friend, if not Master, to go with. How about attending a munch first and making some friends that could go with you?

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:54:04 AM

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I can't apologize for not knowing all there is to know about this lifestyle.

quietkitten,
None of us know all there is to know and anyone who tells you he does is only kidding himself. It's perfectly ok to ask the embarassing questions and even perfectly ok to be kinda shocked by some things. I mean we all started somewhere after all.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:56:46 AM

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Thank you erin, I appreciate your support.

Being a complete virgin at this I have the nasty habit of (god forbid!) saying something stupid on occasion. It's nice to know that not everyone is grading me on my posts.

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 9:58:10 AM

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A munch might be a good place for me to start.

Thank you for the suggestion!

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RE: Oh my - 2/28/2005 10:11:26 AM

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