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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 5:41:11 PM

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How do you do a search to see what other posts they have.

Some of you I really enjoy what you have to say..would love to know how to search to read them all..

can't figure it out.

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 5:42:57 PM

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My cat is a good listener, though, so it's ok, even if scientists have now determined that it's no longer therapeutic for me to hug and pat him.

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cats are the best...always pet and hug him....and talk to him....animals are the only thing in life that won't hurt you or let you down.

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 7:40:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: Solinear

My bet is that he has an eety beety weeny and the thought of having to satisfy a woman sexually with intercourse is a traumatic idea.

Maybe not unable, but possibly unable to 'close the deal', if you prefer.

I would assume most adult males realize you don't have to be hung like godzilla to satisfy a woman.

Buddy of mine is one of the smallest men I know and he's never had trouble with the girls ever.

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 9:15:12 PM

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"But my point was that ordinarily decent human beings quite often don't behave decently when they are online."

and the opposite is true, or "twue", too.

there are other reasons men disappear.

If they pride themselves on their job/position in life, and that is suddenly taken away, they have a hard time telling their families; why think they would tell a woman they barely know? Look at the jobs nixed by Ford this week.

Sometimes they have someone dear to them that has suffered a horrible medical sertback (often lethal), again, ala the "things you are not entitled to know/personal questions" thread, they do not have to tell you that, nor should thay, no offense. even if they are a male and a dom, that is THEIR relationship that might be killing them, even if you are feeling "dumped", you still have no right to know about such things, sorry. Even people whom have tied each other up and fucked for an hour have still not "been together" enough to be entitled to such info.

There are many other such reasons, and again, just because you as the other person WANT to know them does not mean you have a RIGHT to know them. Sorry, but you don't.

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RE: Dumped - 1/28/2007 10:07:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha

I would assume most adult males realize you don't have to be hung like godzilla to satisfy a woman.

Buddy of mine is one of the smallest men I know and he's never had trouble with the girls ever.

Sex for men is 10% physical, 10% emotional and 80% mental.

I know of a lot of smaller men who can finish the job... I've also heard of a lot more who have serious inferiority complexes and couldn't handle that last part (mental) to save their lives. An ex girlfriend of mine told me "A small man can be just as good as a big man... they just have to work harder". Not that I disagree or agree, but I'm pretty sure that she was speaking from experience... primarily because she said that she was. But if the guy thinks that he can't do it because of size (and let's be real, porn has given most guys a certain level of inferiority complex, with guys that have 10-14" penises), then he probably can't.

(edit: Note - I'm giving most men the benefit of the doubt on the 10% emotional, it's mainly just an approximate average though, so don't harass me about it)

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RE: Dumped - 2/1/2007 3:51:39 PM

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Yeah. Sometimes we never know.

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RE: Dumped - 2/1/2007 5:51:41 PM

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I address this to both Dvart and karensa,
karensa I sure you don't want to be told you're better off but it is true and you will learn it someday. If this had happened in the vanilla world would you ask if all men were like this. Of course not, not all Doms behave that badly and there were probably many red flags that you probably ignored. Why do so many vanilla marriages fail? Because people generally don't talk about all the different aspects of combining lives from sex to toothpaste caps. Seems like you hadn't talked about how compatible you would be together in expectations of sex, maybe how to play, etc. This guy doesn't seem to be worth the level of mourning your doing. Find a real Dominant soon and move on........and up.
Dvart I know what you are feeling as I've been there as well. Truth is courtesy is in decline everywhere. Just remember that all you had invested was time and you found out their true nature in time.

Find people in the local scene, show you are a quality Dominant and they may help you find someone long term by being a reference, etc.

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RE: Dumped - 2/1/2007 6:41:27 PM

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If you can, hook up with his best friend, or his brother...or better yet, his father. That'll ruffle some feathers.

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RE: Dumped - 2/1/2007 7:34:19 PM

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To the OP...and maybe it was just a simple matter of it was not a good "fit"....he had one viewpoint on what he wanted and you another....find your "fit"....Tempting

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RE: Dumped - 2/3/2007 4:45:11 AM

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There seems to be a mix of different types of people seeking different things.....
I have been emailing One for over four months and this week, He wrote within His journal that He found a wonderful new slave and it was not me....
Having lived within a poly family for many years, the pain was not that He had found another as much as the truth not being said.
I wonder why people seem to find lies a way of life here online when in all of my dealings all of these years, it was stressed about the TRUTH and TRUST?

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RE: Dumped - 2/10/2007 2:30:47 AM

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greetings

he is not for you if he was agaisnt sex and ran that fast as someone said before he had a peanut for a organ, that had to be it you so much better off without the bum

take care ( do not hurt so much it will pass )
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