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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 10:07:44 AM   
michaelOfGeorgia


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Collarme is no exception to this, it happens everywhere.


and far too often too. sometimes i wonder if it's all worth it...maybe someday i'll find out if it is or not


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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 10:48:15 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Mike, you don't leave the house enough to have a shot at getting dumped.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 10:58:46 AM   
stef


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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:01:01 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Some days you're the dumpee and some days you're the dumper.
That's life.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:29:45 AM   
dvart


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Status: offline 		But my point was that ordinarily decent human beings quite often don't behave decently when they are online.

I just don't feel that people THINK about the consequences of their actions. Its a bit like the difference between killing someone with a knife and dropping a bomb from 20,000 feet. People think that the distance gives them licence and absolves them from responsibility.

I agree with you that some people will behave that way and you have to expect it, but that doesn't mean that I have to agree or that I can't object.

If you don't PROTEST nothing ever changes. Of Course it may not change anyway, but you have to try.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:33:34 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: dvart
If you don't PROTEST nothing ever changes. Of Course it may not change anyway, but you have to try.

Of course.  But what you're proposing is something akin to protesting that 2 year olds get messy when they eat mac & cheese.

This really isn't a case where I think protesting will cause any difference at all.  The best method I've seen to incur change is to be the best example personally that you can to others and be very picky in who you bring into your voluntary circle of people. 

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:43:37 AM   
SweetCaleigh


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We had been chatting for weeks, we got on really well, lots of text messages,   
phone calls each day, online chatting. There were many miles inbetween us
but we thought it was worth the effort for we had a certain chemisty.    
We decided to meet to see if we had that chemistry face to face, we did. 
We had a wondeful time and decided to go forward into a D/s                
relationship together. We were chatting of limits and boundries ...
while being open and honest i mentioned that i enjoyed penetrative sex,
he became very objectional and left the conversation, i then received an
e-mail saying goodbye, i am so upset we had so many plans.
Do Doms usually leave their would be sub so very easily?
Maybe i just wasnt worth the effort :-( . My profile is not active
we both decided to deactivate and i am not ready to put mine back
yet. I would appreciate some advice. Thank you.


This may seem cold... but are you sure it was a guy?? 
 
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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:44:54 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		Sub and Dominants, heck all people get dumped or left after weeks, months and years for no apparent reason. It is a fact of life. Just because t's a BDSM relationship really makes no difference.

Things can be going wonderfully and suddenly one or the other has a change of heart. Why? millions of reasons. You might find out why and you might not. Unless both people are content with the other it's not going to work. That's just he way it is.

Move on and hope to eventually find someone that does want all the same things you do.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:45:06 AM   
karensa


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the replies. Celeste43 i have a feeling you may
be right - it crossed my mind that he may be impotent - maybe
that would account for his sharp exit.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:47:32 AM   
karensa


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Status: offline 		Yes, we met last week and had a great time.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:52:41 AM   
dvart


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

But what you're proposing is something akin to protesting that 2 year olds get messy when they eat mac & cheese.

Absolutely not.

2 year olds haven't developed yet developed the social skills, adults are supposed to have them.

2 year olds don't have a choice but adults do. Adults should be responsible, but the guy who upset the OP was simply being mean, nasty and LAZY.

Perhaps we should be able to rate people, like they do on Ebay.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 11:54:57 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: dvart
2 year olds don't have a choice but adults do. Adults should be responsible, but the guy who upset the OP was simply being mean, nasty and LAZY.

And you think protesting is going to do anything about it?  It's as pointless as telling a 2yo to stop being messy.

Of course people can change, but they won't just because you protest against them.
quote:


Perhaps we should be able to rate people, like they do on Ebay.

We do that every day in our choice in who to bring into our voluntary social circles.

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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 1:01:52 PM   
littlesarbonn


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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We do that every day in our choice in who to bring into our voluntary social circles.


Those social circles are voluntary??? You mean we can control them??? I now see where I've been making my mistake.


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RE: Dumped - 1/18/2007 1:37:53 PM   
Siona


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ORIGINAL: karensa

Yes, we met last week and had a great time.


Then it's safe to assume there was no sexual contact.

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RE: Dumped - 1/22/2007 5:24:50 AM   
Nimkii


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Status: offline 		My personal fave is oh yes I agree with your views on things and how things should be done. then when the set foot into real life and away from the keyboard all the rules change. seems they run when you are actully going to do what you talked about providing they manage to keep your interest

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RE: Dumped - 1/24/2007 6:48:40 AM   
BreatheinToMe


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Status: offline 		And no one thought of  "he was married?"

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RE: Dumped - 1/24/2007 7:17:00 AM   
TigressOfDs


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ORIGINAL: BreatheinToMe

And no one thought of  "he was married?"


Breatherin   
I didn't think "married" because married men who are cheating don't normally disappear when sex is offered.
I would place my bet on the inability to have "penetrative" sex .
 
Ms. Kat

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 2:44:38 PM   
desires2


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Status: offline 		Hmmmm...sounds to me like you are lucky to be free of him...*sheesh*...Good luck to you..~smiles~

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 2:57:52 PM   
Donnalee


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Breatherin   
I didn't think "married" because married men who are cheating don't normally disappear when sex is offered.
I would place my bet on the inability to have "penetrative" sex .


That one gets my vote.  It could be a million possibilities, but when I see the sales charts for Viagra, I'm surprised at how common a problem it is....and that only shows the ones who are willing to deal with it.  Maybe you ran across a fellow who hasn't?

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 3:59:53 PM   
Solinear


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ORIGINAL: TigressOfDs
Breatherin   
I didn't think "married" because married men who are cheating don't normally disappear when sex is offered.
I would place my bet on the inability to have "penetrative" sex .
 
Ms. Kat


My bet is that he has an eety beety weeny and the thought of having to satisfy a woman sexually with intercourse is a traumatic idea.

Maybe not unable, but possibly unable to 'close the deal', if you prefer.

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